Is it just me?

Am I the only one who doesn't like Valentine's Day? To me, it's just another day that tells me that I have no special someone in my life. And while I desperately want someone like that in my life, I refuse to settle. Sure, sometimes I take "Mr Right Now" instead of waiting for "Mr. Right." I often wonder how some of these people in the world find love. I think, "if THEY can find someone, why can't I?"

Am I doomed to be alone forever? Am I the only one who feels this way?

BTW-I'm having a pity party if anyone wants to come.

Awww **hugs** for you two, I am so proud of both of you for not just settling for someone that fills a small space for a short time. I agree with you about v-day; in my opinion v-day is for lovers, not married people. I remember v-day when I was single, and I always felt a little odd-out until I came to the conclusion that this is exactly what "they" wanted- it was a conspiracy!! LOL gals, your lovely bachelorette-ness. Run around and dance nekkid! Sing along to your favorite songs- loud! This is YOUR day- grab and feel empowered. *mwah*

Yep,

Just another day for people to spend money! I have 2 sisters who are single. One thinks she always needs a man in her life. She is divorced but has gone back and forth with her ex and whoever else she meets. She tells me she can't make it alone. The thing is, she is so unhappy and most of the time these guys are wrong for her.

Now, my other sister is the smart one! She got divorced 15 years ago and loves being single. She says she has her kids and family, so she doesn't feel lonely. She doesn't go looking for men and enjoys her privacy. She is much happier than my sister who thinks she has to have someone there for her all the time.

So, I guess it depends on the person. The right one will come along for you and waiting for the right one is the best way to go. It will be well worth the wait!

Hugs!!  Margie

Awww Kelly I'm sad for you. Maybe now that you have your own place you can start getting out and meeting people. Are you allowed to have pets in your apartment??? You could get a four legged friend till Mr. Right comes along. I have a 38 yr old nephew if you would like to support someone the rest of your life.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Kelly,

Good for you for not settling! I was single for many years (and a single mother, no less..makes dating difficult) and oh, I was lonely so much. I dated a few guys but they were basically children in adult bodies, and my need to be respected and loved fully and completely eventually won out over my need to just have someone in my life. Then along came B. He was a wonderful man-intelligent, funny, kind, considerate, good job. He quickly became my best friend. He wanted to have a romantic relationship with me, but I kept holding back. Even though on the outside he seemed perfect, he just wasn't...it, you know? Unfortunately our friendship suffered from my reluctance, and for awhile I thought-oh man I just made a horrible mistake. But then you know what? Very shortly after, into my life walked the man who is now my husband. If I had resigned myself to that relationship with B even though it didn't feel quite right, I would've missed out on my "meant to be!" Funny how life works like that sometimes, isn't it?

I guess was I'm trying to say to you is this-hold out for what you really want. I know how hard the single life can be sometimes and how lonely it gets, but the guy for you is out there somewhere. He really is! Until he shows up, though, just stick your tongue out at Valentine's Day and be happy to be who you are

Another thing I will say, though, is that the "real deal" is soooo much work. I had this misconception that once "the one" came along, poof! life would be perfect! Hahaha, was I wrong! I've never worked so hard at anything in my life! (except motherhood) But it is so, so worth it. Grownup love is awesome!

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

My DH and I spent V-Day in a very romantic way. We went to my DM's house, which is empty, to repair some things to prepare the house for sale. My DM is in the hospital again, and my sons and I went to her house on Friday to do the painting. DH and I had to replace the toilet seat, toitet paper holder, screen door closer, etc. He does this to help me as I can't lift and turn things like I used to. He also does it b/e he loves my DM.

I'm not into chocolate, I love flowers, but Not cut ones - too expensive. Don't wear jewelry. He gives me little love notes, calls me on his break at work. He will get the things off the high shelves, so I don't climb the step ladder. He gives me hugs and kisses for 'no' particular reason, except the best reason - he loves me. He rubs my back, which is my weakest and most painful area. He looks at me w/ that sweet look in his eyes. He is a good man, husband, father, and SIL. I would rather that yr round Valentine that one day a yr.

V-Day was the day we got engaged and also our 1/2 yr anniversary. I like that he remembers that about the date more that V-Day aspect of it.

You do have a special someone in your life, Kelly. That is you. Someday you will also find the right man who will appreciate how wonderful you are. I was happy to hear about your new cat-to-be. Hope she comes home to you soon.

God bless.  Alice.