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Posted 8/24/2008 10:30 AM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone. Thank-you for all your help and support. I am under a new and most difficult form of stress. I care for my 73 yr. old father who has alzheimers (evident to everybody but him) and have been told by Protection services "to get him into a warm dry safe environment pronto, or they will." I've been full out running since to find us a home for the winter as this one leaks, is very damp and in winter so cold you cannot get out of bed. I have had a bad reaction to the black mold here b/c the roof was let go for ten years before my arrival, and everything is wet and moldy. My eldest son is a toxic materials specialist and he says the house has to be torn down to the foundation, sprayed with fungicide and rebuilt $50,000 plus which we don't have. Also Sister and brother won't sign releases on family owned land to allow us to buy a decent house, or even rent w/o constant worry about how to make ends meet. This is a BIG  problem, but I think I have a bigger one.

I awoke yesterday with wobbly legs and tremendous pain shooting up my calves. Walking without bumping into furniture is difficult. Sometimes I feel like I.m going to collapse. The pain is unrelenting, mostly in my left leg and the tyno 3 doc gives me sparingly appearsto do nothing. Three weeks ago I awoke with a migraine. I get about two w=each week. After taking zomig, and waiting 1/2 hr, migraine was moving out and all of a sudden I developed such a pain in my chest I truely thought I was dying. The chest pain lasted about forty minuts and left me woozy. Anyone else out there having this kind of leg pain?

Posted 8/24/2008 12:56 PM (GMT 0)
Does your doctor know about the black mold. I don't think that would cause your leg pain but the chest pain and maybe even the migraine. Black mold is dangerous, you need to get out of that place immediately. Would your son be willing to take you and your father until you can find someplace to live. I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. The stress of the whole situation could be the cause of your chest pain also. Stress is incrediable hard on the body.

Talk with your brother and sister, maybe if they won't sign a release on the land, they would be willing to take your father, even if its temporary. First and formost both you and your father need to get out of that house.

I hope things work out for you, try really hard to relax a little and see your doctor.

I will be thinking of you and your father.

Meggie
Posted 8/24/2008 1:18 PM (GMT 0)
Tyno, stress can cause so many physical symptoms and can cause fibro flare. I'm sorry your sister and brother are being so selfish. Why has the burden of taking care of your dad fallen on your shoulders with so many others that could be helping???

I wish you the best of luck in finding a place to live. I have not had that type of pain in my legs. You never want to ignore chest pain unless it's costo or something you have had before and know it is fibro related.

luv and hugs

Marlee 

 

 

Posted 8/24/2008 2:07 PM (GMT 0)
Tyno,     I know two things from experience that I would like to share with you. It's probably not what you are going to like to hear.     One....If you try to do it all everyone else will back off and let you do it.     Two....It will destroy your body.     We have to stop being the other half of the equation. It is wrong to destroy ourselves with stress. We all find ourselves in heart traps and the way out is always painful but there is a way out. The question is will we walk out or will they carry us out?      I'm so sorry you are in this situation but sacrificing yourself will not make things better for your Dad and I bet if he knew how bad you feel he wouldn't want it either. You've got to let someone help you and not feel guilty when they do.      Just my two cents worth....don't mean to affend....just the truth as I see it. My heart goes out to you with my prayers.      
Posted 8/24/2008 2:47 PM (GMT 0)
 

 

Tyno,

 

If I were having chest pains like you are having, I would definately get away from the black mold, from everything I have read, it is dangerous. If your siblings won't help-move out and let them deal with it!

 

My fibro started in my legs (shins) 15 years ago. I thought I had shin splints when I went to the doctor. This was the first time I heard the word fibromyalgia. My shins don't hurt as much as they used to, but at the end of everyday, the calfs of both my legs are aching. Before I started taking Lyrica, my hamstrings were so inflamed that when I went to physical therapy, the therapist could feel how tight they were, the Lyrica took away most of the burning in my hamstring but not the aching in my calfs. For that I take Trammadol and Cymbalta, but I can guarantee you that fibro definately can exist in your legs.

 

I hope things get better for you...I'll pray. :-)

 

 

Posted 8/24/2008 6:19 PM (GMT 0)
Tyno,

  Hi, first I want to say I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this seemingly unfixable situation while you, yourself are so sick. I know what I am talking about here as i got "locked" into taking care of my Mom for almost 5 years while I was trying to get disability, had heart attacks etc.....my sister and brother, both who are well off, never called to see how things were going or to even offer words of encouragement. out of sight out of mind. Since i was there taking care of mom then they didnt have to and they didnt want to acknowledge it. 

   Anyway, I told my brother I could not take care of mom anymore, I moved. Dont get me wrong mom was basically able to do most everyday basics, mentally she was and is going downhill fast. I share no guilt what so ever as I did the best I could on my own.

  You do what you must do for both you and your fathers sake. I dont know your families history or dynamics but if the state says they will take him, they will! I would do what others here have suggested about letting other family members take over. I totally agree with chuzzle on this. Like i said, I have lived this. If you continue to as you have your family members WILL NOT just volunteer to help you or your dad out.

