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Posted 3/5/2007 9:38 AM (GMT 0)

Looking to make friends with the same illness as me. I do have friends and family but they don’t really understand what I’m going through because they don’t have the same illness as me.

My husband works full time and my sons at school everyday.

So most of the time it’s just me on my own who sits in day and night.

I feel too anxious to go out on my own.

I find it so hard just to walk the dog around the block, my husband always offers to take me out but the places he chooses to go are the places I find the most hardest like cinemas or restaurants.

I always come over hot and panicky on buses and trains and people look at me because I start to shake and cry. It would just be nice to go out with someone who knows exactly how I feel and what to do.

When I’ve been out with other friends and I’ve come over anxious they just say pull yourself together or we’ve come all the way now, were not going back.

So therefore I don’t want to go out with someone that makes me feel worse.

It’s hard to find someone to come to the doctors with me because I get too panicky to go on my own.

It feels like it’s never going to end. These panic attacks and anxiety and depression. I just wish I had some more support. I hate facing each day. When I come over anxious at night is bad cos every one is in bed – no one I can phone for a chat! L

It's very hard to deal with anxiety alone when others don't seem to understand what I’m feeling!

Posted 3/5/2007 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Much
I understand the panic and anxiety attacks. I hate them too.
I do have to ask if you have been to the doctor for advice on how to deal with them?
There are so many different type of meds,and it sounds to me that you need something that will calm you down.
When you are not in your safe zone,taking meds to deal with the outside world is not a bad thing.
Then I also suggest taking your hubby to the doctor with you. Then he can hear what you are telling the Dr,and then the doctor can give him advice on how to help you.
If you have support from your husband,and a doctor, I think you will find that facing the outside world might be alot easier.
My b/f does not understand the panic and anxiety attacks,but after years of dealing with all of this myself I have learned to stop and breathe,then try to think of things that might calm me down. If it is not a severe attack I can usually talk myself out of it. But,if it is severe it can last for a couple days.
Please let us know how you are.

Shy
Posted 3/5/2007 5:41 PM (GMT 0)

Dear Much --

You have friends here.  Keep coming back.  It's no fun being alone...and lonely.  I know because I have pretty much been on my own for the last two months and, like you, find it difficult to get out of the house.  My anxiety is not as bad as yours, but I find that the lonelier and more isolated I get, the harder it is to get out of the house.  Does it feel that way to you, too?

Have you always felt this way, or did this anxiety come around fairly recently?  I have been chronically depressed pretty much my entire life, but am on meds and seeing a counsellor.  This forum really helps, too, because here I find nonjudgmental folks who know the language of depression/anxiety.  Here you don't have to apologize for being ill.  (Notice I said "ill" and not "crazy")

But, hey, we're in good company.  Great American poet Emily Dickinson was a shut-in, I believe, her entire adult life.  And some really heavy hitters in history with depression include Abraham Lincoln (he actually had a total breakdown in the the 1840s), Eleanor Roosevelt, Mike Wallace, Winston Churchill, and there's more, but I cannot remember anymore names at this point.

zinniagirl

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