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Posted 3/22/2016 10:00 AM (GMT 0)
well, it might be, but at times I find the base-line depression is far less insidious than life....................you need not say anything here, I know what is coming, the silence is deafening. sad cry
Posted 3/22/2016 12:25 PM (GMT 0)
I hope things get better mate.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 3/22/2016 1:54 PM (GMT 0)
I just wrote and said, it's okay your lack of words say it all.
Posted 3/22/2016 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
Silence is bad only if we try to force-fill it with meaningless noise. Protect thyself, Turtle friend,and find your own healing silence.
Posted 3/22/2016 6:16 PM (GMT 0)
Well now, some of use do have laptop issues and have trouble getting on line lately....

I am feeling what you feel lately. Stay strong one step [literally] at a time. Asking myself, "is this choice good for me"

Last 2 days I can not leave the house. Only go in back yard with dogs. I am somewhat better today. Will force myself, tearfully if needed, to see my psych tomorrow.

Get a piece of paper and write down, what you would say to someone else, that has your same feelings. As if someone were there telling you how they feel.

Why are you not deserving of the same compassion? YOU ARE!

This works for me most times and this very dark cloud passes in 3-4 days.

Keep kicking mate. We are warriors that always win the battles.

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 3/22/2016 7:23 PM (GMT 0)
Huh? Did I miss something?
Posted 3/22/2016 7:52 PM (GMT 0)
it's ok. f27. just speaking out aloud. I am speaking about my fiancée.
Posted 3/22/2016 7:57 PM (GMT 0)
ps. I was meaning from my fiancée. the silence being deafening. apologies.
Posted 3/22/2016 8:01 PM (GMT 0)
Ahhh ... got it.

Hope whatever you're going through with her resolves.
Posted 3/23/2016 3:02 AM (GMT 0)
thx. sorry all, was in a bad spot when I posted the original.
Posted 3/25/2016 11:38 AM (GMT 0)
You need to reach out to your fiance, tell her you need to talk...I hope you both can agree and work this out, these things happen its how you deal with it and make up, even if its not your fault apologize and go out to a movie...
Posted 3/25/2016 12:16 PM (GMT 0)
I am not apologising. all I have done is reach out. I have done nothing wrong. I have bent backwards for her, I have taken some real expletive from her folks, and her not telling a male friend that is chasing her, that she is engaged. there is more there. but not having the balls to contact me says it all. no, I am over it. I have been the best caring and compassionate man. for once, she needs to own up to her issues. non reciprocation is a deal breaker with me. for once I hold firm. I have earned this. no I will no longer conform. I am a human with feelings, but always get it in the neck.
Posted 3/25/2016 2:33 PM (GMT 0)
Jamie, you are so right. You are such a good person and you deserve the truth and respect. Ads interfering again. But I totally agree with you.

I hope that everything gets better for you mate.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 3/25/2016 5:06 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry things aren't working out, Jamie.

I hate it when people can't be upfront and honest about what's going on. I don't see why they want to sneak around and avoid the issues, or come at them sideways. What a colossal waste of time & energy!

You deserve better, friend. And I agree, non-communication says so much all by itself.
Posted 3/25/2016 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with all of the above... You deserve to be treated with respect Jamie. Sometimes, others don't value us, we just have to accept it and let go.

It is really sad when we give all to one person and they don't appreciate it. I know it is hard, but don't let this get the better of you. You are a wonderful person.

UA
Posted 3/30/2016 11:12 AM (GMT 0)
thanks my friends. this is real difficult. the total investment of time and care between us. the commitment, the time and finances, I am not without hope, however it is diminishing as each day passes.
Posted 3/30/2016 6:37 PM (GMT 0)
I validate your feelings HT. Try to remember, you can only change the things that are changeable. The others, need to leave them be.

Hard pill to swallow, I know. Sad time, we are all here for you.

Peace
Trina
Posted 4/2/2016 5:23 PM (GMT 0)
:(

I validate your feelings too.
I wish you all the best-whether with her or if you must move on with someone who will appreciate you.
You deserve to receive what you give.
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