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Posted 1/25/2009 12:43 PM (GMT 0)
So even though I was in screaming pain I decided to get out of the house and visit a friend on Friday.  I figured I could feel like someone had set me on fire anywhere.  I'm driving along our two lane road out of town and see flashing lights behind me.  No way am I speeding...wondered if the cop wanted to pass me...drove slowly for a bit then he got right on my rear bumper.  There are four foot SNOW banks here, piled along the shoulder of the road so I found a driveway and pulled in.  The stupid cop just stopped in the road, of course, so all the traffic had to ease around him.  I started to open the door to pull out my purse strap which was caught in it... which I now know is the kiss of death.  I hear at the top of his lungs "SHUT YOUR DOOR...NOW!  AND KEEP YOUR HANDS WHERE I CAN SEE THEM!"   He is standing next to my side view mirror with his hand on his gun!  "Turn off your radio and roll down the window!" he yells with his eyes bulging out of his head.  I rolled down the window and he screams "What are you, DEAF?  Do you have any idea how long I have been flashing you with the siren on?  At least a half a mile!  Give me your license and registration."  I looked at him and said..."I am a tad deaf from a disease I have of the inner ear.  And I wasn't going to stop in the middle of the street."  He snatches my info and disappears for about fifteen minutes.  When he returned he hands me a ticket.  "Do you know why I stopped you?"  I told him no.  Because your inspection sticker has expired.  Your court day is February 23rd. So I asked him where traffic court was in our town and he says..."The Town hall on State Street...unless you know a judge or a district attorney, HA HA HA!"  I said...'Well then.  When I play bridge next week with (gave name of our county supreme court judge) and (gave name of our district attorney and lives two houses down from me) then I guess I'll just hand them this ticket.

OMG!  All of a sudden he starts stuttering and stammering and tells me if I get the car inspected before the court date he will make sure I don't have to pay the fine.  Then he says he is sorry for my hearing condition and wishes me a very nice day.  "I'll sit in my car and make sure you pull out into traffic safely" he continues.

I did not have one Fibro Fog moment through all of this!  Found license and registration with ease and as I was pulling away just mumbled...you can kiss my %$^&*, you bald headed Kojak wanna be.

i am thinking of reporting him for standing there with his hand on his gun.  That was unnecessary for an expired inspection sticker!

Huggies

donna

 

Posted 1/25/2009 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
Wow. It takes a certain kind of man to pull a gun on a lady who has an expired saftey sticker. I did personality profiles back in the good old days, some cops, not all, but some suffer from inadequate personality disorder. They gotta play the big man, power tripping around town. Now, not all are like that but beware. We were held up at the border, my son and I trying to re-enter Canada.The rubber stamp lady on the Canada side sent us back to the US side b/c apparently, I was supposed to have some kind of inspection done on my vehicle in order to cross over. When the five heavily armed bored border guys got hold of us, they put us in a freezing cold room and interrogated us for hours. Only thing was I have Permanent status in US signed by Henry Kissinger. My son was with me and underage. They woke their supervisor up in the middle of the night for direction. He asked "what does the boy want to do?", "Well, he wants to go to Canada". "Well what do we do when we have an illegal immigrant?" "We march them back to their country of origin." What is his country of origin? asks Supervisor." Well, he's Canadian." Where does he want to go?" Canada." " You woke me up in the middle of the night for this?" Then, although I had a dog and cat onboard, which both had proper paperwork, the idiots promised me they would not open the truck, unless I was present. They did anyway. They broke my dog's tail when closing the hatch, ________. By now it was daylight. I was positively sick and enraged. Not the best trip I ever took. 

Posted 1/25/2009 3:31 PM (GMT 0)
Yikes!!!! I must look very innocent cause I have only had one speeding ticket in my life, been given one verbal warning and was stopped coming home from a New Year's party one year by a small town cop looking for people drinking and driving and I hadn't been drinking, I was driving cause Ken had a couple of drinks. I speed all the time.

 

We don't have to have car inspections here.

