My other half is dealing with Depression and Anxiety

Hi Wants What Is Best. I dont have answers for you, I'm not a proffesional at pshycology, and I have never helped and loved ones go through depression. I am however, a male, In my early 20's and also refused to take medication for depression, even when it went from bad to suicide attempts, so maybe that carries some merit in itself.
First things first, stop thinking this is something you can "conquer". I thought I could do that too, and it almost killed me. Depression is disease, something you cope, adapt and learn to work with, not a cold or a cut. In time maybe, it will lessen in severity with diet changes and excersize.
The other thing I would say is this: Find a release. Dont want pills? Neither did I, thought they were just a crutch used to sidestep the problem. Had enough of doctors and proffesionals who all wanted to be your "freind" as long as you had the money? I did too. But you gotta find something, be it writing, poetry, playing an insturment, occasionally posting on forums, something, anything that can act as a pressure valve, that you can take all the crap and the frustration and the dark thoughts piling up inside your head and just get it out for a bit before it eats you alive. Thats important, to me anyways. I hope some of this helped a bit.

Hi Shy & Passenger

Thank you so much for your input, I am glad that I posted and and received your replies. It is very difficult to listen to what is troubling him and I don't know what to say most times as words are words and I feel that by saying something would just make him feel worse and may push him away. The only thing I can think of doing is just listening to what he feels is troubling him and hoping that by listening helps. Because no one knows what it is like until they wear that persons shoes.

I am going to try and motivate him into attending his club he belongs to and has not gone to for a long time. I hope this will help and my 12 year daughter seems to be interested in going too. I guess my goal will be to start in baby steps and progress from there.

I know he is dealing with many things including the depression that would affect a person that does not suffer from depression and would hit them hard, so I feel my work is cut out for me. It tears me to shreads knowing he is hurting so much, and I want his daughter (from a previous relationship) to be apart in this, but as we know teenagers at 17 are more interested in starting their lives and don't comprehend that when starting their new lives (friends, boyfriends, etc) that the people who got them to that stage still exist, I remember when I was a teenager.

Anyways, Passage I promise not to try and conquer this, just be there for him and only tackle the issue(s) at hand!

Have a wonderful day and again thank you for your feeback!