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Posted 2/22/2015 7:17 AM (GMT 0)
I am not new to the site, but I am more of a lurker than a poster. However, I need to get feedback from others who understand what goes on inside me. Last year I was let go from a job that I absolutely loved because a particular supervisor had it in for me. She was a bully and I refused to let her push me around, so she did what she could to get rid of me. It took me 8 months to find another job, so I accepted the first one that was offered. Now I realize that decision has had quite an impact on my emotional well being. I seriously hate my job, and I have been having some serious anxiety attacks just thinking about going in to my office everyday. I am feeling more and more like I am spiraling down into nothingness because of this job. I cannot pinpoint exactly what is doing this to me regarding this job, because I really like the people I work with. I have noticed that whenever my boss is in, she is the department head and I am her secretary, the whole vibe of the office becomes stifling. I cannot take it anymore, but we need the second income. I have been putting applications in at other places, but nothing yet. Oh and I have a college education, already have a BA and am almost done with my MCJ. plus I have almost 20 years experience. So I am very qualified, so hope to get out of this job soon. But I am hoping my mental stability can last until that happens. Thanks for reading this...
Posted 2/22/2015 8:17 AM (GMT 0)
hi yvette. what do you do to de-stress? outlets are real good. exercize, me-music, walking, meditation. i feel a chat with ya doc may be a good thing. re meds. increase? i feel getting out is the right thing. me, when i have been used and abused in the employment sector and given my all i have flipped the bird and even to my financial detriment and have just walked. you can't but your opportunity for change will come. keep strong. ps, sorry what happened with your other job with the supervisor.

good mask eh?? i hear ya. cpap dec 2014. severe obstructive sleep apnea / rem hyperventilation.
Posted 2/22/2015 12:55 PM (GMT 0)
So, is this feeling from this boss? Or are you perhaps carrying the bad feelings about your former supervisor into this experience? I've heard that "expectations are just premeditated resentments". Since this person has not done what the previous person did, you may have an expectation that because she is in a position of authority too, the same thing will happen. Ask yourself if this is fair and accurate. I hope things improve, but unless you resolve these feelings, they may continue, no matter where you go.
Posted 2/22/2015 7:27 PM (GMT 0)
Good questions.

Might I suggest you quitting. Then going to a temp/perm employment agency. With your credentials an experience I am sure you could get a good placement.

In the mean time you can finish school with less stress.

I have done this in the past and yes, some belt tightening had to be done, however, it lead to a much better paying job and nicer enviroment within a year.

I did a pros and cons list. In the end the decision I made was based on a healthier mental state, then my material wants. Spouse supported me.

Peace and strength.
Trina
Posted 3/2/2015 4:06 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all. Thank you for your replies. I had thought about pitmom's suggestion that I may be blurring the lines between these two boss ladies. I have come to the conclusion that I'm not. I say this because I truly loved my past job, she was an inconvenience and a stressor, but she was not my immediate supervisor. In my current job, the woman is my immediate supervisor and there have been days that she wasn't coming in and the whole office had a completely different feel. Everyone was more relaxed and no longer on edge. I am currently not going in, working with HR and my doctors to try and get me moved to another department as an ADA accommodatio. I'm not bringing in money right now, and that's a bit of a stressor, but it's not made me freak out like the thought of going in to that office does to me.
Posted 3/2/2015 11:23 AM (GMT 0)
Yvette1205,

I am not used to be motivated by other people. I am a person that work hard with myself, by trying to keep my conscience as high as possible (not on the level of the current situation or emotional point). So I motivate myself in different ways, even by motivating other people, really!

I am exactly at the same situation but worse: TRUST ME, MY BOSS KNOWS NOTHING about BUSINESS, still he wouldn't let you give any idea because he is all the time like: YOU KNOW NOTHING!
He is the kind of persons that one day asks me to send everything via mail, even the smallest detail. The other day: Why do you send me those bullcraps/ I don't even read you emails
if I tell him that he is the one to ask, he will answer: I change my strategies every day.
The are sooo much the things he keeps doing. The worse thing is that he made me responsible for his structure organisation, but he wouldn't let me do a single thing without asking him first. He want to take all the decisions, even the smallest one. (he never did a reunion explaining his plans and objectives and what are his expectations). So if something goes well, it's for sure his merit. If not, it is mine, because "I'm the one on charge of organizing".

I resigned twice, and he neglected my request by proposing me a better payment.
Since I have given so much to this work and there are other people related to my decision to go or stay, I haven't ever taken the courage to JUST LEAVE! (I know that all your suggestions are to do so)

Oh Gosh, this is so frustrating. Last 2 weeks I have almost worked nothing; Me, an energetic person that like to motivate persons and just working with perspective, now converted to a person that wants to do nothing.
It is sad to know that you will just work and at the end of the day you feel drained, at the beginning of the other day you feel hopeless.

NEVERTHELESS, I have this thought of mine that it always depend on me how I let others energies interact with mine. Most of all, I like to take every situation as a lesson. There must be something I am doing wrong, or something I need to learn.
Until I get it, the thing won't change.

This is a very important topic, so we should really find the way out...
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