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Posted 12/14/2010 6:02 AM (GMT 0)
cry I have been feeling so disgustingly horrible lately. I've had fibro since I was 17 and I'm 23 now. My mother, father, and grandfather all have fibro. I have some good days but those are rare lately. Most days I feel like not even getting out of bed. I can't make myself get up or do anything around the house. I feel comepletely usless and I just want someone to talk to that actually understands what its like to have fibro. I feel like the whiner at work and most days I'm not sure I'm even gonna make through my shift. I end up crying after work because I'm in so much pain. And my friends don't understand. They think I'm just lazy. I feel like a third wheel wherever I go because I can't do anything. Its been so hard to lose any weight because of the pain. I think right now I just need someone to talk to and listen.
Posted 12/14/2010 6:52 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Vyserane...and welcome to our Fibro Family!

Once you come in the door you are immediately taken in and loved. These wonderful people here DO understand what your life is like and DO understand the emotional side of living with fibro.

Unfortunately there's no cure and it's very easy to get into a 'hole' you find nearly impossible to get out of. I get there myself off and on and it's no fun.

First, I'm assuming you are under a doctors' care. Have you talked to your doc about possibly taking something for depression. I know that's an ugly word but one of the most common treatments for fibro is a very light dose of an antidepressant. Some people need a therapeutic dose and others don't find it useful but it's worth a try.

Then, is there maybe a support group in your area where you could connect with others in person? For some people this is helpful too. Plus, it gets you out of the house and around people who are more like you with their health concerns. You don't have to give up your other friends.

And... there are psychiatrists who specialize it treating people with chronic pain. For may people on this forum this has been a God-send! Give that some thought also.

Please feel free to share what's going on in your life on a day to day basis. You're not whining...you are reaching out to others who understand and care. (extending hand)

Hang on...
Chutz
Posted 12/14/2010 7:10 AM (GMT 0)
Vyserane, welcome to the fibro family! I'm so sorry for your pain. We really do
understand This forum has wonderful, supportive members who do care about
one another.


Finding pain relief is truly trial and error...what works for one doesn't always work
for another. I think for the majority of us find moist heat helps. We are on all
differant types of med combos. I take Savella and use muscle relaxers for flares.
Are you on any meds and do you see a rheumy?

Exercise is one of the best things for us. I'm a walker and found it to help reduce stress. I started very slowly and now on some days can walk 3 miles, that
something I thought I could never do living with chronic pain. If we don't move
we hurt all the more. Gentle stretching throughout the day helps.

If you check out fibro 101 on the top of page one, you will find a wonderful
resource of great info including some gentle stretching exercises. There
is a link to the Spoon Theory that you should read and could print out a copy
for your friends to read...they might understand what you are dealing with.

I find that taking one day at a time really helps and focusing on what I can do
to be more proactive is the key to dealing with the craziness of fibro.

Keeping active does help distract the pain, so if you can do something you really
enjoy, it is a good thing.

You are not useless, you are in pain. Many of us found that our vitamin D levels
were very low, adding to the pain. You might want to get that checked if you
haven't already.

Fibromites are really strong people. Know you can live a wonderful life in spite
of pain. We are here to cheer you on. Remember you are stronger than you know
Be kind to yourself, you are really worth it :) I believe if you start out slow with
the exercise you will start feeling better and your goal of losing weight will
happen for you. Many members have had success, you can too :)

I'm so glad you have joined us. Post often we really care!!!

Hugs, Robin
Posted 12/14/2010 2:09 PM (GMT 0)
 

 Hi Verserane,    I, and many others here can relate to what you are going through.

You didn't mention if you are under a doctors care, though I'm assuming you are. If not please see one as soon as you can.  There are medications whether they be  rxs or supplements that can really help.

You have found a special group of people here, and we have gone through,( and sometimes still do)  the same kind of struggles you mentioned.  Robin and Chutz have given you some good tips, and I want to encourage you to try some of these.

It's is so okay to reach out for help and support, and I'm  glad you are here!

