another sad day

I`ts just another of those days where i `m just feeling so sad and down .Ijust wake up feeling like this and no matter what i try it doesn`t seem to get any better . I don`t go out as i have panic attacks and there for makes things worse . Hubby has been home all day and i can`t even talk to him i am finding it increasingly harder to talk to anyone .I just want to spend time by myself all the time .I get so flustered when the kids are even home . I take my meds sometimes when i remember but it`s not always the case .....restless

Hi suzy ,I have been on and off meds for over 15yrs i just get sick of taking them all the time and i just get to the stage where i`m forgetting to take them some days i even forget to shower and i know that i have a lot going on and need to concentrate more but it`s just like there is too much to cope with . I have tryed to talk to my hubby but find it difficult that he doesnt understand how and why i`m feeling the way i am .....restless

Hi restless
It is very hard to talk to a loved one about depression.
And I know that it is extra hard to cope with the depression when you have kids.
I think it is time to make a call to the Dr,and then try to get your hubby to go with you.
Tell the Dr what is going on,and be honest.
I think it is good for husbands to hear it and to hear the advice that the doctors give.
In the mean time please try to remember to take your meds.


Shy

hello weeping willow yes it is difficult when your supposidly love ones just cant /wont help it makes each day that much harder to face and with each passing day it gets harder believe me i`m at the stage now i don`t care anymore .I have lost all interest in things i once loved.....restless

Geebs i do try to keep occupied i look after kids and native animals but just feel that i shouldn`t be feeling the way i am at the moment not that i would ever do anything to ever harm either but my heart just isn`t in it anymore . I use to look forward to the littlies coming each day but now i actually dread the thought of even getting out of bed each day .i`m so worried as next month i have to face surgery for skin cancer i`m so worried as to how it`s going to turn out and how much of my face they are going to cut away .I don`t have family support and it makes it really hard . I have never spoken to my mother about anything eversince i left home when i was fifteen , and having to raise my kids with minimal help from hubby was indeed hard .Now he blames me for the second eldest and the problems he is having with him . it`s just such a mess i don`t want to do it anymore ...restless

Hi there restless..

Well, I think it's time for you to take control of your life..it's not gonna be easy because you are on a low just now...but hey it's a day by day thing

Don't worry about your husband not understanding, coz unless you have been there and done depression you really havn't got any idea what's going on..some do try and that's fantastic..but hey this is about you this time and starting to feel good about yourself again.

So, first things first, it strikes me that your meds need to be adjusted and/or taken every day at least..I know it annoys me I have to medicate daily..but if we were diabetics, would we take insulin? Yup we would..and hey it's no different for us!

How about making the first move towards talking to your mum...it doesn't have to be about how you are feeling or anything in particular..just open the door a little and see what happens..seems like you are both missing out on each other..and she is missing out on enjoying the grandkids.

Counselling would be fantastic for you..but if not possible how about looking under resources on your righthand side of this page..look under books and hunt some down at your local library...

Day to day tasks can be simplified by writing a list of routine things starting with getting up and showered etc...tick each one off as you go and be Proud of your every success...you Can do this ok! Add a few more things to do every couple of days and see how you get on

I wish you well. Take good care and keep posting.

Maree

Hi restless, I really do think you need a great deal of help at the moment. What you are experiencing is serious and you cannot carry on like this. You must go back to the doctor and tell him/her exactly how you are feeling at the moment. I know it is not easy but you need to take this step to be able to help yourself. You can get better, you just need to get the right help. Please contact the doctor and be honest about how you are feeling. Take care

Is there another doctor that you can see? You really need to get some help. Please call and see if you can talk to another doctor. X

I think that you should either call the doctor and say that this is an emergency or go to your local hospital and tell them how you are feeling. Either way, you need to see someone soon and get some help. I am very worried about you and really hope that you can see someone soon. You need some support and help to get you through this. Try calling the doctor and say that its an emergency and that you really need to see someone very soon. Can the doctor come out to you maybe?

Please take care of yourself hun. Why was the service cut?? I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

thats terrible - I can't believe a service could just be cut like that. Take care and keep in touch.

All is not lost restless...you have been through so much in your life - when these things bubble through to the surface it really is time to seek professional help...Victoria has given you great advice..you husband has seen how sick you get in the past and I am sure he will assist you in getting to the local hopsital/doctor...

From where you are in life just now..there is only one way to go and that's onwards and upwards - but to do that you must seek help immediately.

Take good care.

Maree

Sorry it`s taken me a while to get back in but finally made it . I have been so run down i`ve had the flu and a couple of other bugs .I have just been taking each day as it comes . Some days i didn`t even make it out of bed i just couldn`t face any one .Even the appointment with the cancer clinic was cancelled as they had problems so now it`s another months wait to get back in .This month will be a bad one as i am missing the little boy i usually care for he has been such a distraction for me ( stops me thinking of a lot of things ) as he keeps me so busy ,but he is away for a month .Things haven`t improved much with hubby he sitll can`t understand anything thats going on so i`ll just keep it to myself .
As for seeing the dr well i cant do it so will just keep going the best i can .....Restless