As unfortunate as it seems, I take solace in knowing I’m not alone. I’ve been with my wife for 8 years, married the last 4 but we have been separated for the previous year. Her life hasn’t shaped up the way she had dreamed it would, and after a degree, and a masters degree, she’s still working the same job she had before. We thought starting a family was the next step in life – but that only pushed her into a deep depression when she didn’t get pregnant and she spent more and more time away from home. She eventually started acting like a spoiled teenager and became very unreliable, selfish, and distant. The way she acted towards me was very hurtful and pushed me into a depression. It was only a matter of time until I came home one day and she had moved out. She stoped taking her meds, she stopped seeing her counsellor, and she’s been living on the beach like a 20 yr old without a care in the world while I’m at home paying the bills and the mortgage. It’s a good thing she didn’t get pregnant or we would be in a real mess. I’m giving her separation agreement papers tomorrow. It’s the most difficult period of my life so far…I love her…but she is not the woman i married and I don’t think she has any intention of helping herself get back to where she was happy and healthy. Her instinct is to run away and I’ve no choice left but to let her. I hope and pray she can find herself and make a decision soon – I just hope it wont be too late.