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Posted 1/10/2009 4:58 AM (GMT 0)

Does anyone else have days when you just can't stand noise?  I got home work today and my step-daughter came over. Her and my son were running around the house and haveing a good time (to them anyway). They were driving me nuts, I just wanted to scream at them to be quiet or go to another room. I work full time, go to school full time (online) and am a full tme mom. Sometimes the daily noise just gets to me, and I don't want to be like that with the kids and especially because she only comes every other weekend and they enjoy the time together. I don't want to rain on thier parade, but I can hardly be in the same house with them. I love them to death and most days it doesn't bother me, but today I thought I was going insane.  Thanks for letting me get it out :-)

Posted 1/10/2009 5:27 AM (GMT 0)
Hi jiliven!

I do understand what you mean about noise...some days when the older grandkids are over they just about make me crazy with noise and it's all fun noises. People with fibro most often have issues with noise. Not sure why but it's just another thing we have in common. We seem to be very sensitive to most any stimulus... bright lights, cold water or a jolt of any kind of cold, a touch from behind when I don't' know it's coming...it just depends on the day as to how much it "shocks" me.

Can you sit the kids down and try to explain about how the noise 'hurts' your ears? It's also mighty hard to study with noise also. Been there myself. I went back to school when my kids were still in school. I was newly single with a pregnant teenage daughter and to young teen boys. I know flipping burgers was not going to support them so back to college I went. Once I was done I ended up teaching for the community college where I started. That sure was fun...until doc put me on 'retirement' this past year. Guess I needed to slow down a bit.

And to that question in your sig line...what IS normal? If you are asking will your life ever be the same as it was before fibro??? Nope! But that doesn't mean it can't be a wonderful life. You just have to learn to live with and outsmart the fibro monster and go on with your life. Sure sounds like you're well on your way.

Hugs,
Chutzie
Posted 1/10/2009 5:41 AM (GMT 0)

Jliven, I have very sensitive ears and sometimes I too feel like screaming when a lot is going on... same as to the light, when I am somewhere where it is very bright, I get a bad headache and even an eye ache.

Sometimes when all my husband's friends are here (who are also my friends - I love them to death!) they just get so excited and LOUD LOUD LOUD! I have found myself yelling "QUIET!" or "SHUT UP!" to everyone lol And they just look at me like this >> confused . Especially if I am trying to watch TV when they're here, I can't take the TV sounds AND their voices...

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21 years old

Fibromyalgia, Bipolar Disorder, OCD, Irrational fears

Posted 1/10/2009 5:43 AM (GMT 0)

I cannot stand noise anymore. I used to listen to the radio in my car, but not anymore, it just irritates me. I have 3 young grandchildren and it is sometimes hard not to scream. I know where you are coming from. Sometimes my hubby will tell me to go lay down for awhile, because he knows it is bothering me. Then I feel guilty for leaving him to watch them alone.

There are other small things that irritate me now that never did before. I guess it's just another Fibro symptom. Take care and I think it is great that you are able to do all that you do!

Hugs!!   Margie

Posted 1/10/2009 7:31 AM (GMT 0)
Jliven, As everyone else has already said, I know where you are coming from.  When my grandchildren are over & the TV is on it is just too much for me.  It's like my brain is on overload & I just get so irratated.  It comes on so quick & just out of the blue.  My daughter has Fibro too so when I yell "please be quiet" she usually will say Thank you.  LOL  You certainly do have a full plate & I commend you for being able to do it all.  So don't be too hard on yourself if you have a meltdown.  Just smile afterwards & say "Thank you, that felt good."  yeah Hugs, Denise
Posted 1/10/2009 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
It is now just hubby and I so it is quiet most of the time. But when all the younger grandchildren are here for a weekend, they range from 5-12, it gets to me big time. I don't want to be the grouchy old grandma so I do tolerate it as much as I can cause they are just being normal kids but when they leave the silence sounds so good I will just sit and listen for quite awhile. We don't have all six of them together that often so I take comfort in knowing they will go home.

 

Jliven, you do have a lot on your plate you should be proud of yourself.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Posted 1/11/2009 2:30 AM (GMT 0)

I'm new to these boards and I've just been diagnosed with Lyme.  I was checking out the Fibro and CFS boards to see how others are coping with similar things.

Noises can be grating and irritating, especially if I get tired.  I have anxiety and once I started being treated for that, I found that those meds also give me big relief from the noise sensitivity.

