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Hi HWU,

I am glad that you posted, but so sorry for the way you are feeling. First of all, go back to counseling. They can help you so much. Most of us go to therapy on a regular basis. You probably wouldn't be feeling this way if you had continued with the therapy. I am not kidding, it really helps. Make that call.

Honestly I think these people will not bother you in college. Usually people take college more seriously because they have to pay for it. It isn't like high school. Hopefully these idiots will have matured some and wont act the same way as they did. If they do, you can most likely press charges against them. I am really sorry that you went through this. I was a victim to bullying, it is like a nightmare.

Most of all, know that it isn't you. It is them. Normal people don't go around hurting other people. It is a different breed altogether. I hate people that are like that. But I believe in karma. What goes around comes around and they will all get theirs someday. I have seen it happen. You will too.

Don't stress about looks. It is a proven fact that people see things and are attracted to different things. What you don't like about yourself, somebody else may find it attractive. Don't obsess about your looks. You will only dislike it more and more when you look at yourself too much. Everybody is beautiful. We are all individuals with talents of our very own.

When you go to counseling, you will learn to love yourself like you should. Looks are so superficial. It is what is inside a person that counts. It is your personality, your knowledge, your self esteem. I can see your self esteem is low. Until you can get hooked up with counseling, get this book called "feeling good" by Dr. David Burns. Also known as "the new mood therapy". It is a very good book about cognitive behavioral therapy. It has helped many people. You can get it on amazon for about six dollars.

When you start college, you need to put everything you have into school and learning. Stop worrying about these people, I am really sure that they will not bother you. If they do, you will get through it.

Do things to strengthen yourself, such as getting that book and making an appointment for counseling. It isn't that far of a reach to begin feeling better about yourself. I promise you, you will see yourself differently too.

Take care HWU. Keep posting because it really does help.

Hugs, Karen

HWU,

Karen and Carl are right. Therapy can empower you to believe in yourself and not care about what bullies think.

It will teach you to stand up for yourself and take the power away from the bullies. When we react to the bullies we give them more power. You will find the confidence through therapy not to feed into their silliness.

You seem like a bright and intuitive person, I think you know what you need to do so you will succeed. resources are available to you, please use them.

I wish you peace and strength, and you are welcome to keep posting here, we listen and support the best we can.

Trina

Is it a nice day where you are? You might want to go for a walk outside if it is nice. That is what I do to make myself feel better. Exercise is good for you. The endorphines and seratonin levels go up. It is a way that you can help yourself to feel better. Do it for you.

Have a nice day!!!


Hugs, Karen