Hit with it hard....

If you have children, give them some chores to do that will help you out.  That's what families are supposed to do.  All the work is not supposed to fall on one person...especially if the person is having health problems.

You do need to keep moving.  If you sit or lay too long you will be stiff as a board and the pain will be worse.  It's so easy to not move with fibro but you are doing yourself a disservice if you do that.  Go for a walk every day.  If you are in a bad climate, walk in the house during the bad weather or get a walking-in-place video and "walk" in front of your television.  Leslie Sansone has some great ones.  You want the easiest one she has.  I have the "1,2,3 Fat Burner" video.  I only do it for 15 minutes and it's equivilent to walking one mile.  I live in Florida so I walk my dog in the morning for a half an hour.  It gets the blood really flowing and feeding the muscles.  I always feel better after this low impact exercising.  It's the best thing for you and it doesn't cost anything to do, either!

Do the Great Stretching Exercises found in the Fibro 101 thread.  They really do help keep your muscles more flexible so you have less pain AND they are done sitting down!

I hope these suggestions will help you.  Have a good evening!

Sherrine

Thanks everyone for your replies. I got the laundry(well, most of it) last night. I feel completely wiped now. I feel like I have been run over and truck that backed over me after running over me once and then running back over me again. I feel like I have a lot on my plate. I just feel like I have to do everything. I mean, my hubby is great with helping with the baby, but he's not that great about helping out with housework, and I think I really need to have a talk with him about that.

All of this is just so hard to deal with. It's so hard. It really is. I mean, there is so much involved in keeping the house clean. I mean, it's picking up toys and doing the dishes everyday so they don't pile up, it's picking up clothes and putting them in the hamper where they belong. It's a lot of things. And I feel like I have just lost it all. What I mean by that is that I feel like I am just completely drained now. I am in a lot of pain, which makes me take more pain pills. But, right now I feel like I have gone way beyond my limit. All I want to do is have a day to myself where I can just rest and not have to worry about everything...not have to worry about housework or anything like that. *sighs* I feel so depressed that I am so limited now. I feel like I shouldn't have to go through with any of this until I am older. I am only 20.

I live in Indiana, and the weather changes like crazy around here. Going up and down the stairs in our building just seems like I am running a marathon...

Anyways. Sorry. I feel like I am writing a novel. Maybe I should work on the one that I am writing. I don't know. Anyways. I hope to here from you all again soon.

Thanks for all your support and advice.

I'm trying, but it is hard. I hate it when my house is a mess because then I feel really embarrassed when we have company. And it's not like it's hard to keep a house clean once it already is, it's just picking up after yourself instead of letting it all go until it's a big mess. I just wish my husband would be a little more helpful in that area. Today he seems to be doing better with it. I just hope it continues.

I did take a nap. I just woke up from it. It made me feel a little more human, but not much. Sometimes I really just feel like a burden to my husband. I think that is one of the reasons why I have been pushing myself way too hard.

My mom says, when I tell her I have been pushing myself to keep the house clean, "Good for you honey. That's what you've got to do. Just push past the pain and things will get done." I know she means well and everything, and sometimes you do have to push past the pain to get some things done, but if you push yourself too hard when you have Fibro, it usually tends to push back, and push back hard. Kind of like a hurricane or a tornado or something...

You should really talk to your husband about helping out at home.  What caught my eye was the fact you had to pick up clothes to put in the hamper.  I'm sure you put your clothes in the hamper along with your baby's clothes, so that means you are picking up your husband's clothes.  Well, I had that experience when I first got married.  I tried and tried to get my husband to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.  He liked to go take a shower and throw his underwear behind the door.  I finally told him that ONLY the clothes that are in the hamper will be washed.  He still ignored me and his underwear pile got higher and higher.  I did washing but never touched his dirty underwear.  Finally one morning he wanted to know where all of his underwear was.  I told him to check behind the bathroom door.  He had to wear dirty underwear to work that day and I NEVER had to tell him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper again.

