Posted 8/4/2014 6:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hi all,
So I never saw myself actually posting to a forum, but I am in great pain and am in need of some help/advice. My girlfriend of 6 months had just broken up with me out of no where. She suffers from serious depression, and it has always played a role in our relationship, but it's never taken a toll on me. I've always just wanted to be there for her to help her through whatever problems she was going through, but now she has just pushed me away completely. Our relationship has been long distance for the past 3 months, but we've always made an effort to see each other every 2-3 weeks. I'm working in California at the moment, and she lives in Michigan. I'm moving back in 2.5 weeks though. Anyhow, she just came to visit me last week. Things were great, and we had the time of our lives. Six days later, it was our 6 month anniversary. I had roses and cookies delivered at her door step, and she never acknowledged any of it. I was beginning to get anxious because she had literally gone all day without calling/texting me. It is important to note, on that day she had her first meeting with a counselor to talk about her depression. Later that night, I asked her if we could talk, and that's when she broke the news to me. She said it had nothing to do with me, and that she just needed to be alone to work on herself. She said that she could not have asked for a better boyfriend, and that I was the first person to show her what it was like to be treated respectfully. I'm just so confused as to why she had decided to just end things? I am the one person who loves her unconditionally, and she just ended it like.. I'm crushed. I can't sleep at night, I'm having trouble eating, and it's all I can think about. When I spoke with her the next day, I tried to convince her one last time to reconsider. She said she was set, and that she really didn't want to give it a try. Things got a little tense, and she then began to say things like, "it's too much pressure dating you". I think she felt this way because she wanted to fit in with my family so bad (and she did), since she didn't have one herself. Anyhow, I feel like I'm just rambling, but does anyone have insight on this situation? She still texts every once in a while to see how I'm doing - I don't tell her the truth because I don't want to put that on her. What should I do? Will I ever be able to win her back? I want to do anything I can to help her, and if that includes not having me in her life, I know that's what I have to do. Anybody??