I also do not mean to offend you in anyway. Like my doctor told me, "get the heck out of there and take care of yourself!"

It was the best decisoin I have made in a long time.

Take care of yourself!

Breath

Posted 8/24/2008 6:30 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry but I lost this part of post to internet land....about your chest pain, Tyno, You really should immediately notify your Doctor about it. Women sometimes and usually do present with different symptoms when it comes to cardiovascular problems. Please, please do call you M.D. ASAP.!!!
Breath
Posted 8/24/2008 6:36 PM (GMT 0)
Tyno, did  you know that black mold can cause memory problems?  Maybe that's what is going on with your father!

 

Sherrine

Posted 8/24/2008 6:47 PM (GMT 0)
Sherrine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Excellent thought and pick up on that! So true! And if it is not the cause it sure as heck can definately make it alot worse!

Kudos! yeah

Breath

Posted 8/24/2008 8:58 PM (GMT 0)
Wow! Thanks for all the support. What really stands out is that Fibro can involve, and even manifesst as leg pain. I was beginning to freak out cause my mother has MS and that weakness, bumping into things and leg pain was her first symptom (s). Also, your kind prayers worked b/c today I found this really beautiful house, right on the water, and if things work out we'll have it for winter. It's so bright and cheery, and now for the best part, it has three bathrooms, Again thank-you all for your  support.

Posted 8/25/2008 12:00 AM (GMT 0)
I'd like to share a little about this leg pain followed by chest pain. It could be blood clots in your legs caused by lack of activity and sluggish blood flow in the legs. This can be serious.

I hate to bring another negative thought into your situation. I am caring for my Father but have lots of help. We are are fortunate that Dad still has it all mentally and is living in a retirement home. But I do the meds, doctors visits, laundry etc. I suggest you get out of the situation m, if you can. It is easy to be trapped when sibling refuse to help. Your health should come first!
Posted 8/25/2008 10:59 AM (GMT 0)
Again, Thanks for all the support. I will be going into a new house, clean and dry from Sept. 6 - May 6. I won't be coming back to this house to live ever. there's a chance we will put the entire farm on the market in January. My dad is in agreement (as much as an alzheimers person can be in agreement). We will use those funds to find a clean, dry, suitable place close to the very best facility in our area for alzheimers patients. It will ease the transition for Dad. he can go for a few hours, then a day, then overnight, then a weekend, and when the time comes, he will come to live there. I feel much more comfortable with this plan. The siblings, who seem to like to squabble and sabotage can squable and sabotage to their hearts content, just not with me. I believe a lot of the health problems I'm experiencing come from this environment. I had been living in an apartment prior to coming here and was much more physically active. Heck, I couldn't work in my own field b/c of the incredible stress associated with it (Child protection) so I was doing post construction cleaning for a living. Right now, here, I don't have the strength to sweep the floor. That says a lot. Again, without the support of you folks and the A :-) lzheimers'Caregivers forum, I don't think I'd have made it. Period.
Posted 8/25/2008 11:19 AM (GMT 0)

Tyno3!

I am absolutely THRILLED for you and your Father! My continued best wishes for you and also I want to commend you for taking on the unthankful task of the care of your Father! What I had posted earlier was concern for YOUR well being,I am so sorry if I offended you in anyway from my earlier post. I feel I stuck my grape stompers in my mouth again. but caregivers of the family truly are angels. I am so happy for you I dont know what else to say! (which is weird for me, but i think Kelly71 still beats me for the one who has the longest posts!) (joking Kelly! turn )

Anyway Tyno, take care and keep us posted. I hope your new home will bring you the comfort and blessings you so deserve!

Breath!

Posted 8/25/2008 2:51 PM (GMT 0)
Breath,

This has nothing to do with this thread, but I keep reading the quote that you have from your great grandmother. That is a beautiful thought and so true. Thank you for sharing it.



Bev
Posted 8/25/2008 8:32 PM (GMT 0)
I'm not completely out of the woods yet, I still have the move, setting up utilities. getting dad there, But most importantly, I've taken the necessary steps to begin to get better. Now, I only have to figure out how to get through two remaining weeks in this hellhole. I'm almost considering taking a short term rental or inexpensive hotel to get through. I have made the Doctor's Appt. Only, I have to wait till Sept 9 for that. Because I get migraines every other day, I feel I'm playing with fire as the medicine which treats the migraines, constricts all blood vessels in the body and therefore causes the chest pain. It's not the drug for me, too dangerous. The older drug Fiorcet, apparently has phenobarbital in it therefore doc won't give it to me due to dependency issues aren't an issue if you're dead from heart attack.

Posted 8/26/2008 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
tyno, You could check out the thread titled Fibro and Headaches and see the different things that people here use for migrains. Do a search at the top of the forum and it should bring up everything here about head aches. I vote you get out of Dodge......rent a motel room or something. I'm so glad you can see the end of this terrible time and you are getting some help with your Dad.
Posted 8/26/2008 2:12 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much Bev, that quote from my Great grandma is my favorite 'gift' from her. She was truly special.
Breath
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