I would appreciate your prayers

Forgive my absence but things have been very upsetting lately. Many things are going on, but the most important to me is my DH is very sick in the hospital. He got sick at work and ride home of NYE morning (he works nights) I wanted him to go to ER when he got in, but 'He was fine', not! NYE about 6:30 he decided it was time. They found a kidney stone and then they couldn't find it but it didn't pass yet, he had a kidney infection (he's a diabetic - 1) couldn't stop throwing up and the hiccups never stopped. They called in many drs. to check for different problems. AND they all found something. I have said for quite awhile I think he needed to be checked for GP, ever since my DM was dx w/ it. Sherrine and Marlee gave me some great info last yr and I felt we were on to something. My DH didn't think that was the problem and here we sit. He was transferred to cardiac care yesterday due to HBP and irregular HB. He couldn't take his BP med the other day due to throwing up, but we did tell them.

His gastro feels we need to do endo to see what is going on, but we had to wait for cardiac clearance. We got that and he's going in shortly for endo. His BS has been hi and they put him on new insulin, but really low doses so numbers are staying hi.

My phone has been out of whack for a bit, I've called the co and told them med emergency and they are still trying to get a guy in a bucket to fix the d*&n thing. I have also got a prob w/ my DM and my d*&n sister. My sis is giving my DM a hassle and my DM has been told to move to nursing home, my DM can't do this on her own and I'm trying to get all her affairs in order so I can get her into a NH, but there is so much to do w/ my DH and DM and no phone and I'm running to all these places on a cane. I'm trying to keep it all together for all of us, but I'm so afraid of losing him and my DM is so upset. I am so scared, so tired and my BP is up, even w/ 2 meds just for that. I try so hard not to think, 'What if', but I just can't imagine my life w/o him.

My one son said, 'Mom, you're so calm' I feel anything but calm. I had to call my DH's super the other day, left a voice mail. I couldn't get my phone # out in 5x of trying. I've had this # for over 30 yrs. I sounded like an idiot.

Pls if you can, say a prayer for my DH, he is my world. I thank you w/ all my heart.  God bless.  Alice.

alice,

i am so very sorry that you're going through all of this. i, too, wish there was something i could do to help you:( i will definitely pray for your husband (and you!) and do hope he gets better soon.

{{{hugs}}}
~danielle

Awww ((((Alice)))))))) huge hugs for you

I cant believe this is all happening at once!!!  Is "endo" that camera they put down into your stomache? I'm sorry that you are dealing with your poor mother, AND phone problems on top of all of that

You are trying so hard to stay calm on the outside, but I think that you should vent here as much as possible so that you have an outlet for it.  I predict that you will continue to hold out, but will crash when the worst of this is over, although you will be so relieved it's over that you possibly wont crash!! Either way, please dont forget that we are here for you, and more than willing to hold your hand, and lots of prayers of course!!  I think that getting hubby to the ER when you did, has hopefully diverted a bigger crisis.  I will pray hard for him that he recover very fast, and pray for your strength to endure, and pray that your sister will open her eyes and see what you are going through, and be a whole lot more supportive.

Gosh Alice, I could just cry for you right now

God Bless you and give you extra strength, and pray you are able to post again and keep us updated.

Holding you close in my thoughts,

Diane

 

 

I'm so sorry you are having to go through so much all at once.  I'll keep you and your hubby in my prayers.

 

Hugs - Austen

Alice,

I am so sorry for all that you are going through right now! I am glad you got some good news about your dh & will hope it continues to go that way.

You have to be tired & so worn out. Please take care of yourself too! It is hard to think about yourself at a time like this, but even if you were to take a nice shower. It will make you feel a bit better. Make sure you are eating right and try to relax. We don't need you down on top of everything.

I will keep everyone in my prayers. Please keep us updated.

Hugs!!   Margie

You ladies are the best!!! I don't know what I would do w/o all of you. JCgurl, welcome to our family. I don't believe we have spoken before, but it very nice to meet you now. The ppl here are just wonderful. You are in safe hands. They took my DH down to have the infamous egg sandwich to test for GP, he had 3 bites and threw up, they couldn't do the test. They have scheduled him for the endo tomorrow about 9am. He is on a liquid diet till midnight, then nothing. He just called me on my pay as you go cell as our house phone is still not right. I will have to call the phone co again in the morning. I wonder what part of medical emergency they don't understand.

My sister is being a PITA. She asked my DM to move in w/ her when my DM was unable to live alone. My DM asked me what I thought about that, I said I didn't think it was a good idea. My sister has a very short temper, blows up over nothing, that house is a ball of confusion and noise. She wants my DM to put even more $$ in than they had agreed to, this is on top of big loans and outright gifts of $$ my DM has made. She pays rent each month, I write out the ck, I know it's pd. None of my sister's adult children pay rent or do chores, they can't quite get their butts out of bed to work or school. So my sister feels my DM should p/u the slack. My sister screamed the other day on the phone to me that I needed to come over to settle this. I went over and I could feel my BP sky rocket. I asked her to calm down, I couldn't handle the noise or anger, she said, You know it isn't always about you. My DM asked my op and I said the same thing I said 1 1/2 yrs ago. Not a good idea. This all happened on NYE, the same day my DH was so sick. My sister called the other night to see if my son could help her, because her oldest son is in jail. My son went over to help, but he can't stand the screaming, either. He says he can't believe we are actually sisters. Me either.

