This is getting on my nerves

Good morning,

I will make this quick, because I am at work.

You are not alone. I see my sister in law a handful of times a year. If she sees not feeling well at one visit, she will make a comment at the next visit, usually along the lines of, "Im so glad to see you are getting better. You are looking much healthier than the last few times I saw you." I hate this and Ill tell you why. Today I can be fine and tomorrow confined to the bed. I look good today for a number of reasons....I found some really good makeup....I knew family was coming so I didnt cook or clean my house for a whole week so I could have enough in me for this visit....I took an extra pain pill today....Im learning to hide it better. I usually just say thank you and let it go, with her and others Im not close to. In all actuality, I am progressively getting worse each year, so I know her comments hold no credit. I have forced myself to not let it bother me for people I dont know.

On the other hand, those I am close to is different. I have shared list of symptoms and articles and threads and the like with my closest friends, husband, mother in law, mother and others who are in my support group. I find it is easier to feel like myself when I am feeling horrible if they understand more about the disease and can have an idea of what I am going through.

The other advice I have is to do just what you did.... post your vent session on here, call a friend and vent, call your mother and vent or your significant other. Let it out. I find that no matter how many times I let it out and feel better, there is always those down days or the days where you feel totally overwhelmed and the annoyance of these issues if more common.

Wishing you a pain free morning.

Robin, LOVE IT!! Another belly laugh. Great way to start the day!

People can be SO aggravating, it's true. My mother in law has never understood, either. "Well, you look fine!" Gee, thanks.

Debbie

I know  how irritating that can be but, when asked how I am, I always smile and say, "Fine, thank you."  They don't understand and just saying that with a smile on my face does make be feel a little better.  There is just something about smiling and being happy and not dwelling on the pain as much.  It's there.  I know it's there.  But if I think about it a lot, it is in the forefront of my mind.  I know I don't want to live that way so I just keep as busy as I can and work around this illness.

 

BUT, boy do I hate telemarketers.  I used to get a lot of calls before I joined the Do Not Call list.  The first thing out of their mouths was, "How are you today?"  Well, one day I told them how I was feeling with each and every illness I had at the time.  I guess I went on for five minutes and then said, "Thank you so much for asking" and then I hung up!     Now, talk about feeling good! 

 

Sherrine

LOL!!! Love it all, but especially the poem and the telemarketer story!

When people ask me, I usually say wonderful and turn it around back to how they are. People love to talk about themselves. And I think when they ask how we are, they just really want to tell you their problems. But I always say I feel good because it makes me feel good. Positive affirmations or something.

Sherrine, I loved your story about the telemarketers. That was a good laugh for me. They can be so irritating. And they always call at suppertime as they know people are home. I got on the list too. But I heard that it only last for so many years and then you got to get on the list again.

I hope all of you are having a pain free day. It is raining here and a little damp. But nothing that a pain pill wont take care of. At least it isn't cold.

Hugs, Karen

I think 1 was 6 lbs 4 oz & other was 7 lbs 4 oz. We knew we were having twins at 16 weeks & delivery was not too bad, considering. The anesthesiologist was great, that helped a LOT! I had my next child by natural childbirth, but not by my choice lol. Yours sounds scary but as long as you had 2 healthy babies, it's all good!

I SO get what you're talking about! I bet it's like that for all people with so called "invisible diseases"... Other people just don't seem to "get it" do they?
It's almost like they think that what we've got is like a stomach bug, there one day, gone the next, magic! I've actually considerd dragging documentation about Fibro along in my purse and shove it under the nose of whomever it is asking silly questions.

Than on the other hand, maybe it is normal for those people to inquire about our health, because maybe they care and are concerned.
In thats sense there is a big problem between u'r family and close friends as opposed to people that are mere aqauintances. My mom will ask me how i feel or tell me i look good a certain day, but thats cause a) she want's to honestly know how i feel, and she will not be surprised when some days i say that i feel torn up. and b) she will give me that compliment when she reckons or knows that i'm in a good period and also in part to try and make me feel a little better.
When someone you don't know that well asks these things it's a different story all together. When someone tells me i look good after i've just had a horrible night i feel like asking them if maybe they need a pair of glasses cause obviously they are missing something! Maybe i should try that line next time? :D yeas i think i might :P


P.S. thanks for the laughs guys! You are well and truely crazy, but the good kind! Love it!

Fiona

Yah, I know that some women are that way. For me it's kind of like putting a new coat of paint on a falling down shack.