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Posted 10/3/2012 6:09 PM (GMT 0)
My pcp scheduled me an appt with the rhuemy  on  Oct 11 th at 3pm. i messed up and  I told dh it was the 10th so he made arrangements to get off early on that weds (the 10th) Going through some papers i saw where i had written the 11th. I also saw that I was scheduled for Oct 11 at the stomach dr at 4 pm. I started to panic. Dh has classes on Thursday nights so that would not have been a good day anyway. I called the stomach dr first, first appt available would be nov 6. Told them i would call back. Called rhuemy she could see me Nov 1 (at 3) called dh and told him. then afterwards realized that is on a thursday so called rhuemy back and rescheduled to nov 2 (friday) at 10 am. Just texted dh to tell him. If he can not go will see if mom and dad will go with me. I can drive it at that time, just nervous. He could go to work afterwards if need be. I just usually make appts late in the day when he needs to go so he can leave work early and not have to go back.

I felt so so so stupid. I hate all these appts. I know they think i am stupid also.

I write them down, then forget where. Going to start putting in phone soon as made.

BTW can not tell my mom what i did cause i had a small argument that it was the 10th when she said the 11th. rolleyes

Posted 10/3/2012 6:16 PM (GMT 0)
****! I missed the kids dentist appointments 3 times cause I was wrong, and I write down a different time or day than I am told lololol while looming at their print out!

You must be exhausted after all that lol, made me tired thinking about howmuch work it would have been :-)
Posted 10/3/2012 6:20 PM (GMT 0)
I wonder how many times i said "i'm sorry" so far today. I tend to say it too much according to dh. cry
Posted 10/3/2012 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
~Lady~ I used to write my appmnts on calendar, and still found myself mixing it all up. I use neon green and blue post its now. On fridge for apmnts that hubby needs to b with me. Actually, I use them for all reminders. Husband says that he can tell when I start to flare bad because my kitchen, bathroom, and computer will be blue and green. He likes it because i dont have to verbally explain and he doesnt have to feel bad because he cant make it go away. We see and accept. He knows to put fibro survival plan in action.

 Don't you waist a minute of  your time worrying about what anyone thinks about the difficult symptoms of your condition. If they think anything outside of compassion then they are self-absorbed fools and not worth your time anyway. I know you are beautiful and intelligent and I have only had the barest glimpse of you. The exhaustion and stress that probably accompanied the appointment mix up and resolution was bad enough for you to have to suffer, so listen to your hubby and smile instead. Take care and God bless (oh, and hope your mom doesnt read the site, lol). smilewinkgrin

Posted 10/3/2012 6:52 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks all. On our comp we have the post it app and so the moniter has all different colors of post-its with passwords and notes all over it. Since most people do not understand the problems with fibro (though the rhuemy's office prob does), i tell them i had 2 strokes in april and that seems to sink in to them. Between the fogs and the strokes, what chance do i have?

As of this Thursday, i should be allowed to drive again. hope i can remember how to get places especially back home.

Also, my mom does not read these posts. so shhhh! devil

Posted 10/3/2012 7:10 PM (GMT 0)
lol. Congrats on the driving! Just remember the gps and alls good.
Posted 10/3/2012 7:27 PM (GMT 0)
I keep ONE calendar for everything. I find that unless I put everything in the same place, it gets lost, and I get confused. Work, appointments, everything gets put in. I carry it with me everywhere and so far, haven't missed something or double-scheduled anything for over 6 months.

Of course, I do need to be firm and NOT schedule anything unless my calendar is in front of me. People try to hand me the little cards. No.
Posted 10/3/2012 7:28 PM (GMT 0)
And, by the way, we all screw up! As I tell my students, we learn better by screwing up occasionally. It is not the end of the world.
Posted 10/3/2012 7:35 PM (GMT 0)
I know it is frustrating for you, but I'm sure it isn't anything that the doctors' offices don't deal with on a daily basis. They have cancellations and reschedules all day long. Don't be too hard on yourself.

I hope everything goes well when you do go to your appointments, and I second the congrats on being able to drive again. :-)
Posted 10/3/2012 7:43 PM (GMT 0)
I carry a small calendar with me everywhere to write down the appointments. Then as soon as I get home I write it down on my wall calendar and frig. calendar.
If I have something super important I do a sticky note on my computer. It has a special program for making them on the screen.
Posted 10/4/2012 1:28 AM (GMT 0)
I use one calendar on the wall by the back door. Appt cards go in my pocket, which are checked before washing. ANY thing important for me goes on that calendar. If its not there, chances are real good I'm not either.
Posted 10/4/2012 11:12 AM (GMT 0)
I like what my dentist's office does: they call with a reminder of an appointment. It has saved me several times!

I wonder if someone would request a reminder phone call, if the office might do that? It might be worth asking about.
Posted 10/4/2012 1:27 PM (GMT 0)
i have so many appointments written down
i forget if it is my husbands or for myself.
thank god each doctor's office will call us the day
before our appointments as a reminder.
Posted 10/4/2012 4:19 PM (GMT 0)
Oh my dear Lady,

Pls don't be so hard on yourself. You are dealing w/ SO much and trying to take care of so many things. I give you credit for still dealing w/ all of these things.

I have a BIG wall calendar in my kitchen, I make ALL my phone appts while I'm standing right in front of that calendar. I write down who (there's my DH & me) has appt, which dr, lab, etc. and the time.  I have all our appts listed on a 'list slip' that I got at Michael's, it is always in my pocket book. I have it broken down into the next 4 months. I use this to keep myself current when we are at the drs making a new appt. I write it down and I get an appt card. As soon as we get home, I put all info on the BIG calendar in kitchen.

If my DH makes an appt from home, he calls from the couch in our LR. No piece of paper or calendar. Tries to remember who, when, where and then tells me so I can write it on the calendar. I have had to call back those offices and get the info from them, as my beloved forgot key info. Obviously, he and I have way different systems.

I have a dr's office that has the world's worst secretary. She changes appts and doesn't feel the need to share that w/ ME. Then gets annoyed w/ me for showing up on the 'wrong' date. And yes, they call a few days ahead to remind you of appt. DUH.

All you can do is your BEST. I think you are doing a tremendous job. If they don't understand, they honestly shouldn't be in this line of work.

God bless.  Alice.

 

Posted 10/4/2012 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
I went to an appointment once, and was told my appt was for the next day instead of the day i was there. I just happened to have the appt card with my that they had filled out. I was right. Felt so good, they did take me in.
Posted 10/4/2012 11:38 PM (GMT 0)
If its not on the calendar here it doesn't exist lololol... was funny to hubby to be when I would say that, till we moved in together and he found out I was serious ****.. now he says it :-)
Posted 10/5/2012 5:04 AM (GMT 0)
You're human.
Posted 10/6/2012 5:58 AM (GMT 0)
Lady,

Just think of it from this perspective.. part of the receptionists job is to make and/or reschedule appointments so really without you they would just be sitting around with nothing to do! ;)
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