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Posted 1/19/2011 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
Haven't posted in a while, it's been a tough go lately.

My nephew passed away the 1st of Dec. at the age of 32. That was hard.

On Jan. 6th my mother in law passed also. I have been her main caregiver for a long time, she suffered from Dementia.

I feel like I lost my best friend. Even thou she didn't remember who I was we enjoyed each other's company and made each other laugh.

My husband and I were with her when she left. I wouldn't of had it any other way. I am depressed and trying to find things to fill my days.

I have even had a pity party for myself, which I hate. So now I'm trying to get back - to what I'm not sure.

This is part of my therapy. I am not one to sit and let things get me down, I've always been able to push thru and move forward.

But I have to say this has been a hard one to get thru.

I'm thinking about taking a course for a nursing assistant. Only 1/2 days for 10 weeks. After caring for my mother in law I think I need to go back to what I started years ago. Don't want to go thru for LPN or RN at this stage in my life but I think I can handle the assistant instead.

I feel better then I have in days. Thank you each and every one. 

Posted 1/19/2011 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
I work as a NAR. The job can be incredibly rewarding as well as viciously sobering. Each time its like losing someone you love. It is mandatory for your own survival that you find a way to disconnect from it all. Spoil yourself.
Posted 1/19/2011 7:02 PM (GMT 0)
That's a great idea, but - you must be strong! My daughter became a certified nursing assistant a few months ago, and it's really hard physical work. There's no way I could do it, but if you can, wonderful!

I am sorry about your losing your nephew and your mother in law. Losing people is the hardest thing I've ever gone through...

Debbie
Posted 1/19/2011 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
You have recently suffered huge losses. Did you go to any grief counseling? I would highly recommend it for you. I am glad that you are having some good days. But if you are depressed you need some help. If you don't want to go through grief counseling, how about regular counseling? It would help you tremondously to have the extra support at this time. I am so sorry for your recent losses. Know that everybody is here for you through this difficult time and always.

Keep posting and know that we all care about you.

Hugs, Karen

PS I do like the idea of spoiling yourself.  You deserve it.  Do something nice for just you...

Posted 1/19/2011 8:30 PM (GMT 0)
I think you have a wonderful plan!  Also, you can volunteer in hospitals or for hospice, if that interests you, until you finish  your course.  It sounds like you are a very giving person and you need to be needed.  That is a special gift.

 

I hope you will start to feel better soon.  It's tough losing people we love.

 

Sherrine

Posted 1/19/2011 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
there are jobs available for aides in senior half way homes. they are small, usually 8-10 live in seniors that cannot live alone but are not ill enough to stay in a nursing home. I found it very rewarding. I fixed dinner, played games, put together puzzles, gave out meds, chatted, and had friends. some were grumpy but I always won them over. It doesnt require a certification and it doesnt require heavy lifting and it allows you to actually get close to them where the nursing home and hospitals do not. And because most of them can do most of their care on their own you do not have to do any lifting, showers, getting them in and out of bed....would they have any like this in your area? or would you be interested in something like this?
Posted 1/19/2011 11:20 PM (GMT 0)
Mscrowbar,

I just noticed in your signature that you are going to be having surgery soon. I just wanted to wish you the best and hope that you have a quick recovery. Do keep us posted.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/19/2011 11:34 PM (GMT 0)
Go girl go, the world needs you. I did nurse's aide work in small community homes for years and it brought me more joy and love than I brought them (but i tried .) I so want to go back, like at least part time, but right now I don't think its feasible.

The funny part is I could hide my lyme from my co-workers better than the clients, I mostly worked in paychiatric homes. I went to college and got a bachelors in anthro/soc after high school. Funny thing is I'd rather work with the clients at 8 or 9 something an hour than be administration.
Iwill always treasure the memories of all the people until I die and who knows maybe sometime a path will open for me again.

Please look into it. Some of the aides are mean, we need kind people like you working in our world plus it'll turn your world around. The stories I could tell !!
Posted 1/20/2011 3:18 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all so very much.
I have been taking some nice warm bath when things get to much.
I have to say my husband is very understanding and helpfull.
I haven't gone to any counseling and if I can't pull out of this I will.
I will be going Monday to go over the NA course.
Again, thank you all for your words, they help alot.
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