Posted 1/21/2015 4:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, ive never used a forum before but hopefully you guys can help.
My boyfriend and I were dating until we fell a week short to our 1 year. Throughout our relationship if we fought it was something so minor that we got over it in minutes or and hour tops after we talked about it. But i cant even say they were fights, they were disagreements. We talked about our future together like at least one kid and that we saw marriage. Never said we would, it was always just an if you know? Whenever he talked to his brother he would always say he was chillin with the wifey. His brother was aware of my real name and what i looked like. At the end of November he told me to go looking at promise rings and I picked one out and a couple days later he got it for me. It was supposed to go on my ring finger but it was a little too big so i put it on one that could fit momentarily. He was a little annoyed about it so we said we would take it back after the holidays to get it resized so it could fit my wedding finger. The week of Christmas we were going through a pregnancy scare because my period was late. I cried because i was scared you know and then the second time i cried because we thought we would have to get an abortion but more because this child could have been the son we wanted. My period ended up coming but before that he said he would never leave me. For Christmas he got me a heart of gold then we went through a weeks worth of petty fighting but always got over them. Except on New Years he was being a little weird before 12. We shot fire crackers and kissed at 12...we had a little fight that day and he gets over things before i do all the time so i thought, i can get over this...its new Years eve for crying out loud. Before We pulled up at my friends place i asked if we were okay and he said yeah but the kiss at 12 was odd and so was the whole day. There was tension for the first time in our relationship. But we even got over that! Everything was normal but then felt odd a little bit...he said he just needed to be alone and its not like we were mad but i was like okay ill be here when you're ready. He said he would call his aunt to see if she could get his mind right and the next day he broke up with me over text. Ive been depressed before but now after a week of not talking hes finally said he had mental problems at the time, why didnt he tell me? Instead of just breaking it off? He said if he gets another opportunity to be with me he would take it. He also said he was holding me back and that he was dead weight. I didnt think so. I asked how long he had been thinking it, assuming it was a week...he told me a month. That means the whole month of December, which was REALLY SOON after he got me the ring. Why get me the heart of gold? His family has a very strong influence over him and i feel like after the talk with his aunt she influenced him to break it off...i mean if you think it for a whole month and dont do it...but do it right after you talk to your aunt what does that say? We're going to talk soon but im not sure how to go about anything. I want him back but i dont know how. But is my situation odd or what do you guys think?