Hi, Evol, and welcome! I'm so glad you found us and joined in. No, pain is not all in your head. You need to find a doctor that treats patients with fibromyalgia. Ask before you make an appointment. There are too many doctors out there that are not on the cutting edge of what new things are going on. They prefer to live in the Dark Ages. Fibromyalgia is recognized by many health organizations, including the American Medical Association so there really is no excuse for a doctor today to not understand fibro and the pain that's involved with this illness...in my opinion. I'd run from any doctor that is trying to tell you that it's all in your head.
Be sure to read Fibro 101...the second thread on the forum. There are good links about fibro and you will learn a lot there. Good starting links are called Symptoms, What Else Could It Be, and A Thorough Explanation of Fibromyalgia. You will probably see yourself there. Another link you might be interested in is called Doctor's Respond to New York Times Article.
I'm looking forward to getting to know you better. Don't hesitate to ask questions because we are here to help you. Hope to hear more from you soon.
Sherrine