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Posted 11/27/2006 6:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone, I am new to this board and hoping to gain support from everyone here.

I am a mom of 2 young children, ages 2 and 3. I also watch a one year old for some extra money. My husband works full time and is generally a great guy. Lately I've been going through spouts of depression--I'm either down and don't feel like doing anything to the opposite; having great energy and being in a great mood. Well, my husband doesn't really believe in "mental problems" and taking medicine for them, so I don't open up to him about this....I recently told my husband a small lie (which I normally DO NOT do) and it snowballed causing him to be extremely angry. I am trying to get him to trust me again and to be "normal."--but it's tough. I will elaborate more about me in further posts but for right now I have a few questions:

-do any of your spouses not understand depression and how it makes you feel?

-do any of you take a depression medication that you really love and doesn't make you feel like a zombie?

Thank you so much :)

Posted 11/27/2006 10:19 PM (GMT 0)
My husband has seen me both on and off of medicine. He can tell a big difference. He actually begged me today to go see the doctor again. You should talk to your doctor and see what they suggest, let your husband see the results. Hopefully it will go well and he will support you.

Medicines react differently with different people. I have had some success with lexapro, I went off of it a while ago thinking I could "cope with my feelings by myself" and have found that I can't. I hate to admit that, I didn't want to have to take pills every day to feel better, I feel trapped by that. I have tried so hard to do it on my own.
Posted 11/28/2006 4:31 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks, sonderella. I will let you know what happens. My husband always says, "you can't rely on medicine to correct your feelings/problems"--but I know so many people that medicine has helped. I go to the doctor tomorrow, we'll see!
Posted 11/28/2006 8:30 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome to HW irishtwinsmom
Well just for the record you and your husband are both right :)
Meds are brilliant for smoothing over the rough patches so we can concentrate on getting well..they won't correct our feeling/problems - that part is up to each and every one of us to do...counselling/therapy teach us new skills for coping.
I have found it extremely difficult explaining it all to my husband..it's not like having a broken arm that they can see and instantly deal with..and if you haven't been there done that it's more than difficult to understand.
However, he has learned to accept there are times when I am not coping too well and that given a little time and space I will come right in no time at all.
Seek medical advice for yourself - after all if you are not well how are you gonna look after everyone else :)) The upside of this is you have recognised that you have a prob. just now - and you have reached out to others which is great..and now you are seeking med. advice - well done! All positive stuff :)

Maree
Posted Yesterday 5:31 PM (GMT 0)

Hi irishtwinsmom, welcome to healing well forum we are happy to have you join us here.  I have been on many antidepressants through the years and there are many that have worked very well for me and I functioned just fine with my everyday activities and work schedule.  I take Effexor Xr now and it has been a wonder medication for me with lifting my depression when it was at its all time worst and also giving me a little boost of energy.

My husband (now ex) didn’t like me to take medications either and didn’t believe in mental disorders.  It was difficult as he was very controlling but I worked in the mental health field and have a degree in psychology so I knew very well that depression and like disorders do not resolve for themselves without medications and or therapy.  My suggestion would be to talk to your doctor about how your feeling and see what they say and suggest.  There are many online depression questionnaires that you can take and print out to take with you and perhaps you can educate your husband on depression while you’re at it.

Let us know how it goes...Take care
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