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Posted 9/29/2015 2:20 PM (GMT 0)
Hi my name is Alicia and I feel like I have put way too much doubt and strain on my signifcant other. I have felt pain emotionally and mentally my depression has become so debilitating it makes me feel alone and I end up pushing my man away and that's never my intentions. I wish i could wake up each morning with so much joy in my heart and not one ounce of feeling guilt or shame. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and have amazing 9 month old daughter together. I don't want him to feel like he's dealing with a case everytime he sees me. He has been amazing and knows about my depression but it seems like it got harder for me ever since we started a family. Please help
Posted 9/29/2015 3:52 PM (GMT 0)
Have you talked with your doctor about this? Post pardum depression is nothing to be ashamed of. It happens to a lot of couples. Please talk with your doctor. Keep posting, it helps to let things out and this is a safe, understanding place to do just that!
Posted 9/29/2015 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there, welcome to the forum!!!

I think talking to a professional would help you so much. And as Pitmom said, this could be from after having the baby. Which can be natural. Talk to your doc and let them know what is going on. They can help you or refer you to somebody who can. This is a lot to be going through. And know you are not a failure. You are doing the best that you can.

Hang in there, talk to somebody, know you aren't alone...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 9/29/2015 4:19 PM (GMT 0)
Talk to your GP. If this is post-partum, they will know how to treat you. If this is a long-term depression,made worse by the recent pregnancy, then the GP will be able to suggest directions for you to explore, namely a therapist and/or psychiatrist.

Many depressed people suffer from the low-self-esteem monster. I know I do. It's hard to learn to think better of yourself, and not feel an impostor in your life. A therapist can help you improve your self-image, give you coping techniques, and generally be an objective advocate.

Bottom-line,you deserve to feel better.
Posted 9/29/2015 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
I know how you feel, I pushed away my girlfriend of 7 years because it was the only way I could cope, just shut myself off from the world. I would ignore her and everyone else to try and escape the pain I was in.

I think it's important to communicate with each other, tell him that you dont mean to do it but right now you are doing what you can to cope, and that things will get better. We've all been through things like this, and you are not handling it any worse than other people do, it's hard and it takes it's toll on us, none of us handle it well. You are probably handling it much better than I do.
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