Vivid Recurring Dream about ex leaving me depressed. Thoughts?

Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I felt like I needed to share this. I have been broken up with my ex for almost three years now. Have been in relationships since, but never really got over him, despite many reasons why I should have. But it haunts me almost daily.

What's worse, is that I have dreams about him almost twice a week. Very vivid ones. Usually it entails me going to a party or something at his house. Being worried that he will be mad I'm there, his friends all being kind and engaging with me (as in the dreams they are the ones who invited me). Ultimately I see him and he just says hi or nods and is nice, but that's it. Even his girlfriend (who he is now engaged to) speaks to me and engages in these dreams. Only in one dream did we end up talking and I said to him over and over "I guess the heart wants what it wants".

Every morning I wake up happy that I saw him and want to go back to sleep because something is always about to happen. Then I am hit with the reality of the situation and get very depressed and sad and miss him terribly.

I know that is weird. But this has been going on for too long. It's doing a number on me. After almost three year I should be done and rid of this, but at the same time I feel like these are signs that I need to address things? I don't know. Never had recurring dreams like these other than the anxiety dreams (teeth falling out, going onstage not knowing my lines. . .etc).

Any advice?

Maybe this can help you.


His house = not his house even though it might look or seem like it. It's your own spiritual house, your own inner self. A house always represents our inner Self, our Inner being.
Party = gathering or celebration.
The boyfriend = represents the analytical, rational, part of you, the male aspect of you.
Girlfriend of ex = represents the female part of you, the sensitive, caring part of you.
All friends = aspects of you, characteristics of you.
The heart = pump, life giving, also symbolises love.


Have been in relationships since, but never really got over him, despite many reasons why I should have.

So in this dream you are within your inner self with all other characteristics you are made up of.
You get on fine with all those parts of yourself (all being kind and engaging)
The dominant female aspect of yourself (girlfriend), the sensitive, caring part of you, is present (speaks to me and engages in these dreams).
The male part of you (he just says hi or nods and is nice, but that's it.) is present, but doesn't really connect with you.

You are scared of the analytical, rational part of you ( Being worried that he will be mad I'm there).
It's the part you like to incorporate in your life, but it frightens you.
Ask yourself what it is that you do not want to confront?

Have been in relationships since, but never really got over him, despite many reasons why I should have.
Look at those reasons and see what you do not want to confront, see what you are in denial about.

I guess the heart wants what it wants..................
The heart is about life, the continuation of life, without it we die, it's the life force within us.
It might seem to you that it says that you have no choice, that you can't change the love in your heart, but you do..........you can choose life.
Something you seem to keep on hold....Have been in relationships since, but never really got over him,

Just have a think about it, it might help.

You're welcome, no problem.
The dream might start to subside now. Most of the time they do when you get more clarity about your situation.