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Posted 4/28/2006 12:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hi

Iv'e talked about my problem here recently. So I am pregnant and the father is not supporive at ALL. We have recently talked and he is relieved I told him I would not keep the baby. He has not supported me in any way. He is concerned about his inability to father and his new girlfriend finding out. I am totally scared to pursue the pregnancy because of the lack of concern from the father. My mom and sister are upset that I can think about his feelings and not mine. I work with him too. So I am an emotional mess deciding what to do. He has already abandoned me in every way but I am confused about what I should do. I feel embarrassed and sad because I really cared about him and this baby is a part of him as well. I would appreciate any words of support.

Beeze

Posted 4/28/2006 1:28 PM (GMT 0)
Beeze
the baby is not only a part of him but is a big part of you.
I posted this in your last thread...but he really has no choice on at least paying child support.
I think that you are hoping for the dream that he decides to take care of you and the baby and you will live happily ever after.
But,he is running away and since he is more worried about his new girlfriend...well I am not sure that is going to happen.
As far as his new girlfriend finding out,well too bad. He is an adult and he needs to step up to the plate.
My advice to you is not focus on him.Make sure he knows what your plans are. And make sure you go for child support. But focus on yourself and your baby. Many women have raised a child by themselves. It is hard but they do it.And in my opinion having a single mom is more healthy for a child than living in a home that is nothing but chaos.Fights,hate ect ect.
Your family is totally right,you and your baby are the important ones. He might come through for you,but right now he is probably freaking out. Take care of yourself,you both deserve it.
Posted 4/28/2006 5:12 PM (GMT 0)
This is not meant to scare you but please be careful around this man. A friend of mine's daughter was murderded by the guy who got her pregnant. He had a girlfriend and didn't want her to find out about the baby. She told him she was keeping the baby and he borrowed a gun and asked her to go somewhere to talk about it. He drove out in the woods, shot her in the head and dumped he in a creek. He's only serving 18 years for killing her and nothing for killing the baby. He was a volunteer fireman and a church goer but you just don't know what sets some people off or what they might do.

If you keep the baby a court will most likely order him to pay child support. Especially if you apply for govertment help. Again, I don't want to scare you, I don't know you or him. Just be cautious.
Posted 4/30/2006 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
Beeze
Have you told him what your decision is? Does he know where you stand?
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