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Posted 3/14/2009 10:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone. I just needed to talk to someone. I am feeling down, and I really don't know why. Ever since I was sick, I just have not felt at all like myself. And even though I am better, I am having a hard time bouncing back. I just feel kind of alone. I really don't have many friends. And I feel like I am stuck in the house all the time. I don't know. It is really hard to explain. I just needed to talk to someone, and I like talking to all of you. You guys are my friends, and you all seem to understand me really well. Thanks for just letting me talk.
Posted 3/14/2009 10:33 PM (GMT 0)
(((((((((((Tiki)))))))))))))
Can you do something nice for yourself or something you enjoy? I am glad you reached out. When you are feeling down, that is hard to do. Maybe getting some fresh air and sunshine (do you have any there) will do you some good.
Big hug
Sue
Posted 3/14/2009 10:41 PM (GMT 0)
I don't really have money to do something that I really enjoy. I may read a book in the bath tub. I don't know. The weather out isn't too bad. But anytime I go outside, I want to smoke, and I am trying to cut back because my husband and I are going to quit soon. I just haven't felt like myself since I got sick. I don't know if anyone else has a hard time bouncing back like this or not. I am thankful that I can come here and just talk and I know that someone will listen and say something to help encourage me. So, thank you for that.

Posted 3/14/2009 11:17 PM (GMT 0)
Since I had the stomach flu three weeks ago, I have not felt the same. Having a terrible flare, especially with my lower back and legs, and feet. I would think by now it would be cleared up, but have had a LOT of stress in my life in the last few weeks, besides that horrific stomach flu. Its hard to predict a flare or what that heck brings it on. I am soooooooo sick of feeling this way also. I feel so alone.
Vent all you want, it does help. Wish I could make all our pains go away. Try
and relax, cry if you must, but know that this too shall pass.
Hugs to you

Sue
Posted 3/14/2009 11:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hi TikiIsMyKitty.
The first time I thought that all my pains were not just arthritis was several years ago after a bad cold. Even weeks after the cold I just wasnt myself. I usually have pretty much energy, all things considered. I remember sitting in my living room thinking how horrible I was feeling all of the time. No energy and pain everywhere. Walking up stairs was a chore. I did find some good books to read. Maybe a little walk outside and then reading a good book-maybe something humorous-in a tub of warm water might help. Can't hurt. I finally got a library card and look for mysteries with some humor involved for days that I need to rest more. Hope you start feeling better soon and good luck with the smoking.

Puppylover
Posted 3/15/2009 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
Tiki,

When you go out, don't take your cigarettes, or only take one. I know how you feel. I try not to smoke in the house, so outside is like cigarettes to me. But I try to break up that concept and stop relating the outdoors to smoking. I really think a walk in the sunshine would do us all some good.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/15/2009 4:07 PM (GMT 0)
When I get really down I find that walking does help me.  I like to look around at nature and, even though my brain is still going 20 mph, I'm not down when I'm outside. 

 

Lately I've had some really down times so I stopped watching the news.  If you aren't depressed, that sure can make you depressed!  I record old movies and comedies and watch them in the evenings.  Then I am able to sleep better and the sleep will help you too.

 

You will get over this...we all do.  I have a card on my refrigerator that says, "Lord, help me remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that You and I, together, can't handle."  I read that in the morning and it makes me smile and gives me peace.

 

I hope you are having a much better day today.

 

Sherrine

Posted 3/15/2009 5:18 PM (GMT 0)
I feel lonely too. so if we lived near each other I say hey lets go hang out on the porch. Hoping you know your though of. Denise
Posted 3/15/2009 5:20 PM (GMT 0)
I found out that the reason I have been ill is because I am going through withdraw from my xanax. Unfortunately, there is nothing to do but ride it out. I hope it ends quickly. I am tired of feeling this way. I hate that every little thing gets me so down physically and emotionally. I am relying on God for my strength. It is so nice, though, to have all of you on here to talk to. It means so much to me. I don't really have friends around here, so to have all of you guys is a huge deal. So thanks for that.

Posted 3/15/2009 6:24 PM (GMT 0)
When a person has any long term illness or chronic pain,it is hard to make yourself 'think' differently. For me it was like going through a perasonality change. I am in pain 24/7.If it is not one thing,it is another. I have come a LONG way from the beginning. I used to be a happy go lucky care free spur of the moment woman.Everything has changed. The hardest part was not dealing with the pain(mostly,LOL)it was accepting that I was no longer the person I used to be.
Also accepting that I no longer could work and then being divorced all at once was an overload.
But I survived.
Posted 3/15/2009 6:57 PM (GMT 0)

Oh ((Kitty))

I most certainly relate to what you're going through.  Big ((((HUG))))).  I'm not the most religious person, but the quote that Sherrine posted means alot to me.  We found the same saying in a little frame on my Mother In Law's bedside table, she really charished that saying and truly believed in it.  After she passed away my husband & I took the little frame and placed it on the shelves in the kitchen, right next to the phone.  We are constantly reminded of her and her favorite motto.