 

Tyno, I would have been very upset over that and them breaking your dog's tail.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Posted 1/25/2009 3:51 PM (GMT 0)

Once, many years ago when I lived in Buffalo, hubby and I had to take friends of ours to the Toronto airport.  We crossed the Peace Bridge with no problem but coming back, the border patrol waved us over and immediately began tearing our car apart with his buddies.  Took out the seats, pryed off the hubcaps, dumped my purse right on the ground...dumped the glove compartment, ripped the lining out of the trunk.  They told us a vehicle like ours had been 'tagged' for running drugs. 

When they were done they apologized for the mistake and just walked away with our car all apart in this parking lot!  The hubby about popped an artery, but the best they would do was give us the tools we needed to put the seats and hubcaps back on.

Oops!

huggies

donna

Posted 1/25/2009 4:06 PM (GMT 0)
Oh my goodness, don't even get me started on cops lol (Always had a real problem with authority figures nono  ) And I have ran into some nasty arrogant police officers.. the only nice cop I honestly have ever came across was the one when I was 5 and in a bad car accident with my grandfather and brother.. I was bawling my eyes out and yelling for my barney stuffed animal (YES THE BIG PURPLE DINOSAUR, HA HA!) and he just held me in his arms and even went to get barney out of the back seat.. I'll never forget him; he comforted me while my grandfather was too worked up and before my parents got a chance to get there.

That's a little ridiculous for him to have his hand on his gun for such a trivial situation, but remember to NEVER TRY TO open YOUR DOOR, DONNA! LOL

Idiot cops. Psh.

_________________________________________

21 years old

Fibromyalgia, Bipolar, OCD, Dependent Personality Disorder

"You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you." -Mary Tyler Moore

Posted 1/25/2009 4:10 PM (GMT 0)
WOW!  The police are getting nasty, huh?  I was stopped once.  I was in high school and was going through a school zone doing 35 mph and school was just letting out!   nono   I was heading home from the hairdresser's.  The officer asked for my license and I didn't have it with me.  smhair    I told him that he could follow me home and I'd show it to him.  I said I had just had my hair done and I took one hand and "fluffed" it up.  Then I asked him how he liked it!  turn   By this time, he was smiling and leaning in the window.  He didn't say anything for a very long 30 seconds so I looked at him and asked him if he wanted to follow me home.  He said no and that I should be more careful next time.  He let me go without giving me a ticket!  yeah    I guess it's all in the technique!  devil

 

Sherrine

Posted 1/25/2009 5:41 PM (GMT 0)

Great come back Donna!

Next time he might give it a little more thought when he pulls over a sweet, innocent lady he won't give her so much grief!!

GamJill 

Posted 1/25/2009 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
I think I should follow my "rogue cops" storey with a story about a very kind, gentleman mountie who had given me tremendous help dealing with Dad (ALzheimers) over the past six weeks. Those of you on Alzheimer's forum have heard it. When it got to the point where I could not take any more (unintended, but real) abuse from my Dad, I called 911. The mounties came with two ambulances, as it was an  attempted assault, yet when we got to emergency, there was this very kind, knowledgable, gentleman mountie, who came from home to support my story of what had transpired, even though he wasn't on duty. He drove 50 miles out of his way at night, off duty to make sure the doctors evaluating Dad had proof of the goings on over the six week period prior. That is a good Police Officer.

Posted 1/26/2009 12:06 AM (GMT 0)
i have gotten three tickets in the time i have had fibro.. thank god they haven't pulled my license 2 within 6 months of each other the last back in october for not wearing a seatbeat.... the cop was so rude it wasn't funny wish i could have went to court to fit it but i am from a small town and i know he would be looking for me to get me again so just paid the fine and lost 2 points its easier than having a cop with a grudge against ya



Its so nice to hear the good stories
Posted 1/26/2009 1:18 PM (GMT 0)
Small town cops, usually don't have much training, and some have dead-ended where they stand. Many are local correctional custodians, and got themselves hired for a change of scenery. We lived in a small town with 800 residents, mostly retired, and 11 cops. Those there fellows packing those there guns had to have something to occupy their time. They got themselves a big old police dog who'd flunked out of police dog school. All one had to do was put a handfull of cheetos in a baggy in the back seat and that's all the dog cared about. Gotta have those cheetos. So, that's a general description. The nights the hugh, cigarette boats arrived after 11PM to go "fishing", with one vip and many deckhands, all the local constabulary were on the complete opposite side of town conducting a roadblock. Could not find a cop that night if you were being murdered. My son was arrested for possession of cigarette rolling papers. Unfortunately, we both smoke, we both roll our own and yes, they sell them right front and centre in each of the two convenience stores in town. I argued that if my son were to be arrested for possession of one package, Stoney, the owner of both convenience stores should be arrested for possession of approx. 3000 packages. Judge wasn't interested. He had his own interpretation of law, sometime to do with tee times at the local golf clubs. My son got probation. his probation officer was this really nice little guy, he said he once lived in our town and couldn't stand it, he asked me when my son and I planned to head back to Canada? Basically, he was saying they will crucify an outsider. He said he would mark the file closed as soon as I called and said we were on the move. Done. If you read the earlier post about the US customs officials, that was my son and I trying to flee  small town politics, get our feet back on soil that wanted us.   

