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Posted 1/11/2014 7:11 AM (GMT 0)
Next month on the 22 will be 1 year to the day since I lost my only Uncle and second Dad.

I tried to talk about him today and I completely lost it...
I have talked about him before but mostly with family and my really close friend.

I am still very upset. I miss him like crazy everyday day but I feel like such a fool to cry over the loss still.

We had our first Thanksgiving and Christmas without him and I was okay although I thought of him.

Now it seems like I have lost him all over again and even as I type I tear up or cry.

I think of an article that the thing he was married to did not too long after he died about being homeless and alls I can think is that she killed him and if she didnt then maybe she would have a roof over her head.

I cant prove she killed him but I know she did because he was sick and she didnt feel she should have to care for him.

My heart is breaking and depression has its black cloud over my head..

The rain will pour out soon as the date comes closer, just 5 days before I turn 29. My birthday is meaningless now, I miss him and getting passed that pain seems to be the hardest thing that I have ever tried to do.
Posted 1/11/2014 9:23 AM (GMT 0)
oh missjd. you are grieving. those important moments like xmas make it hard. please know that he is forever with you and in your heart. i send warm healing prayers to you.
Posted 1/11/2014 1:36 PM (GMT 0)
MissJD, I'm sorry about your uncle's passing. As Jamie said, special occasion makes it harder. I think I'm going through something like this too with my dad. Sometimes we feel alright but then it just hits us and keeps happening from time to time.

Hang in there. It takes time to pass. We're here for you. I hope you will feel better. Just think and remember that he is in a better place and he's happy.

UA
Posted 1/11/2014 3:01 PM (GMT 0)
MissJD .......

   It's tough to get thru a deep loss - and saying time will help doesn't help you much right now.

   Maybe some day, you can think of the relationship with your Uncle as having been one of your luckier relationships - because you were so close and that, in itself, is a blessing and a joy.

   I was raised by my Stepfather and he passed at a fairly young age 18-years ago. This past season, when the Chicago Bulls were on tv with all of their injuries ..... I couldn't help but think of the times we watched the Bulls together (in the Michael Jordan years) ..... and I just smiled - then thought - Pop, I miss you! But they were good thoughts - and not filled with sorrow.

   You'll be there some day with your Uncle.

Take care.

Rob & Gizmo

 

Posted 1/11/2014 8:27 PM (GMT 0)
I see nothing dumb in your post. Only grief. Perhaps a grief/loss support group would be a good idea. Give yourself some compassion, you deserve it.

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 1/11/2014 8:38 PM (GMT 0)
My uncle died on April 1 last year. We had our first holidays without him and they were hard. Some things we've done that helps a little are community projects. We adopted the highway where he died and we clean it. We donated Christmas presents to underprivileged kids in his name. Maybe your family can find something he would have enjoyed that you can do as a tribute to him. We also made a photo album of him for his son so he'd always remember his daddy

Those memories are hard because you miss him. Those memories are good, though. Share them with people. Sharing them shares the memory of your uncle. He lives in your memories. I won't say it gets easier, because I haven't experienced that yet. I will say that the memories become more happy as time passes.
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