Terribly rude people... really hurt my feelings

So I fostered a dog from a rescue thinking that if he worked out I would have him trained as a service mobility dog to help me iout with stabilization. My husband got him home and the lady had told him  that he quit eating when she moved him to the barn, and the wounds on his feet were from previous owner, and being treated. They were severely infected, and he had a canine tooth that was solid green rotten and 20 lbs underweight. He was not working out had severe issues which i found out stem from him being bullied at the rescue.

So I emailed the lady to see if i could bring him back to her and this is what she wrote about my fibromyalgia.....

"Fibromyalgia.......I call it a cop out! Get up off your lazy, fat ass and get your own remote control and the tissue that you cannot reach to wipe your own ass!"

 "Does your fibromyalgia make you stupid?"

"I feel so sad for Biscuit being in your miserable, sickly and hateful home!"

 "Eat some beans, they have a lot of protein in them and also go on a diet, maybe you will not be afflicted with such a sickness."

She said more but i have it saved on my husbands computer. What is wrong with people. I told my husband  i didnt want "Bisquit" to go back there but then she threatened to file a civil suit against us to take him back.

My heart is aching right now I feel like maybe the world is right, maybe were not sick and fibro is a cop out.... Yes I am overweight, but not obese, and eat sensibly. I think the beans comment was to imply i was mexican, when in reality I am native american.

Sorry needed to vent because I have been up crying and sad all night. Flare up is insane today... To be expected I guess.... gonna be a cane day if I make it out of the house.

Thanks to you all for so much support and I know there will always be ignorant people and I never wish bad on anyone, but are they just the lucky ones that dont get afflicted by diseases, injuries, or cancers?

What a rude, ignorant woman she is.  I would report her to someone...is she affiliated with the Humane Society or SPCA?  She is a moron and doesn't deserve to have rescues in her care.  The sad truth is, some people still do NOT understand this disease.  Because the symptoms are different for everyone it's easy for those who are clueless to roll their eyes and make statements that are not based in fact but instead on personal observation. 

This spring we adopted a dog from a foster home.  The dog had been abused...had been treated for infections in her legs and feet where she had been beaten with the metal clasp of a leash. (she was taken away from her owners by the police)  It took weeks before we could walk her because she would run under the table when she saw the leash.  She slithered on the ground whenever we stood up to approach her.  She still slinks up to her food and will stop eating if we as much as move.  It's difficult to intergrate abused animals into our homes but they eventually turn around and are so grateful.  Initially, I  had many doubts about Joplin (the dog) but she is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time.  Yes, it took hours of patience and hard work but no one will understand your pain the way a pet can.  I also understand there may be some issues you just can't cope with.  In any event, the foster mother is a LOSER and I hope you can report her to someone...

Donna

Sorry to hear about your incident. My sister and I call these incidents in our lives mental monsters. Talking about it helps, but then I try to put it behind me so it doesn't cause a fibro flare up. I would ask myself what kind of life does this person have if she feels the need to beat up on others? Not a very good one.

What bothers me a lot, I find this with most of my family members and friends, is they tend to think fibro is psychosomatic. Have some of you come across this?

Wow. Just wow. I'm sorry you were subjected to that. It must be miserable to be so nasty. I can't imagine how awful her life must be to spew such hatred on you.

When someone is hateful to me, I've learned (after some hurt feelings and probably some venting) to just let it go. I figure A) They are ignorant, B) They are just ugly, hateful people, or C) They have never had to deal with pain or illness and judge all of those who have.

It also helps to tell myself, "If that person had to walk in my shoes for a day, she would never think the same way about fibromyalgia."

I think all of us have questioned at one time or another the "realness" of fibro. After all, there are enough armchair medical professionals (translation - friends, family, and strangers who don't know squat) who make us doubt our diagnosis. But the pain is real. It isn't normal. It isn't in our heads. It isn't a cop out. Weight has nothing to do with fibro, except for the fact that many fibromites gain weight from meds or a reduction from previous activity levels.

Research has shown that there are differences in brain images between people with fibro and those without, and there is research going on trying to identify differences in blood markers between healthy people and fibromites. Fibromyalgia is recognized as a "real" condition by the AMA, Mayo Clinic, The American College of Rheumatology, etc. I would be infinitely more inclined to accept their opinions over those of an ignorant, hateful, animal abuser.

One last thought, if this lady is part of an animal rescue organization, I would definitely report her - not only for the abuse, but for her treatment of a potential foster "parent."

If you want that dog, then contact the ASPCA.  This link will tell you how.  Let them know how they intimidated you and that you were forced to return the animal.  And I would mention the abusive language of that email, too.  This woman is crazy.  If she goes off on a human like this, just imagine what she does to animals that don't do what she thinks they should!  I'd be all over her like flies on garbage!

 

http://www.aspca.org/

 

If this poor animal has been abused by this "rescue" place, they need to be reported.  Even if you can't take this poor dog, they still need to be reported.  These animals depend on us to help them.

 

As far as what that person wrote, consider the source.  She is ignorant, rude, crude, and a very nasty woman.  I know I certainly wouldn't let that email bother me once I considered the source of the comments.  You and we all know that what she said isn't true.  But, the good thing is, what goes around comes around.  I've seen it many times in my life.  Also, you are a far happier person than this female.  (Can't call her a lady.)  I sure would hate to go through life that angry, miserable, and ignorant. 

 

So, put a smile on your face and then contact the ASPCA to help that dog and others in her "care".

 

Sherrine

I am going to try and fight to get Bisquit back.... I hate that he has to spend anytime with that wretched woman.... Unfortunately I have been in such a flare over this whole nightmare and she still has the nerve to bash me on her facebook. Her day will come, i can promise that!

Post the link to the CDC website, where Fibromyalgia is clearly listed as a legitimate ailment.

Then conclude with, "At least I'm luckier than you, because I can get help for my illness--whereas there's no cure for being an ignorant, hateful, racist who has nothing better to do than post hate-filled screeds to Facebook. Why don't you go on 4chan, where you belong?"

That makes me so so mad.  I am sorry you have to go thur this.  I have been running across a few mean people to.  I have asked the same question before about why and how can people be so so mean.

It does hurt terribly.  It will take time for you to get over this one.

My daughter made a comment last week that just crushed me and left me feeling so empty and insecure.  I go to lay down when I am hurtung and she said my room was a cave and she didn't want her future children to be around me.  Punch in the gut!   So I am so sorry for ugly people, they must really be miserable inside there hearts.

I care  :)

I don't have anything to add, except to give you my support.

Sounds to me like she is trying to intimidate you to protect her sorry self. She abuses animals, and does not want to get caught, in my opinion. She saw a fibro-person as an easy hit, and probably feels secure that you will do nothing about it. Too bad she did not push the Mexican issue, otherwise you would have had an even better argument to make if you report her, although she has done enough anyhow.

Sorry you had to go through this. Us fibro-people suffer enough without having to deal with abusers who are trying to cover up.

Hope you feel better.


Free Spirit

Don't allow her to "rent space in your head"...She is not worth it!!! Take the high road as hard as it may be.. and you will be blessed for it!