So darn angry

I went to the Dr to get tested for Lupus.... She said it looked like Lupus, but then said it looked like allergies.. Then she said I'm looking for problems that all of what is wrong with me is because of old age and being out of shape. Then she said that my original test from a year ago didn't show Lupus and it would have if I had Lupus... What do I do now? Any advice?

Post Edited By Moderator (Sherrine) : 12/15/2015 9:54:41 AM (GMT-7)

I'd find another doctor and get a second opinion.

Do you suffer from anxiety? Please don't take offense at this but when I was suffering with pain and anxiety I started doing medical searches and was convinced I had certain illnesses which I didn't. I was driving myself crazy!

I then realized that I just needed to see a really good doctor and take my list of symptoms with me and let them do the hunting. I got my diagnosis of Fibro then.

When new symptoms would crop up, I would always pass them by the doctor. Some were Fibro and others were from other illnesses I have.

If you decide to see another doctor, make sure they believe in and treat Fibro patients. Ask before you make an appointment.

I hope you get some answers that you can feel good about soon.

Sherrine

You are all right, but it's the same thought process that I went through getting the fibro diagnoses. I am normally happy healthy and very active. But I do have 70 lbs. To lose. I was losing about 1 lb. A month but with everyone harping about my weight I started gaining again.

Lostpuppy, I understand too. It can be so hard to lose weight and it's doubly hard when people get on you about it.

What helped me lose weight was changing my diet, no more unhealthy carbs for me or processed or junk food. I have to also keep as active as possible without overdoing.

I took it a step further and followed what the nutritionist and author JJ Virgin recommended to help one's arthritis and to lose weight. She recommends that you eliminate 7 foods from your diet for 3 weeks and you can lose a few pounds and see how you feel. This worked for me. Staying away from those 7 foods helped me to lose 20 pounds in about 4 months.

When it comes to those people who are getting on you--turn it around by getting on them (silently) by showing them how much you know and how successful you can try to become in a healthy way.

We all care.

Good luck to you.

Post Edited (almost medfree) : 12/16/2015 3:20:03 AM (GMT-7)

Lostpuppy, to me this thread wasn't so much about encouraging you to lose weight but more about when doctors tell us something for our own good. I'm glad my doctors are honest and forthcoming with me.

I wanted to share a few quotes with you when it comes to dealing with bullies, these people who are getting on you to lose weight.

"Some people won’t be happy until they’ve pushed you to the ground. What you have to do is have the courage to stand your ground and not give them the time of day. Hold on to your power and never give it away."

"When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sandpaper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless."

I've had close family members in my past who bullied me. When these incidents would happen, I would ask myself do I want to be more like me or more like them. Me, definitely! Even though I wasn't considered beautiful and had flaws like everyone else, I was and am proud of who I am inside. We are all beautiful.

Here's a quote from Tyra Banks:

Girls of all kinds can be beautiful – from the thin, plus-sized, short, very tall, ebony to porcelain-skinned; the quirky, clumsy, shy, outgoing and all in between. It’s not easy though because many people still put beauty into a confining, narrow box…Think outside of the box…Pledge that you will look in the mirror and find the unique beauty in you.

Lostpuppy, put those bullies behind a book on the bookshelf. They aren't deserving of your attention. Sometimes we can't eliminate them from our lives, but we can reduce their impact.

I hope you can find a second opinion dr. Wise. It's worth a try.

Almost, thank you for those quotes about bullies. I know that some of you know about the issues I was having with my cousins. Wanting to be the better person, attempting to repair and rejuvenate the relationship, thinking the best, forgive, etc., I contacted one to meet. She was a bully and it was awful. I came to the realization that this one was actually trying to take advantage of my situation (illness and financial issues due to the illness--exploitively low compensation to be a caregiver 24/7 for her mother with dementia, worse than what she was saying). Exploitation, plain and simple. I stood up for myself and walked away from the bullying. No, I wouldn't want to be like her. Sandpaper, yes. I look at it like practice standing up for myself, which I've not been very good at.
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Thank you all for the advise... I am starting my diet in January