Exactly one year ago I was very sick and wound up with pneumonia, though I got over the pneumonia (which took FOREVER) it made my fibro really rear its ugly head.  I've been on again off again flares for almost a year now.  I left my job because of my health and I've been cooped up in my house all winter.  I don't have the friends I used to, because most of them were "work friends" so I get really down and lonely sometimes. Money is a problem too since I'm not working. 

I'm so glad I've had this forum and all of the friends I've met here.  :-)

I think I'm in the same boat you're in.  I try to get out and do stuff but somedays I just don't have it in me.  I'm exhausted and sore all of the time.   But I think I'm going to have to force myself to get out and do something at least 4 days a week.  It doesn't even have to cost money, maybe a walk in the park or keeping an eye on the local paper for upcoming events that are free.  Our library has alot of stuff going on that's usually free.  Starting projects that I can't finish drives me nuts, so if I do have a project it has to be short term. 

Since it seems like everyone is always trying to give us fibromites annoying advice, I won't give you any, but just know, I'm here and I understand. I pop in to the forum a couple of times a day, so I'll be around if you need me :-)

Take care,

Posted 3/15/2009 7:45 PM (GMT 0)
I really appreciate everyone here. I honestly don't know what I would do without you guys. You all seem to really understand me and what I am going through. It is just such a blessing to have some people who know and get what I am going through. I am so blessed to have you all.

Posted 3/15/2009 10:06 PM (GMT 0)
I know that I try to keep a lot of my pains to myself and end up isolating myself sometimes because of that. I don't want people to think I'm crazy or a hypochondriac. I often feel down too.

Sorry you're having a hard time. Feel better soon!
Posted 3/15/2009 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you are feeling so bad.  Believe me I understand.  You are very lucky to be a part of this fibro family.  I have never been a part of anything, I have never felt that I "belonged" in any situation.  I was hoping that finding you guys would be different, that if you couldn't see me or hear my voice maybe you would be more accepting of me.  But I can't get past the feeling of not belonging, that I am bothering people and that people just feel that they have to tolerate me.  I have never been so depressed in my life.  I keep trying to find a reason for my existance, but there isn't one.  I told you guys that my 13 yr old son left me to go live with his dad out of state because I never take them any where or do anything outside of the house.  Well, yesterday my 15 yr old son was mad at me because I took away his video game priviledges (sp) until he brings his grades back up (which has always been a house rule) and I heard him on the phone with his father saying how much he hates me and what a terrible mother I am etc... but then he said "thats why Josh left home, he got as far away from her as fast as he could." His father must of told him to give me a break because I wasn't feeling well cause then my son said, "she's never feeling well!  I don't even think theres anything wrong with her just like everyone else says!"  Guys, it felt like someone punchede me in the stomach. I actually threw up.  My heart is so broken.  I love my kids so much and they are such good kids.  My son has never spoken like that to or about anyone before, he is always so kind and sensitive so for him to say this is tearing me apart.  I feel that I could just lay down and die.  My children are all I have all I've ever cared about and now they hate me and want to be away from me.  I had a Dr's appt right after my son said that to find out the results from some biopsies (my dad had colon cancer at my age) and I found myself PRAYING with all my heart and soul that he would tell me I  had cancer.  Well he said that something got screwed up so they have to do it again in May.  See how I got totally off track and made this about me?   HATE WHEN I DO THAT!! THAT'S WHY I STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE.  My point was suppose to be that I want so badly to belong to your "family" because you guys are the kindest most understanding people I have ever come across, but I don't feel that I am good enough to be part of what you have.  I guess I'm just a loser in real life and in cyberspace.  You guys are so lucky to have eachother!  I come on here several times everyday and read all of your posts and it makes me feel a little better, I can pretend that I am a part of something and that I have friends, and then I feel a little less lonely.  I have come to care deeply about all of you and find myself thinking about you throughout the day and hoping that you are all o.k.   I know I must sound like a complete fruitcake.  I'm sorry.  Tikiismykitty, if I could take away all your sadness and loneliness I would in a heart beat.  Please take care of yourself.

Posted 3/15/2009 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
I feel down right now because I am not the only person that all of this has been hard on. My husband is having a really rough time with all of this as well, and I just don't know what to do for him. I am just trying to do the best that I can and take care of myself. I don't know what else to do. I don't even know what all to do for myself, let alone help my husband through all of this.

Posted 3/16/2009 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Ouch sad   oh girls, I wish I had some way to just take all your heartache away,  I've gone thru what you have, not to the extent that fireandice is, but I do remember my daughter saying" Mom when are you not sick. It hurt, but it was different.  Fireandice we talked earlier my e-mail is on my member listing if either you or tiki wants to talk.  I can't fix things but I surley can pray and listen. God bless you.  Denise
Posted 3/16/2009 1:35 AM (GMT 0)

Denise,
Your prayers mean a lot. I know that the Bible talks about how when two or more people come into prayer together about something that God looks down with even more favor, or something like that. I really appreciate your prayers. They really do mean a lot to me.

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