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Posted 3/8/2007 1:59 AM (GMT 0)
Hi restless, it does sound as if you have a lot of external issues going on that are adding stress onto you.  I know what you mean about the increase in antidepressants decreasing your personal interest with your husband.  That is a huge side effect to antidepressants and it can be fustrating for spouses and partners.  There are several medications on the market now that have a lower chance of causing this problem like Wellbutrin, Cymbalta, and Lexapro but I think for the most part it does depend on the person.  I had this problem really bad when I was on Zoloft for several years now that I am on Effexor (and at a high dosage) I dont feel there is any problems in this area, which is good.

I am sorry about your skin cancer sad ...I would be afraid to go outside too.  I hope you can get it taken care of soon.

I have had a rough times the last few weeks or maybe I should say month and half now.  I have one of those crazy families that is dysfunctional from the word go and it seems that no one is happy unless someone is upset of fighting.  I just started going back to counseling for my childhood abuse issues which has proven to be really difficult for me all the way around.  It is a lot of stress and it is the last thing that I need to deal with on top of my medical issues.  Sometimes it does seem to me like life just throws so many things at us to either see if we are going to bend or break.  And it amazes each day that I have got through it and perhaps came out a little stronger than the one before it.  It is hard to see our paths when we have depression clouding the way and so many outside forces working against us, adding additional stress in the mix but I have faith that you will find your way restless.  Your a fighter just like the rest of us here. 

Hugs

Posted 3/8/2007 3:30 AM (GMT 0)
You do have a lot on your plate, restless, but just remember: one day at a time. You don't have to "solve" everything all at once. Take care of yourself, first and foremost.

I am so glad you made it back!

zinniagirl
Posted 3/8/2007 5:08 AM (GMT 0)
Hugs Restless. Am thinking of you always. Hope to catch you later my friend. I agree with zinniagirl that you need to take care of yourself FIRST. And to take it one day at a time. Keep posting in here if it helps. You have a lot of support here and that is good. Anyway, we shall talk later and I hope you are feeling a bit better. Super giant hugs!
Posted 3/8/2007 9:57 AM (GMT 0)
I can`t solve anything things just keep mounting up each day there is something new .Hell when will it ever stop . Everything just hurts so much ...Restless
Posted 3/8/2007 12:10 PM (GMT 0)
restless have you thought about talking to your doc about this...perhaps your antidepressant just isnt working right for you.  This does sometimes happen and we need to either switch meds or have another added to the mix to enhance or give a boost to the original one we have been taking.  There is no reason you should have to suffer like this at all.  Please call your doctor and try to get in to see them about this.  You are the only one who can step up and make the decesion to want to start to feel better...the longer you let this go the worse it will get.  Please, please call your doctor. 

Posted 3/8/2007 12:17 PM (GMT 0)
els the dr i was seeing is leaving so i have to wait until another ones comes before i can take measures to change from this one i have had similar problems with a lot of different ones but not for a while . so until we get another dr i have enough of this current one to take i don`t want to stop this one until then because i don`t want to feel any worse than i already am .I have been given the name of a few different ones that don`t have this particular side effect and i will take the list with me to see if they are available in my country .but thankyou anyway...Restless
Posted 3/9/2007 11:16 AM (GMT 0)
Tonight i`m all alone all my family have gone away for two days i was really loooking forward to having some time to myself but now i have it i`m actually not liking it at all .My daughter called in this afternoon but couldn`t stay i felt so dissappointed i just needed some one to be here with me especially after the way this week has been for me .and in view of whats happened lately i don`t want to be on my own ,i couldn`t go with my family as i can not be in the sun because of my skin cancer and they are water skiing for the next two days .In one way i am feeling better than i have been but then in others i`m not if that makes any sence some times i just feel as though i`m going crazy and my life is falling apart i have no idea from one minute to tne next what i`m even doing
Posted 3/9/2007 1:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi restless,
I myself love having a weekend to myself. I would pitter patter around the house,doing things like cleaning out cubboards,closets. Taking a loooooooong hot bath. Painting my toe nails.Anything girlie.
I love being able to just run around in my pajamas all day if I want.
Try doing things that you normally don't do for yourself.
Order take out and pig out in front of the tv,watching a chick flick that no one would have like if they were home. Or find a really steamy book.
I have even went shopping by myself and just spend a few hours looking at things I could not afford.

Take advantage of it.

Shy
Posted 3/9/2007 1:58 PM (GMT 0)
Shy thats what i planned for so long to be able to do but this week has been a particulary hard one for me with yet again so many problems that thats all i`ve been thinking about . If only i could wipe my mind clear of them all i only wish it would be so nice but there are so many issues that confront me . I haven`t even dreampt for years yet this past week i have had some disturbing dreams that i wake from in fright . Ijust lie there thinking for ages and then not to help matters i have been drinking a bit this last wek not that i drink to get drunk i will never do that in front of my kids ever not after my past but at least i have had some sleep . tonight i decided that thats not how i want to live anymore .`i just want some one to come and take all my problems away and set me free for a while then give them back one at a time so i can deal with each one at a time not all at once . Is that too much to ask for . Restless
Posted 3/9/2007 7:39 PM (GMT 0)
restless 1 --

I don't mean to be judgmental, but if you are drinking alone and drinking while on anti-depressants, then that is a problem. Alcohol is a depressant, and it has been proven to interfere with anti-depressants. Please, please call your doctor right away and get help. There are other meds/therapists out there, and you and your dr. need to discuss how they might help YOU. Alcohol is going to make this situation much, much worse.

zinniagirl
Posted 3/9/2007 9:10 PM (GMT 0)
I don't mean to sound clueless but if you don't have a doctor in your town, what about going to the closest town that does have a doctor?  Why wait for them to come to you?  Nothing will get better on its own, you have to take charge to change things.  The best thing to start with is  by going to a doctor.  Once you get this under control, the other stuff may not seem so overwhelming.
Posted 3/10/2007 9:14 PM (GMT 0)
Zinniagirl and stronglady for me on the 16th i travel down to the next major centry 350km away and will definately seek more medical help when downn there i have to take two of my kids down every eight weeks so it will also give me a chance to find someone new to see. Ididn`t know that wine was a depressant i have been only having a glass or two once in a while sometimes it helps me to sleep but i never take any pills if i have had a drink i know not to mix them.
On a brighter note at this moment i`m feeling a little better but very tired yesterday i slept for four hours during the day as during the night i only had three hours .Iknow i have some sort of but the aftrmath of the flu being dizzy ,lightheaded and cold all the time so just waiting for it to settle down now.Anyway thankyou all for your words over the past few days i just neded to talk to someone who understands what i`m going through as my family don`t.....Hugs......Restless
Posted 3/11/2007 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
Fingers crossed for the 16th! Hang in there, restless.

zinniagirl
Posted 3/11/2007 10:35 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks zinniagirl it`s just one day at a time at the moment and this is going to be a difficult week to get through and having my kids home for two days will be hard enough let alone the little ones i usually care for but today at least i feel a bit more settled so here`s hoping .Restless
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