Confusion caused by too much to do?

I have had issues like that. I finally made a list of daily things and projects the needed doing. I ordered everything in order of importance and that's how I decide what gets done each day. Some daily things have to be done daily so I do those as early as possible and then move on to projects. I go as long as I physically can and just pick up the rest the next day. It's really cut down on stress from feeling overwhelmed by mountains of things that need doing.

Yes, this happens with me, too. I also make lists and cross things off when I've completed them plus I always pace myself. I will look at what I need to do and decide what I think I can get done that day...especially if I'm going to have company. This way I don't forget to do needed things.

Sherrine

I can sure relate! I tend to get distracted especially when going to do one thing in a room, and seeing something else I have to do. I have to constantly tell myself to stay on task.

I make a list as well, and feel satisfaction crossing off what I get accomplished. Even a cheap notebook left in the same place every day (I used to lose them!) works well.

I sometimes sit down in the evening and jot down in my notebook what must get done the next day, followed by 'I hope to get these things done.' Then I put the notebook back where it stays. It has really helped me get more done.

So many times I find myself starting a project in one room, go into another room and start doing something else.

There are some tasks that I do routinely...I make the bed every morning before I leave the bedroom, unless it is the day I'm washing the sheets...every Tuesday.

Keeping myself motivated and not procrastinating gets tougher when flaring. I'm easily distracted when I'm foggy, so writing things down helps. Writing thingd down doesn't necessarily means it will get done.

Debbie, I think many of us can relate :)

Hugs, Robin

I am usually pretty good at remembering things at work. At least until this year. Now things just pour through the brain like water.

I make lists every week of what I have to accomplish. It works, most of the time.

My thing, right now, is making appointments. I call, and get a phone tree, and then press whatever button they want me to press, and then get a messaging service saying " leave a message". Two of the doctors I need to see I have been trying for a week now. The problem is.... If I leave a message, and they
call back, and leave a message.... Well, it's not real productive.

This is a somewhat long reply but is also my 1st post as a new member so it is also my introduction the the group ☺.

Cleaning and home maintenance in my household has basically not been done for the past three years. Before that it was just neglected somewhat. Now I'm trying to take responsibility for my own happiness and just get up and do it because I feel bad and hurt all over when I'm up to do house work but I feel bad both physically and emotionally if I just stay in bed all the time reading, watching TV, or on my laptop so I might as well get something accomplished if I'm going to hurt one way or the other, right? I make lots of lists - daily, weekly, monthly, long term etc, but when I start on a project I easily get discouraged because I discover that I can't finish this one until I do such and such, but I can't do that because in order to do this thing I have to do this other thing and that can't be done before dealing with something else on and on it goes. Then I do get overwhelmed and leave it half done.

Also, left holding responsibility for it all since my husband of 19 yrs self-destructed in a mid-life crises that finally "forced" me in his passive aggressive way to file for divorce (so that I could at least get some child support) by just deserting us along with other behaviors designed to guarantee the end of our marriage (use your imagination) essentially because he couldn't handle the responsibility of a disabled wife and two children with ADHD along with life's usual challenges.

So I am dealing with all the extra work involved with getting that in order; paperwork, appointments, attorneys, financial and ultimately emotional. My home is starting to look like an episode of Hoarders and I'm just so overwhelmed by it all and trying to hold it together for my two teenagers 14 and 16 yrs old. I'm searching for my "better half" or my true self to get me through this thus the screen name which is also a sender up to my estranged husband.

I'm lucky though that I am getting SSDI now and my employer has me on extended disability leave so we still have health insurance -counting my blessings there!

I noticed many folks on here tag their posts with their diagnoses so here's mine:
degenerative disc disease, osteoarthritis, fibromyalgia, migraines, collagenous colitis, hypothyroidism, GERD, hypertension, hyperlipidemia,insomnia, anxiety, depression i.e. the mostly "usual" constellation of fibromyalgia symptoms!

Ok, anyway - added to my personal mental confusion is the fact that I can't move anything that weighs - anything, so I have many thwarted tasks all over the house, waiting for husband or daughter to help me. Daughter is rarely here, and when she is, doesn't feel like spending all her visiting time doing such things. Husband - oh boy, he just doesn't see the problem and rarely feels like seeing it enough to help. He will do very quick things - such as, "put that box there," but then he's gone, and there's another box, and a lamp, and a statue, and - that's that. (whew!)


TheBetHerHalf, you would almost certainly get more responses if you started your own introductory thread with something like, "Newbie" in the title. I know it's a hassle to write it all over again - maybe you're more computer-savvy than I am and can cut and paste it....I can't seem to do it on HealingWell...

Debbie

Mrsbugsy,

 

Yes!  I do know what you mean.  Sometimes I go nuts with more than 1 person around.  I try to tune into everyone's feelings and conversations (I do this automatically) and easily become overwhelmed and exhausted.

 

I do love to leave the house, though.  That's MY time, tooling around in my car, listening to my music, popping in and out of stores, walking in the park.  I felt guilty today - hubby was home from work with a little virus, and suggested we go get coffee and sit in the car, next to a park...he wanted to get out, but not have to get out of his jammies. 

 

A nice idea.  But my first thought? -  Shoot!  I'd wanted to go alone!  (Real nice, huh?   )  Actually, it was quite enjoyable, as it always is.  It's just weird - my kneejerk reaction is always to crave more alone time.

 

And yes, everything is definitely worse when I'm tired!  Late at night, I'll have lots of energy and ideas, but no competence.  The very underdeveloped, logical side of my brain is well aware of this, but somehow autopilot always wins out and I'm up till 1:00 AGAIN...    Bad, bad.  Then I'm kicking myself in the morning, of course, and vowing to mend my ways.

 

Are you getting enough sleep, by the way?

 

Debbie 

 

Just read all your msgs,first of all thebetherhalf i do hope everything works out for you,thats terrible how your husband acted,anyway his loss,you will do beter without him,as you dont need all that added stress,so good for you,my house must be like yours to,i just leave it to for another time,but it gets us down as we would love our family to get on with it without having to ask them,but that doesnt work so good tho,clutter is not good for our illness,but just havnt the energy to do it,so we just leave it,best wishes to you,acheybody i should be called that to,as thats how it is non stop flu like aches non stop and the rest etc ete,i cant lift things neither,my children do my shopping and carry it,sometimes i go,i dont seem to have much strenth,you prob have the same,i think its funny now seeing a person with the flu that only lasts 2weeks then goes,they think there dying,gosh they have no idea what we have got to put up with and thats a life time for us,no understanding what so ever from them,very sad i think that is,best wishes to you also,mrsbugzy i have alot of unplugged days to so understand you totally,and need the time to be alone alot,all the best to you to xox

Oh Sherrine,

~1 I LOVE that you are from near me originally..I know being on here helps us to know we are not alone, but when you "meet" someone from your area, it helps to put a face to it all too :) Thank you for sharing that with me..
~2 I have 2 body pillows, 1 for under my knees and belly and 1 that curves around my back and shoulders..
Doesn't always help..that one is kind of flat :) Guess it is time to replace it! lol...anyway, can't wait for doctor appt tomorrow!!

Anyone else get those uncontrolable shakes? Like you are freezing or something??
How do you get them to stop???