does he know he has depression

Hey all, I have a partner that suffers with depression but is in complete denial. I have spoken to my doctor and other professionals to get some insight into his illness. A little thing can trigger an abusive episode were Its all my fault Im to blame for everything. He becomes completely unreasonable and irrational. He ends our relationship and this can last anything from a few days to a few weeks ignoring me the whole time then he calls saying sorry and hes back to himself again. I guess what id really like to know is do suffers of depression know after they come out of an episode like this that their behavior was bizarre and they have emotionally hurt their partners. And why are we to blame and why are we abused??? No offence to anyone its just a question that I cant get an answer to. I would really love an answer maybe from someone who has suffered with this kind of depression and could help me understand some more. Is he aware of his actions after the episode passes??? Im there to love and support him but its getting very difficult and this time he says the relationship is over for good, does he mean it?? Please help.

Thank you for your reply the abuse is getting worse. but like i said hes adament this time the relationship is over and i dnt want it to be. I need to be strong and let him know he needs help.Theres a family history of depression and other factors that relate to him personally thats deep rooted. I suppose the answer I want most and may not get is does he realise after the hurt and pain hes caused?????

It takes two to make a relationship. You might have to accept his need.

And, no, the idea of understanding actions and relationship closure is not a guarantee that he will get it. You only have control over your own actions, your thoughts, and your understanding.