You are enabling him to do nothing because he knows that if he waits long enough, you'll do it.  I'm not picking on your husband.  Many men are like that because their Mom's picked up after them.  It just takes a little perserverance and he'll get the message.  You are to work together in a marriage.  It seems that society thinks all the dirty work falls in the women's department.  We get to change diapers, do dirty laundry, mop floors, and clean toilets.  There is something wrong with that picture!  LOL  So, try to get the message across to him that you truly need his help.  

Sherrine

Now that a lot more has fallen on his shoulders to do he is getting better at it. But it has taken five years of me having fibro for him to really get this. So be patient and write list for him to do. My DH has taken on jobs he never had to do when I was healthy so for a long time he never thought about doing them. Now a lot of things I use to do is becoming a part of his daily schedule. The man never even had to take out the trash before I got fibro. He was really rather spoiled when it came to doing things around the house. That's one reason I don't feel guilty about him having to do more.

luv and hugs

Marlee

It's hard for me to not feel guilty when things don't get done. I am somewhat of a perfectionist, and when I see a bunch of stuff lying around, it drives me crazy. It's like the house won't get cleaned unless I do. My husband will do the dishes every now and then, but that is pretty much it...

The past few days I have been relaxing, and I feel guilty about it. I took care of my son more the other day, and when my husband got back home, I passed out from exhaustion for three or four hours.

I want my husband to get a job because I can't stand being poor. But I just don't know how I am going to handle it. I don't really have many people who can help me. My sister does, but she has to know at least a day or two in advance. My mom would help me, but she works really hard, and her husband is kind of a jackass. He loves my son, but for some reason he doesn't like it when my mom comes over to help me out.

I feel so alone. I feel like I have no one, and I feel like no one really cares about me. I know that they do, but I don't think they really believe how much pain I am in. The only person who can see it is my husband and that is because he knows me so well. People tell me all the time that I "don't look sick". My thought on that is that just because I don't look sick doesn't meant that I'm not.

Somedays I just want to get away from it all. I feel like such a burden on everyone. Not just because of the fibro, but also because I don't have a job and we have to ask our families for money. Our town here in Indiana isn't really hiring any jobs, or any jobs that would make a difference.

Anyways. I would like to keep talking, but I don't want to write a novel for you all.

It's hard to find good organizational things when you have no money. And, in my case, really no place to put them. Our apartment is small, and we are running out of room to put things and still keep the house at least fairly neat.

It's all just so tiring. And the more tired I am, the more pain I am in, which makes me depressed, which makes me have more pain and fatigue. It really is a vicious cycle. I know that I am not alone in my suffering, but most days it really feels like it.

I have been thinking about writing a book about fibro, or maybe just starting off small and making a website. I don't know. I love to be creative. I love to write. It's motivating myself to do it that is the problem, though. It's hard for me to get motivated to do much of anything. Everyday is a battle. I know you all understand.

I would love to get those cube things, and the little plastic toy boxes, but I have NO money. My husband is having a hard time finding a job, and I can't work because I am too limited by my Fibro.

I know I was going to say more, but I honestly can't remember what it was...so I will say goodbye for now.

Marlee,

My baby is 11 months old. His 1st b-day is coming up fast. He is a really busy boy, and getting really heavy. He was a preemie. He was two months early and weighed 3lbs 11oz. Now he is 17 1/2lbs. That is very heavy to me. I would be grateful to any of the mothers on here who raised children while suffering from Fibro.

My husband has been really looking for a job, but no place is hiring. Our town is kind of a dying town, though it didn't used to be. I live in "Stoplight City" or "The City of Firsts". LOL. A lot of people from one of the factories just got laid off, almost 600 people, I believe, so it is really hard to find a job here. Right now, he does odd jobs for people to make a little money, and that helps some. (BTW, what does DH mean? I have never heard of that one before, and I have heard of a lot.)