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Posted 10/1/2014 2:33 PM (GMT 0)

My "darling" husband has been a real SH#! lately and I want to punch him in the face! mad  

     Took Grandchildren to Zoo 2 weeks ago, walked way too much and hurt so bad I didn't do nightly doggie walks (blessed he's so good I don't use leash but take it - just in case) and started again last night but, having to work up to "long" walks so, hurting lots today and weather changes not helping. skull

     Last Fri (9/26) was my 50th Birthday.  My husband took me, my mother, my daughter (more like daughter-in-law but closer- never married son) and 2 of 5 grandchildren to dinner at Maggiano's.  It was nice and went well.

I'm disappointed that my youngest son didn't call me.  Before I lost my 21 yr old son in car accident that the only fault of his was getting into a car with someone that he didn't know was drinking on job all day (10 yrs ago already- where'd that go?), my 21 yr old would get ahold of his little brother and either make sure to pick him up to come see me or make sure he'd call.  My 21 yr old son was also the ONLY person that EVER made me a Birthday Cake- the year before he passed.  I thought FOR SURE my youngest would remember this year....  cry  

     Spent last Sat & Sun in bed - Bad Migraine, Bad Flare, Badly missing oldest son. cry  

     We have been really sloooowwww at work and this morning my supervisor told me that before I order anything for new orders coming in, we need to talk - $$$ problems??? (Happens when she only bills customers 1 a month - DUH!).  Part of me would love to be laid off for Winter but, last time I was laid off, it took 1 yr 3 mos of "actively seeking" work after having knee replaced. confused  

     Sorry to sound off & whine, I know there's alot of peeps out there that have it worse than me. nono  

    I'm really working myself into a STRESS FIBRO FLARE - ANY SUGGESTIONS! idea

Brenda shakehead

Posted 10/1/2014 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
I'm new to the group. But from what I can see, when you need to vent that's what we are here for is to support each other. For what its worth Happy Belated Birthday yeah As for the family, I have a 21 year old son and I get frustrated because he continuously asks for me to take my granddaughter when its convenient for him and his girlfriend. However, when I want her it seems that they don't know how to respond to a text. I know its not the same situation you have but maybe it will help to realize you are not alone. Sounds like you need to take a timeout for yourself. Do something that you enjoy that your body will handle just to help release some of the stress you are going through. I know I enjoy crocheting and its the one thing I use to help ward off my anxiety attacks when they start peeking (if I can doesn't always happen) this way. Hang in there. Hope things get better soon {{HUGS}}

Heather
Posted 10/1/2014 5:51 PM (GMT 0)
You will always grieve for your son...and it wouod be nice if dad could now help the younger remember..but men do not have our organization gene?

Happy birthday.. and hope your stress lessens each day..

Flaring some this week also..waiting it out.

Take care, lj
Posted 10/1/2014 7:02 PM (GMT 0)
Happy Birthday to you!!!! I have a young adult son and yes sometimes its all about them. I am praying he gets out of that stage. It drives me crazy some of the things he says. My husband wasn't the best teacher telling my kids how you should honor your mom on special things such as birthdays. My son has forgot my birthday before because it's the day after Christmas. So I understand how you feel about your kids missing your birthday. I am sorry to hear about your sons death. I know days can be rough missing him.

I hope you can keep busy at work. I am sure you need your job. I hope you can do something special for yourself. I will go to a movie or out to just enjoy the day. Sometimes men have a hard time understanding this fibro thing. Never feel bad on venting the day away. The support is what makes this forum do well.
Posted 10/1/2014 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
Yes Brenda, I feel that way lots of times...I try so hard, and no one arounds me seems to gets that. I do know (as I'm sure you do) that getting so mad only makes my body feel worse, but I can't help it. I'll want to kick or punch or throw something - but I can't because that would REALLY hurt!! Aaack! I think this is one reason I love to go driving so much. Turn up my music, sing along, drink my coffee - - forget it all for awhile. No physical exertions and no one questioning me. And a change of scenery.

I'm so sorry about your losing your son. I can't even imagine how hard that must be. And then to have your other son forget your birthday - very tough.

Happy 50th to you! That's quite a milestone (I'm going to be 60 in a few months....good grief!)

Debbie
Posted 10/1/2014 10:15 PM (GMT 0)
I've got a younger brother who rarely calls my mom and dad. He's 40 and very centered on his life and his family. By the way we never hear from them unless they post something on facebook.

My niece who's 22 and lives with us never tells us where she's going or when she's coming back.

These younger kids don't seem to remember (or care) to keep in touch like we learned growing up.

Sorry, got off on a tangent.....

Any way, happy belated birthday. I'm approaching the the big five-o myself.
Posted 10/2/2014 12:48 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. 50 is a big deal and you want people to remember. I decided a long time ago that if I want a big deal made out of my birthday, I've got to make it. So, when I want to celebrate, I call friends and make the plans. I'd love just once for someone else (my husband) to take the reigns and make a big deal out of it, but he doesn't look at birthdays the same way I do. It is what it is.

I will say that speaking from knowing my husband (and myself) as we get older we get more and more tangled in our own lives and are more likely to forget to call our mom's on their big day.
Posted 10/2/2014 3:51 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all so much for support, that's why I love this forum.
I'm feeling much better today, weather going to try to hit 80 but, know the weekend (back to 50's & rain) will be tough again.
Just don't know what I'd do without all of your prayers, wishes, hugs & advice.
Brenda
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