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Posted 1/11/2014 7:28 PM (GMT 0)
I've always been somewhat philosophical but more so since the onset of medical conditions. Initially questioning, why me? What am I suppose to be learning from this?

Along the way I started do meditation and deep breathing to help cope with the anxiety, stress and pain. Daily meditation helped bring about acceptance and a sense of peace. I know that letting go of thinking...things shouldn't be a certain way and accepting that some things are just the way they are has helped. I know that it is important to love yourself regardless of what is happening. So many changes take place because our diagnosis, and learning to cope is a process. We all have our own time tables and finding fulfillment of peace is a personal journey.

For me letting go of the anger was perhaps the most difficult...it became easier to focus on all that was right in my world.

Today I choose to laugh awhile...to be content and share my smile :-) To spend the day playing the crying game is a waste of time and a crying shame. Life is too short and precious is time to spend what is left to sit and whine....Of course to say that we can not or should not whine is unrealistic....there are always going to be some bad days, and venting and a good cry can be healthy. Wishing us many more smiling days ahead!

Has your Dx made you more philosophical?

Hugs, Robin
Posted 1/11/2014 7:45 PM (GMT 0)
As always, you said it well, Robin!

I feel much the way you do. I could whine, go to bed, give up....but what's the sense of that? In one way, fibro has made me a stronger person. I now push myself to do just a little more when I'm able. I set little goals for myself. Prayer and faith have been a strong 'anchor' for me along this journey.

And, there are always others who are suffering so much more than I am, in various ways. I'm thankful for where I'm at, even though some days aren't easy.

Another great thread!! Have a blessed day, Robin. :)
Posted 1/11/2014 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
I read an article a while back, on a pain doctors website, can't remember which one. It basically addressed the "Why Me?" question, with… Why NOT me? Interesting, but maybe not super useful to someone who is dealing with excruciating pain.

As for your question, I don't know if I'm philosophical (before or after pain), but I am a problem solver. I find myself banging my head looking for any and every remedy to make life easier and allow me to perform better in spite of the pain.

I do find that I'm still a "happy" person, and I find my strength through God. I've been through worse things than physical pain and still had the peace of seeing His presence and support in my life, which is my greatest blessing.
Posted 1/12/2014 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
Before my dx I was a "give me challenge and I'll conquire it" type of person.
I think I'm still like that, but my gusto has fizzled somewhat. I'll conquire it, but it will take time now.
My theme song was "I'm in a hurry". Now, I stroll along and smell the roses.
Posted 1/12/2014 7:40 AM (GMT 0)
I read somewhere that Fibro is a Type A condition, in that the people mostly dxed are folks that always had issues controlling their environment. I understand that statement. I am only so far in my evolution to say that there have been very blessings, first of all to force me to slow down. My body cries uncle when my body says go and now I am forced to stop and listen to my body, and it will tell me when it's time to go forward.

(I say as I just spent the entire night cooking. I will so hurt tomorrow.)
Posted 1/12/2014 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Living with chronic pain is an ongoing process...it is a mix of physical and emotional changes our bodies are forced to accept. Trial and error is something we all experience. It is natural to grieve the loss of good health. Going through a mourning process is common. It is not uncommon to feel overwhelmed at times, or feel sorry for oneself.

Everything takes time including the acceptance. When I stopped thinking of myself as a poor victim and I did for quite a while...I started living with my "junk" in a more positive way. Everyone has something to deal with and bad health issues just happen to be mine. I decided I would change my attitude working on positive thoughts and behaviors. The more I felt in control, the better I felt. Keeping my focus on just doing what I could one day at a time helps me. Yes the pain is still there, I still have some anxiety over my future but life is much more tolerable. I can say I do enjoy life...I cherish my family and friends, and have hope and faith for my future.

Wishing us a wonderful day :)

Hugs, Robin
Posted 1/12/2014 5:20 PM (GMT 0)
I never needed help being philosophical.
Posted 1/12/2014 6:15 PM (GMT 0)
I'm very much like most of you. But, in my case, I started having health problems as a toddler so I have been accustomed to sickness. Like others, I just found ways to make my life easier and to help me do what I wanted to do. I'm pretty good at that.

I did wonder in my early 20's what it would be like to have great health...like most of my friends...but thankfully I started being thankful for all I could do and focused on that. I found that if I focused on my illnesses, I was unhappy so I stopped doing that.

Then I realized I could use my experience with illness to help others. This has helped me in realizing that good does come out of bad things. This has given me a lot of peace and a lot of joy when someone will tell me that I've really helped them. I bet most of you have had that happen, too.

I think dealing with illness makes us more compassionate now and that is a wonderful quality to have...something many people don't have! To me that is a real blessing.

I hope all of you are having an especially good day today and, yes, another great post, Robin.

Sherrine
Posted 1/12/2014 6:16 PM (GMT 0)
Touche', my friends smilewinkgrin I think we all learn something from one another being here.

Hugs, Robin

Post Edited (crazykitty) : 1/12/2014 11:22:40 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/12/2014 7:59 PM (GMT 0)
I want to apologize for my totally incoherent post. I can't even understand it! LOL That's what I get for posting late at night from my phone...

Anywhoo, yes it has forced me to slow down which I have always had a hard time doing , and to learn to enjoy more homebound tasks. When you have a week filled with pain (and the couch), finally having the energy to take care of your house becomes enjoyable because its truly a feat. That was my point (I think). Great thread, Robin! :)
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