Trusting

I do not wish to go into any actual details right now, so I hope you will understand. I feel betrayed and very hurt emotionally since something was said recently. I will say it was not by anyone real close to me but now i do not feel I can trust anyone who is not really close to me. How do you learn to trust again? Alot of times all i want to do is cry because of this. I have never been in a similar situation.

Anyone have any suggestions?

Yes, this happens in life. The only thing you can do is learn from it.

You can never control what other people will do or say, we can only control our reactions to their actions. Show our character and move on.

This is where healthier boundries are built. Not walls, just boundries, we all learn the hard way sometimes.

Peace
Trina

It's interesting. I used to be very outgoing and open. (Stop laughin' all yawl). My first marriage ended badly in 2000, with a betrayal, and massive amounts of lying on his part and looking the other way on mine. Not purposely, mind you, but I will say that I gave him much more leeway than he deserved.

I note that afterward, I am not so open and friendly. I notice that it is harder for me to open up to someone and be a friend.

It's true as Trina said, we don't have control of others, just ourselves. Trust is one of those things we have to take on faith, and it's either rewarded or punished. Unfortunately, this starts to construct a response on our part, either of trusting people or doubting.

Life and love and relationships are hard. We all mess up occasionally, but we have to learn how to be good communicators/friends/lovers by practicing our skills on other people.