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Posted 4/13/2019 4:31 AM (GMT 0)
So, I got laid off in April 2017 and again in September 2018. I got a new job, doing the same thing, in October. I work two days a week at an office 50 miles from my house and one day a week in an office 75 miles from my house. I took this job because I was familiar with this company and there was nothing any closer available at that time (I live up in the mountains and have to drive down to town for work). One month ago I was informed that they have hired someone full time for the closer office and are going to move me up to the further office 3 days a week. I like the job up there but even driving up one day a week is exhausting. In addition, it will cost me money to stay overnight one night a week, pay for doggy daycare, which I don't need now, and the extra gas and mileage on my car.

Now there is a similar job closer to home but it is not exactly what I want . I have gotten burned on taking jobs based on location before and it makes me tired just thinking about starting my 4th new job in 2 years. I am 60 years old, for heaven's sake!

So now I am in this place where I am stressing about it and can't make a decision.

Just Venting. I should go buy a lottery ticket

Kathy
Posted 4/13/2019 9:50 AM (GMT 0)
I wish you knew more about the job closer to home. That would be the ticket. I get tired on long drives too. My therapist is 50 miles away and the ride tires me out. There and back. So I know how you feel. To have to drive that much every week would be exhausting.

You may end up liking the closer job. Is there anyway you could try it? Probably not. Just wondering. I can see your dilemma though.

I hope you find out which one would be the easiest. Keep us posted. I am sorry I am not much help.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 4/13/2019 4:04 PM (GMT 0)
HI Kathy,

When I had these issues I would write a pros and cons list.

what is the major worry of going to another office?

if it is the temporary status, are you not still temp were you are?

Is it being the new kid on the block? this could be a good thing even though you got burned before.
Use self compassion

this article is I think may help in some way, at least I hope so. The site Mindful.org. has many helpful articles and brief information for people to think in helpful ways and reframe things. You do not have to subscribe to search for information.
https://www.mindful.org/ride-waves-change/

Peace and strength.
Trina
Posted 4/14/2019 3:26 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the article link Trina.

Part of the closer job is going back to doing work I stopped doing years ago because I was burned out. Learning a new computer system is doable. Working with new people is fine. I guess I am still angry about the previous two layoffs which were unexpected and kind of underhanded. For me, anger usually turns to depression. When I am depressed I have a hard time making decisions. So it makes a vicious circle.

Heavy sigh. I'll get through it, because I always seem to, but it's no fun.
Posted 4/15/2019 3:32 AM (GMT 0)
I have decided to stay with the job I have, even though the commute is so long. The pros outweigh the cons and I can always wait and see if a better job comes long later. I can tell this is the best decision for now because that tight feeling you get in your chest when you are stressed has lessened quite a bit.
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