Posted 7/2/2013 1:11 PM (GMT 0)
Recently I've been feeling rather trapped. I have been made to move to a city that I am not particularly fond of because of my son.
The thing is I do most of (on paper it's 56%, but in reality it's more than that.) the child care of my son. I do school runs, after school activities, homework, play with him, organise playdates, and now I take over sunday morning as well. So in summary she has friday 6pm - 8pm, Sat whole day, and Sunday 1pm - 8pm with him. That's just about 24 hours with my son... Suffice to say, I pretty much looks like the primary care person to him.
Now, I'm in a pretty depressive state with the fact that I felt trapped in this city, there's nothing much to look forward to, the future of the state looks bleak. The economy of the state is going downhill. I don't have many friends, and making them seems quite tough and hard, I've tried internet, social clubs, I'm still coming up short when it comes to having more friends.
On the other hand, I know if I move to another state/ city there are people who has already told me they would help me with child care and help me get on my feet again, but I know this is not going to be possible because the ex will say no, and it'll end up costing me money because she'll demand that he'll spend holidays with her or vice versa. This kinda put me in a lose - lose situation. I wish life is somewhat simpler.