fathers passsing

I would of never thought how dificult this trip was going to be. This has been a living nightmare. To long of story to tell and believe me I will save you from the story. My husband is on his way down to support me. I thought I was going back home, but now I have to stay for another week. My anxiety and stress levels are so extreme. My pain is under control right now finally. I am so ready to get back to my iceburg. I now know why I live 5000 miles away. I am so happy because I am been able to talk to my therapist from Alaska. I think I am going to call him again today.I really appreciate the support you have shown to me. I bet I fall apart when i get home because I have to much anger to grieve right now.

Post Edited (ak angel) : 2/6/2012 11:10:20 AM (GMT-7)

Angel, please accept my sincere condolences.  This has been a horrible time for you.  Losing a parent is incredibly difficult and it has to be even worse when you aren't home with your main family support system.  I'm so glad you can speak with your therapist and that your husband is heading down to help you.  I'm so sorry you are going through this.

 

But, your father is at peace now and is not suffering.  I hope this thought gives you peace, too.  Remember, he didn't die...his body did.  He has passed on to something more wonderful than we can imagine and he is totally healthy again.  I needed to visualize this when my parents and my husband passed on.  I know in my heart we will be together again.

 

Soon you will be back home.  No matter where you live, how hot or how cold, how damp or how humid....it's still home and feels so wonderful.  Meanwhile, we are here for you.  We all have been through times like this and we do manage to come through with flying colors.  Just rest, don't try to handle everything yourself (since we fibromites seem to be perfectionists) and also ignore any relatives who are being jerks.  Somehow, some do come out of the woodwork.  Just remain calm and handle what you can by pacing yourself.  Know in your heart that you have gone through all of this for your father.  You are a wonderful daughter, cared for your father, and did all you could for him.  Now it's time to take care of yourself.

 

Many prayers are heading your way.

 

Sherrine

Thinking of you Angel...peace.

Donna

I know I don't know you but I wanted to give you my deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry about your loss and that through it all you are having to deal with difficult relatives. Be gentle with yourself and lean on God.

Angel,
So sorry for your loss. Hopefully things will be better down there when your husband arrives.

Sue

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish your family was more supportive and that this was a time of grief and healing for all of you together. I'm glad you have your therapist to talk to and soon your husband will be there to hold you. Do everything you can to rest, relax and take care of yourself. This is the time to be selfish, you don't need to be there for anyone else.

Joy

Angel, I am so sorry for your loss! Parents passing is so difficult. I can not imagine the stress you are under with your husband not at your side.

If you are in or near Birmingham, I could give you my number to call. I know we don't know each other well, but I would be happy to listen or if you need to meet somewhere just to have someone that understands the stress, I could meet you. (I remember the flare I had when my father and sister passed away. Just getting a breath of fresh air to take the stress away from being with the family all around was welcome at times.)

My deepest sympathy and many gentle hugs.

Hi Angel I am new here, but wanted to express my condolences on the loss of your father. It is very hard I know.... be good to yourself....

this isn't an easy time for you I know.....

my husband passed away almost 4 years ago and I still mourn...

Angel, I hope your family realizes how they have been acting and will clean up the mess. No one should have to go through that when their loved one is dying. You are in my prayers.