Posted 1/26/2009 2:18 PM (GMT 0)

Do not report the officer. Theirs is a job that they literally put themselves in possibly dangerous situations everytime they pull someone over. They NEVER know who or what is in that vehicle. So when an officer goes to pull someone over and that person does not immediately pull over it creates suspicion. Then when that person tries to exit the vehicle before the officer gets to them (which is perceived as aggression) it becomes even more suspicious. People generally exit their vehicle for one of three reasons.... they do not know better / they do not want the officer to see anything in their vehicle / they are going to be aggressive towards the office.

The officer did not pull his weapon.... his stressful moment went by without incident.

Posted 1/26/2009 2:38 PM (GMT 0)

Jokat...I opened the door a rat hair because my purse strap was caught in it and for a moment, I thought that is why he might have stopped me.  I knew he would want my drivers license and needed my purse.  Yet once I told him this he continued to treat me like I was a drug smuggler.  I am a 63 year old grandmother, was not speeding and I have every right to find a safe place to pull over...I don't care if it's ten miles.  A half mile is not that far to 'chase' someone, especially when the roads are piled with snow.  I just spent three months serving on a grand jury.  I live in a small town and spent those three months hearing nothing but DWI cases.  His treatment of me was excessive, rude and totally uncalled for, for an expired inspection sticker.  HIS stressful Moment???  about twenty five yards ahead of where I pulled over was a sign welcoming me into another county.  THAT was his stressful moment...afraid he wouldn't get me before I got out of his juristiction.

And by the way, because of the rise in police impersonators, it is completely lawful for single women especailly, to drive to a well lit, populated area to pull over when they see the flashing lights.  It is also advised that if you see the  flashing lights in your rear view mirror at night, to call 911 and have them on the phone while being interegated.

Donna


Posted 1/29/2009 5:42 PM (GMT 0)
Donna you have every right to wait to pull over until it's safe. I don't have a cell phone but they say to call 911 and tell them to radio the cop to tell him you're not pulling over until it's safe. Especially if you are a woman and alone. I guess if you don't have a phone put your 4-ways on and go slow until you find a safe spot.

I got pulled over when I was young (and didn't know enough to fight tickets in court) I went through a yellow light through a long intersection. A cop sitting in his car 4-5 cars back (who really couldn't see what happened) pulled me over. I was scared and asked what was wrong and he said I ran a red light. I told him it was yellow he got so mad he was mean. he gave me a ticket for it. I should have fought it because really it was yellow and there is no way he could have seen me even in the end of the intersection due to the angle. But I was young and he was a bully.
Posted 1/31/2009 7:27 AM (GMT 0)

omgosh Donna!  Good for you.  Reminds me of the time when a police officer offered to throw me in jail for making an illegal u turn!

Sue

Posted 1/31/2009 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
wow. I am glad you stood up for yourself. I know you are always suppose to remain in your car when stopped, or they freak out. I would have done the same as far as continuing to drive, so you could find a safe place to pull over. I don't think you did anything wrong. Sometimes I think people become cops to play power trips and get away with illegal things themselves. That is a horrible case though. I cannot believe he was ready to pull a gun on you. WOW! You handled it very well. The sad thing is it shouldn't matter if you know the judge or not, he was not right in how he was acting. This is why when you said that he started being nice. I am proud of you for standing up for yourself and doing a great job. Way to go!
Posted 2/1/2009 5:07 AM (GMT 0)
I guess in a way I'm lucky becasue my father is a retired air force officer, he was for 23 years, so he still acts like one, so I know how to react to unfriendly cops and what to say. 3 years ago when I had my bad car accident on the freeway, these other people who pulled over when they saw it came to check on me and there was this one dude that kept asking me if I was drunk or on drugs, and I kept telling him no. So when the state trooper finally arrived I could hear that guy telling the trooper that he was pretty sure I was under the influence of something and the cop said he would check, well when the trooper got to my window he asked me what happened and stuff but never asked me if I was under the influence, and the guy was upset and the trooper told him to please be on his way, and the guy got mad. The cop said their was no reason to beleive I was on anything cause I wasnt acting like I was or smelled of beer, I just told him I got too sleepy, so he gave me a ticket for "driving with wheels off of road" and that was it.