I did take my shower and at least I feel clean, I rode my exercise bike for ten minutes and I said the rosary. Then I came on here and my heart felt better. Your kindness and prayers for my DH and my family are so appreciated. You are all my angels. You have no idea how much your kindness means to me. I wish you all a peaceful, pain-free night.  God bless.  Alice.

I tried to get on before and I couldn't get on. I thought I would try now before I go to bed. I am so tired, didn't sleep last night, too wired!. I ran around very early this morning to take care of things for my DM so I could be back in time for the repair men to get here. I had phone and cable in same time, phone fixed, tv dead. The good news is they did the endo on my DH and he doesn't have GP, but he does have ulcers in the esophagus. They gave him food after the test and it stayed down for awhile. His roommate had MANY guests today and they were loud, the tv was on loud and then his wife came in to fight w/ all of them. The stress level was nuts, that was when my DH lost his lunch. I said he should have called the nurse to remove these ppl. He may be released tomorrow and he will have follow up visits with every dr. The one w/ the urologist is set for the 20th, he will remove the stent placed in the kidney. The dr. found either a polyp or tumor, sent it to biopsy, we are now waiting for results. 

I was w/ him for several hrs today, we took a couple of walks to destress. He seemed more relaxed by the time I was leaving. We spoke a couple of times later, he sounds more like my baby now. I am going to close for tonight, I think I might be able to sleep for a couple of hrs.

Thank you all for taking the time to calm me down last night and most especially, for ALL your prayers. They were the medicine!!  

God bless.  Alice.

Alice,
You're in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you'll find a some peace soon. Having such big problems all at one time is overwhelming.
Take care and warm hugs,

I hope you slept last night too Alice. You can't keep running on empty. I'm glad they are getting to the bottom of things one by one. They will probably put him on carefate for the ulcers. Please take care of yourself too when he gets home.

 

Be thankful your not like your sister. I can't imagine living in that chaos it would get to me real quick. I hope you get your mother out of there and into a more stable home. With all her medical problems that's not doing her any good.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Thank you all so much for your prayers and thoughts, it means the world to me. The dr. should be coming in around 2 to set up the release for my DH to come home. It has been hailing for the past couple of hrs and they are talking snow and freezing rain for this afternoon and evening. I did sleep for a few hrs last night, thankfully. I just finished changing the sheets, what a job! But at least every thing will be fresh for him tonight.

I have been trying to get my DM's house ready to sell, I don't know how that is going to do. I have to make pre-arrangements for her, also, before I get her into NH. My DM was supposed to come here next wk anyway, as my sister is having work done on her house. This should be interesting w/ her and DH both not doing too well.

I'm going to get another load of laundry going, eat lunch and head up to hospital, hopefully, last trip and I can bring him home.

Thank you all so much for your tremendous kindness. God bless.  Alice.

hey Alice if your husband is in Toms River hospital it figures it is like that. My dad was in a room where the man threw things. They gave my dad all the wrong food. It wasa mess. My mom after back surgery was places on her back and when she felt something wet under neith her and went to check it out she was bleeding for being places on her back. She was crying and when the nurses go loud at night when she was trying to sleep and then told them about it they closed the door in her room and left her there. 1 hour later my dad was there with Dr and sent my mom home with a private nurse. But on the other had they have also had great treatment at other times.

 

Hope Hubby is home now and can rest at home. Prayers are sent your way.

Thank you again for all your prayers and good wishes. My DH is home and we are so happy. We had to drop off 4 prescriptions, 2 were for new different insulins. We have to get used to how these work. He also was given a heart medicine, due to his HBP and the irregular HB he had in the hospital. At least he isn't hooked up to a heart monitor now. The guy at the pharmacy screwed up whatever he was supposed to do, telling us that we wouldn't be able to fill these scripts, they were rejected by insurance. We called the dr. and she called insurance and that was that, we got it. He also got med to help heal the esophagus. Hopefully, he is on his well to being better.

I probably sound silly, but I'm almost giddy. I'm tired, my back is on fire, but I'm so relieved.

Thank you all, Meggie, Danielle, Donna, Diane, GamJill, Austen, Marlee, Margie, JC, Cynthia, Patti, Karen, Patsie, Tink, & Green Grove. I believe very strongly in prayers and good wishes, and I believe they helped my DH and me.

Welcome to the family, Patsie. Yes, this is a terrific group of ppl. We are indeed lucky and so blessed.

I hope you all have a peaceful and pain free night.  God bless.  Alice.