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Posted 1/16/2014 8:54 PM (GMT 0)
Yes I cut corners to help families qualify for less than 6 home loans back in 2006 and now they came and arrested me and want me to go to jail for 37 months and owe 744,000 in restitution. I am a former high school English teacher that got the bright idea to go into the mortgage industry and now as a convicted felon awaiting sentencing in March I feel so low and as if I am disappearing.
My lovely partner and I got married and she says she will stand by me through this incarceration but I am so full of sadness, anger, fear, and broken dreams that I just have a hard time even enjoying my current freedom (out on bond with an ankle bracelet)
I am just hoping for some advice and warmth and hope. I constantly think back as to why I left teaching and I try to forgive the person that named me in this case to try on save her from more jail time.
Posted 1/16/2014 10:17 PM (GMT 0)
HI there,

And welcome to the depression forum.

I am sorry for what you are going through. It stands to reason that you would be depressed. Have you talked to a counselor or a doctor about it? I think that would help you a lot. If you have the option for counseling while you are doing time, I would go for it.

I would imagine that what you are going through is very difficult. I would recommend living in the moment, and taking life one day at a time. Keep in contact with your wife as much as you can as she will probably be your life line...

I am sorry I don't have more advice. Know we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen...

PS Try to stay in the moment. Mindfulness...
Posted 1/17/2014 5:28 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much Karen - so I do try to stay present and practice mindfulness.. reading Pema Chodron and thich nat hahn ..I have alot of anxiety and sadness ..hoping to work through it.
Posted 1/17/2014 6:34 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to the forum. Well I was going to recommend those 2 authors to you, so you are on the right track to surviving the 37 months. Plus you might get out early with good behavior, have your lawyer fight for early parol.!

We all make mistakes in life. Sorry yours must interrupt the flow. Hang on to the love of your partner and know that she will be there at the end for a new beginning.

Peace
Trina
Posted 1/17/2014 6:49 PM (GMT 0)
Awesome on the books. You have a good mind set. You just got to endure the time. Stay busy and focused.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 1/17/2014 6:53 PM (GMT 0)
There may be something you can do to help you in front of the judge. Ask your lawyer about community service, volunteer work, or programs that are available.

Take it day by day. Enjoy the freedom you have right now by doing enjoyable activities with your family and friends. Maybe speak to them about letter writing while you're away. There are books that explain how jail will be. They can help rid you of some fear while educating you about the changes. Seeking out a therapist would be a good idea, too. A good therapist can help you learn how to cope with everything. I'd even suggest it for your partner.
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