For me my faith and relationship with the Lord helps more than words can say. Reading the bible and seeing that God is there, and cares, and loves me helps tremendously. He knows exactly what you are going through, and is more than able to strengthen you, and encourage you through His word.  He says "if" we seek Him, we will find Him, and He will be our strong tower.

I know others will be along to give you a hearty welcome too. Don't be shy about posting, and asking questions, information is power, and there is lots of it here.

Blessings

Debbie

The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in Him.    Nahum 1:7 

Posted 12/14/2010 4:20 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Vyserane and welcome to the forums! I'm sorry it's pain that brought you here, but you've found a wonderful support system. Everyone here knows exactly how you feel at any given point...we've all gone through it ourselves.

It sounds to me like depression is also plaguing you, so I would suggest a visit to your doctor and a referral to a counselor. There are many that work on a sliding pay scale, so mention that to your doctor. It might be worth trying an anti-depressant. I take Cymbalta...primarily for my Fibro, but it did help to lift my spirits somewhat, so perhaps that's an option.

Other than that, things that will help you include lots of fresh veggies and fruit, plan out your meals for the week and shop for them. This way, you're not tempted by going to the store every day. Drink lots of water, and go for a walk. If all you can manage today is from the door to the sidewalk, excellent!!! Tomorrow, you can do that, plus another 10 feet to the next "landmark" you pick out. It's a great encourager and you'll see progress before you know it!

A question from me...what type of work do you do? Are you able to find another position in your company that might be easier physically? Can you ask for an ergonomic assessment at your job, so you're not in as much pain? I'll be praying for you, that some answers will come your way.

Good luck to you!

Pam
Posted 12/14/2010 6:05 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Vyserane, and welcome!  I'm so glad you joined our family.  We have wonderful members that love to help one another and, as a bonus, really do care about each other, too.  I think you will like it here.

 

You have gotten really great advice from the other members that have responded so far so I'm not going to repeat it.  But, do listen to them.  They are right on the money! 

 

No, you are not lazy, either.  You are suffering from a chronic pain illness that is recognized by the American Medical Association, the National Institute of Health, the American College of Rheumatology, and the World Health Organization to name a few.  It's not a "wastebasket" illness either.  If you aren't seeing a doctor about fibro, please do and also make sure they treat fibro patients.  Believe it or not, there are still doctors out there that don't think fibro is a real illness.  You want to run as fast as you can from these types of doctors.   Call ahead and ask first if they tread fibro patients before making an appointment.

 

Be sure to check out Fibro 101...the first thread on the forum.  There are links to good info about fibro and you will learn a lot there.  You can print some of it out to help your family and friends try to understand, too.  That doesn't always work but it's worth the try.

 

Don't hesitate to ask questions because we are here to help you.  I'm looking forward to getting to know you better and I hope to hear from you soon.

 

Sherrine

 

 

Posted 12/14/2010 6:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hi and welcome. I am still new here too. It seems a great place to meet and talk to people who UNDERSTAND. tongue   That is so important to me. Sometimes I just want to crawl up in a little ball with the covers over my head. I feel sorry for myself at times. I am lucky, I have a wonderful hubby who does understand and encourages me and makes sure I do not do too much. Many times I have said to him that I am sorry for what is happening to my body and ask if he wishes he had not married me knowing what he knows now. He tells me to stop apologizing and the only thing he would change is that he himself had the disease, not me. Everyone needs someone like this in their life. Here, you will find a lot of someones. We understand, we go through it. I can't exercise a lot due to other medical probs. so I stay in bed a lot and take hot showers. It helps me to relax.

Most of my in laws think I am lazy and I make hubby do too much. He says to ignore them. If your co workers do not understand, to heck with them. You know you are not. IMHO, quit trying to explain, I keep my supervisors informed what is going on so they are on record if something happens with me losing my job due to absences.

Check back here everyday, i am always learning something. The most important: I am not alone in this. Others are out there just like me and you.

Take care.

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