Hi everyone, new here

Hi everyone, I just joined the forum, obviously haha. I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm a 28yo with a 2yo daughter and a husband. I've had fibro for a very long time, along with quite a few other medical problems. Even with that I work a full time job at PetSmart in the pet care department. I mostly joined for information, and support. I have a very loving husband, but he doesn't quite understand how much this affects me, and sometimes gets frustrated because of it. Its hard at work too because I have to work against fibro weighing me down and most of the people are younger anyways and don't completely understand what this feels like, so a task like cleaning all the bird cages isn't the same for them as it is for me. Sorry to kind of complain in my first post, but I'm in the middle of a very bad flare up and kind of just wanna talk to people that understand.

Hi Akasya~~

Welcome to the Fibro Family! I'm very happy you decided to join us because we all need someone to talk to who totally 'gets it'.

First off...please don't apologize for 'complaining', venting, unloading, dump, sound off, deposit, divulge, reveal, partake, participate, wail, whine, impute, carp or objurgate (<---wonder what that one means) even if it's on your first visit...lol It's why we're here. If we all were doing well there would be no need for support groups but because we all suffer and understand each others' pain we can come here and say what we need to say and we are accepted and loved no matter what. Okey, dokey??...lol

Has your hubby ever gone to a doctor appointment with you. Even if he has it would be well worth him taking some hours off work and accompany you on your next visit. If it were me I'd send a short note to the doctor ahead of time or try to talk to him on the phone, and let him know that he's coming and why. My husband and I have a 'secret code' sort of, when we are feeling bad....like if I'm hurting and he is the one who has to do the dishes. We just hold up our hand with the wedding ring on it and give a smile and a wink. It reminds the other one that we're in this together as they say, for better or worse. Education is most often the best tool to solving problems.

Getting the folks at work to understand might be a bit harder. I imagine you've thought of all kinds of things to say but only you know the people and can choose what might work. Maybe talk to your boss about it and swap chores that are extra hard for you to do physically for others that won't add to your pain...much.

I truly admire you for being able to work with the pets!! That's not an easy job. Maybe some people come into the store and don't think much about the people there who care for the animals but it's way harder work than any of us imagine. On a sideline...any thoughts about looking for a different job? There's a reasonable chance you could get some retraining via community college or vocational school. If you want to talk more about it just say so or you can email me ... either way is fine by me. I taught for many years at a community college and would be happy to share what I know.

And as most people around here know, I can't write a short note...lol So it's time to get my caboose moving and say good night./~

Hugs,
Chutz

welcome to our forum. Glad you are here, these people are wonderful and I have learned so much from them. And, I hope that there are a few that I may have helped.

I understand the full time job issue. I have one too. I carry the insurance so there is no way I can quit. I really have a good, less stress, no physical job so I really cannot complain....but there are days.....

My hubby and I share a home with my daughter and her 3 small boys. We all have some health issues in one form or another. So, we all pitch in a help each other and eventually things do get done. We kinda split the jobs according to our health needs. My duaghter cooks dinner, I sit and feed the baby, she bathes the boys, I do the laundry. She mops and vacuums and I dust. We really get along quite well and no one person is doing all the work.

I think one of the things that works in my favor is that I usually wake up fine and if its going to be a bad day, it comes on gradually. I can up my meds if needed and that usually helps. I very rarely wake up to fibro, I almost always go to bed with it. I think this is in my favor because by the time it starts to rear its ugly head, I am up, showered, dressed, at work....so I am already up and moving. I really feel for those of you that wake up to it. that has to be really hard.

sorry for the run on. hope to talk with you more.

Hi Akasya!!

 

Welcome!!! Lady, I can't even imagine working a full time job that requires so much standing up. I work full time too, but I sit all day, and I'm exhausted (like right now ) by the end of the day. Please come here and "vent" as much as you need to. We understand, actually we understand like know one else can. You have to walk this path to know this path, that is just how it is with chronic conditions like this. Your family can be the most loving family...but they can't wrap their mind around this. You will find a loving group of people here that welcome you no matter what.

Sorry to hear your having a flare right now. I hope your flare goes away soon and you are able to get some relaxation and relief!!!

 

Hugs!!

 

Monica

Hi Akasya and welcome sorry I havent done this sooner. I know how you feel about animals i love all of mine and cant imagine life without them. I truley do admire you for being able to work a full time job. That is just no longer in my cards. We have wonderful group of people here so feel free to post anytime.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley