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Posted 5/14/2013 2:38 PM (GMT 0)
HI all

I feel really guilty about this, but my poor husband has been on the couch for the last 5 months since I have had fibro...As I sleep so badly, I am frightened to let him back in in case he wakes me from the precious few hours I do manage to get...

We don't have a spare room because the kids fill them.

Does anyone else have this problem? Maybe I have just got into a routine and need to break the cycle...maybe I will actually sleep better with him in there?

Thanks
Posted 5/14/2013 2:57 PM (GMT 0)
I take sleeping meds, so I wake up for nothing. I sleep better with my partner there. On bad nights, I am concerned I will keep him awake. I generally have to get up and try to deal with the issue before returning to bed.
Posted 5/14/2013 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
Myself, what sleeping meds do you take again (can't remember if you told me already)...I have tried a few...Nytol seems to work best, but never works for me 2 days in a row...I have to leave it a while before I take it again...same with Ambien

Can't get the consistency going
Posted 5/14/2013 3:24 PM (GMT 0)
When my husband was alive, I never had him sleep on the sofa.  I figured he needed a good night's sleep because he was the one that was getting up early, working, and keeping a roof over my head and food on the table.  If I was really struggling with pain, I would get up and go in the living room and either lay down on the sofa or in the recliner.  But, I figured out ways to get comfortable with fibro. 

 

We went through so many mattresses trying to find one I could sleep on.  My husband would love our mattress (king size bed) but would give it up for me and buy a new one.  Finally he said enough was enough so we bought two California twin mattresses (pushed together they are the size of a king size bed).  He said if I didn't like this mattress then I could change it but he could keep his side.  turn

 

So I took that pillow-topped mattress, put a foam egg crate on top of it, and put a fiber bed (that's like a feather bed but you can wash it) on top of the egg crate.  Voila!  I get the support I need for my back and the softness for my "Princess and the Pea" syndrome. 

 

I wish my husband could crawl in bed beside me.

 

Sherrine

Posted 5/14/2013 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
I started with rozerem in 2004, and took it through 2007. Changing insurance switched me to generic ambien. I discovered that an interaction between tramadol and ambien was making the ambien not as effecrive. Tramadol can wake up the brain, which resulted in my waking up throughout the night and having trouble getting to sleep. I stop taking tramadol at 3 pm, and this enables the ambien to work properly at night.

It is all a process of discovery, individual discovery.
Posted 5/14/2013 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
Wackers,

I can't sleep with my hubby in the bed, either....his snoring sounds like a buzz saw attatched to a freight train! HE sleeps like a baby through it all, so we doubt he has sleep apnea.

I take Nortriptyline (for sleep and Fibro) and added Klonopin to it a few years ago, also for sleep. It wasn't until I went from a whole K. to a half that I started having problems....but I wasn't about to take more meds than I needed...that just doesn't make sense to me. Sooo, much as we both dislike the arrangement, that's how it is for now.

We're lucky that we do have an extra bedroom. It's got to be rough for you and your husband, with one of you having to go on the couch.

I really hope you find something that works for you.

Debbie
Posted 5/14/2013 8:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, for me an my husband we have been sleeping together for so many years that we are used to each others noises, I don't sleep well but I have been taking a muscle relaxer at night an that has seemed to be helping. The seperate twin beds sounds like a good idea just pushed together we are sleeping on a Queen it's not big enough for use we may get a King when we can afford it but we most definatley have to use the pillow memory foam stuff I have to have my bed soft but firm kinda hard to achieve that but I can usually come up with something.

I hope you find something that works.
Posted 5/14/2013 8:35 PM (GMT 0)
Another good thing about the twin beds pushed together was when he would roll over it didn't move my mattress. It was a perfect solution for us, at least.

Sherrine
Posted 5/15/2013 3:01 AM (GMT 0)
Funny that you say that, Sherrine, but we have the "two twin mattress" arrangement, too. It started out of necessity (not being able to get a new king mattress up to the second floor.) My fibro pain started shortly thereafter and it's been great to have the flexibility.
Posted 5/15/2013 4:59 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the replies

Yeah every little noise wakes me, we have a fan and I have earplugs but still very sensitive to noise...

The twin beds thing is a great idea, I might try this just to help some of the problems :O)

I think it has just got so long now with him downstairs, he has gotten used to it and so have I :o(
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