And once when I was a 17 (the have no brains age) and just got my driver's license, my friend asked me to give her boyfriend a ride home (at 2am)so I did, when suddenly I was being pulled over, they waited in their cars for about 3 minutes when suddenly I had like 5 or more cop cars behind us, I was scared to death. Fianlly one came to my window and asked me if I knew why I was being pulled over, and I told him no, when suddenly he started taking my friend's bf asking him if his name was "sonso" and he said no, when he really was. So when the cop asked him for his birthday this dude told him it was 13-13-79, I'm not kidding, the cop was like "13 huh?". So of course they asked him to step out of the car and when they got him away from my car the cop asked me who that was and I told him it's exactly who they think it is, and gave him his ID that he try to hide in my car. So they of course arrested him and he called me some really nasty names when he got in the back of the police car, and the cop came over and told me to drive home safely, NEVER giving me the reason for why he pulled me over.....(yes I know if was becasue they reconized the guy in the car but he asked me if I knew why he pulled me over). I was terribly embarrassed for having that guy in my car, the cops probably thought I was a low life just like him.

-hellokitty
Posted 2/1/2009 7:21 PM (GMT 0)
I just thought I'd add some funny cop stories since you guys are keeping me laughing today. For starters, I was married to a cop. Needless to say that didn't work out because he was rude, stubborn, demeaning, and sexist. He was all into working out and trying to look like a body builder (apparently before I met him he had a great body). I think he was just trying to make up for how dumb he was. He had to exert control over everything in our lives in order to compensate for fact that he could barely read! He had the nerve to say my job as a teacher in a high risk school was a cake walk compared to being a cop! It's pretty easy to get a job as a cop if you're willing to work. That's why there are so many trigger happy morons running around with badges! Wow, this is great talking about something other than my Fibro.

about a year ago, my sister was driving with myself and my daughters in the car. We were leaving my parent's house and she rolled through a stop sign at an intersection near a dead end street. A cop pulled us over and proceeded to give my confidently sexy sister a warning citation. Once the cop left, my 7 year old said "Aunt Heather, what is a warning citation". My sister replies with "It means you're too hot to get a ticket". I guess it's a good thing I wasn't the one who got pulled over.

I have bad luck with cops. the onset of my fibro was after a car accident that was not my fault. A kid ran a stop sign at a busy intersection and plowed into me, totaling my car, breaking my hand and my sister's wrist, and scaring the crap out of my 6 year old daughter at the time. The cop actually followed us to the hospital to chase me down and give me a ticket for an expired tag! How absurd! Obviously I'm not gonna go pay the tag fees now that the car is totaled. Anyway, I went to court and only had to pay court costs.

This is where my fibro comes into play. Within days of actually being diagnosed, I was driving downtown for an Art Educators meeting and I wasn't sure exactly how to get to the school, so I was already a bit disoriented. I turned down a one-way street (going the right way!) but I was in the right lane. I needed to make a left turn, so I just went and turned as if I were on a two way street. Needless to say, another car in the left hand lane plowed into my 1 year old car. It's kind of hard to explain, but I really don't remember the thought process that I had before these events occurred. Even at the time, I couldn't figure out how I could have made such a mistake! We were both OK this time but both cars had damages. I didn't dare tell the officer how disoriented I felt. I just owned up to being in the wrong (in the previous wreck, the guy tried to say I was speeding and in a school zone although I am a teacher and school was out) and took my well deserved ticket. It should have been written to Fibromyalgia, not me! lol

Thanks fro the cop topic, I needed a break! :-) :-)
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