We're mostly empty nesters, but when our daughter is home from school - well, she is a "crisis every minute" person.  If I start feeling stressed out/ grouchy from the noise, I excuse myself, say I'm not feeling well, and go upstairs to the bedroom.  I close the door and turn the TV onto something that's really just "white noise".  Kind of an avoidance strat but it's better than being grouchy.  Anyone else do that?

Posted 1/11/2009 5:09 AM (GMT 0)
The sound on our old television was going out, and we have high ceilings in this house, so we just couldn't hear it very well, especially DH.

So, we got a nice 42 incher for Christmas.

That bad boy is LOUD!!

We have a headset that DH uses when he wants to watch some bang-bang shoot 'em up show, and I'm just not feeling it.

Helps alot.

We have 8 grandchildren all under the age of 11 and were with all of the for Christmas. It's so true: they are wonderful, but so nice to have the P&Q of home back!
Posted 8/4/2012 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
This is a good thread! These "super sensitive" situations, especially the noise can be very hard to take. Someone mentioned DH and the bang! bang! sound effects on TV; I just go into another room and close the door.

Something funny happened the other night (didn't feel funny at the time), we were away for a couple of days and shared a hotel room with our son and grandson, it was late evening and we were relaxing on our beds watching TV. Well the potato chips came out and the sound of DH crunching and munching loudly right next to me just about drove me out of my mind. Every crunch was an explosion in my ear! I couldn't make a fuss of course, just prayed he'd get through his share PDQ and give me some relief!

Sometimes even the sound of loud eaters eating apples or celery starts me off. Does anyone else have that extreme reaction?

And not to mention movie theater's these days !!
Posted 8/4/2012 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
I always have been a quiet person and then along comes fibro. Now it seems like noise
is amplified.

The thing that bothers me the most is the sound of people eating, of course my husband is the
worst offender when he is snacking on something. But it is my problem not his so I quietly
get up and go to another room.

I mean there is only so much I can ask of the man and to stop eating isn't one of them.
Posted 8/4/2012 7:19 PM (GMT 0)
earplugs, earmuffs and headphones not plugged into anything can be smile savers. I am going to try the white noise idea "lockett" offered. There are devices for relaxation where you can play white noise besides rainfall, calm music, birds chirping, etc.

Post Edited (mermaiden) : 8/4/2012 1:23:45 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 8/5/2012 6:31 AM (GMT 0)
I do in-home childcare, so I deal with plenty of noise.  Some days, the ratteling and banging, loud voices, loud laughing, and the "sound effects" that they make with their mouths can seem deafening to me.  It has been bad this summer, when the school-age kids have been home.  It has been too hot most days for us to get outside and play to burn off some of their excess energy.   So we have been stuck inside, and they have been extra loud.  I discovered something of a solution one day when the younger children were napping, and the older ones were being exceptionally loud.  After giving them several "reminders", I finally remembered that our Satellite TV package has a number of satellite radio stations on it.  I turned on the TV and selected a station that plays soothing, classical music, turning it up just loud enough to muffle their noise a bit.  It worked great.  It not only soothed my nerves, but I think that the kids calmed down a bit.  I think that the younger ones also slept better.   Now, I do this whenever they are having an abnormally loud day, I just turn on the TV.
Posted 8/5/2012 10:08 AM (GMT 0)
Noise gets to me too especially aggressive noise like football and certain classical pieces my fiance likes to listen to. Sometimes I can handle it, it depends how much pain I'm in, and sometimes I can't.

Noise during the night gets to me the most. I don't want to be woke up then I may have trouble falling asleep again.

I recently purchased an air purifier. The noise that comes from it is very soothing. It's not too loud but loud enough.

Good thread. Thanks!
Posted 8/5/2012 1:40 PM (GMT 0)
I noticed a sensitivity to noise way before diagnosis of fibro it was very strange. I had just got off work I was in a call centre so used to phones ringing, fax noises etc. My husband wanted to take me for drinks so we went to a new bar right under out apartment building, we ordered and the noise was so bad I told him I had to leave he could have my drink and I went up to the apt. When he got home a few hours later he was upset because I ditched him but I just could not stand the noise.
Posted 8/5/2012 3:34 PM (GMT 0)
I carry ear plugs everywhere, for that reason. I am sensitive to loud noises and find it better to have a little protection. Kids are just being kids... but I can't help the way I respond, either.
Posted 8/5/2012 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
I have a sensitivity to "sports noise," also. The crowd noise, the thunking of basketballs, and the buzzers are all too much for me. I don't believe that I could stand the noise from a bar, either, and I stay away from places like that. I also don't tolerate loud music.
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