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Posted 3/19/2009 12:56 AM (GMT 0)
Friends,

 

I feel I can call you all that because no one else can honestly say they know how I feel, or know what I'm going thru

 

 

Anyway I'm scared friends, there I said it...I'm they type of member on here that does a lot of lurking and occasional posting unless something is really going on with me. I am scared because I feel like my symptoms are getting worse and I feel so out of control. I know I am under a lot of stress (hubby lost his job, 18 yr old son driving us nuts, all my siblings are layed off too-with my oldest sister getting layed off today after 35 years) I know with this economy is hurting so many people and we are not alone but when it hits your household, it puts a whole new prospective on things. Anyway I have been feeling so bad for the last few weeks, and I'm just so scared that I'm goin to keep getting

worse and end up in a wheelchair and not be able to work. Flares come and go but this feels like pain is staying and just becoming worse. I am starting water therapy on friday evening, requested by my doctor and I really hope it helps.

It seems like I start out okay even good in the am and by the afternoon, I'm exhausted and in pain and I can't think of anything else except my bed and my pain meds.

 

Please tell me something so I can feel better?

Posted 3/19/2009 1:52 AM (GMT 0)
the water therapy will help over time. If you have a nearby pool a stretching aquatic exercise class may be available. You can take it in addition to the therapy. After a while, you will know what to do without being in a class. This is how I began exercising regularly.

You have to de stress by separating your challenges from those of your relatives. I know this is hard but since you have fibro, you have to live a calmer life.

I hope your hubby can at least collect unemployment insurance. Eighteen year olds can be annoying try to detach from the nonsense

Rest, relax, clip coupons and take care.

Donnaeil
Posted 3/19/2009 2:15 AM (GMT 0)
(((Monica)))
I really know how you feel, as I am sure many others here do. I understand the feeling of being scared, with so many people losing their jobs.

It is definitely the stress that is causing you the pain. It is a vicious cycle and one that is tough to break, but you CAN do it. I think a lot of us tend to think a lot of negative thoughts. I realize at this time, you probably feel like it is impossible for you to be positive, but that is what is going to get you to break this cycle. You said you are good in the morning. What is happening is the stress is just piling up during the day. Somehow, try to take a few minutes every so often during the day and find a corner where you can "talk" to yourself. Find 5 things you are grateful for. As difficult as that may seem, on my darkest, most painful days when I want to say I have nothing to be grateful for, I start with "I am grateful for being able to breathe on my own, without machines" and then I go from there. This will help you to turn your negative thoughts off. Not that this is a cure all. As Donnaeil mentioned, water therapy, any form of gentle exercise is definitely going to help. But I think a lot of us do not realize what we do to ourselves, with the negative thoughts constantly going through our minds.

I am glad you came on here to vent. That certainly will help too. Do what you can, to be good to yourself. Take a short walk. Make yourself a cup of herbal tea. Take a warm bath. Listen to some music that you love. Meditate. These times are so difficult for so many of us and they are scary. Know that you do have friends here and we understand.
gentle hugs
Miriam
Posted 3/19/2009 5:06 AM (GMT 0)
Hi, Monica, and I sure do hope that you are feeling better now. I do understand what you are going through, as so many here do, and I need to just say 'amen' to the comments here so far. One of the most difficult things for me to accept about this health challenge has been that there have not always been answers to some of my biggest hurdles. One of them has been learning how to slow down, breathe, and find alternate solutions when western medicine has no answers for me. Water therapy/play, teas, positive thinking and expectations, music I like, nice long baths with a good book, these are all things that I have come to appreciate as therapeutic for me. The reason I am saying this is because when I first began to receive advice like this, it irritated me because there was no easy answer to pain, to frustration, to anxiety, to any of the things that made me so angry at this crazy thing. After several years of this, I realize that the things that I refused to consider did provide relief if I just used them. So I encourage you to find the things that make you feel better, and remember that the stresses you are dealing with are normal for some people, but for us, "normal" can be excrutiating. Good luck in making sense of it all, and do try and find a little time for yourself where you can regain some balance and control.
Posted 3/19/2009 1:08 PM (GMT 0)
I am taking water therapy now, first time I hurt a lot after but the second time they told me to keep doing gentle stretches after I left. It made a huge difference. I also think on small level it may be helping. Stress seems to always make it worse. You are allowed to hide your head in the sand right now for your own health. I know how hard that can be at times. I hope things get a little better and you have a better day.
Posted 3/19/2009 2:33 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Monica, you are going to be OK! Your thoughts are racing!

The economy has hit my family and friends also- My BIL has taken a cut in pay and has been down to a four day work week since Oct., my girlfriends husband just got laid off last week and he will be getting only $350 unemployment a week for a family of 5, my step-brother owns his own business and has not drawn a personal paycheck this year. I am fighting Soc. Sec. Disability and start in the negative every month, but I have made it this far! Didn't mean to write a book with this paragraph, but just to let you know how many people are affected by this- 

Stress is a BIGGIE for me too- I can almost become frozen where I can't function and in lots of pain-pain-pain! I fill my days with as many positive things I can. The support and wonderful group here is how I start. Then it's on to business in what needs to be taken care of errands, paperwork, light housework and busy myself to take my mind off the pain and worries. I make sure I walk everyday, I can't walk real far but it does help the pain. I fatigue easily, and by late afternoon/eve. this body is done like you said. I think it's normal for you to be exhausted by afternoon with all that is going on.

And use all the resources you can for financial help- I would have gone under if it was not for getting assistance.

Pretty soon we are going to have to start an "economy" support group on this forum the way things are going.  shocked   Hang in there! GamJill

  

Posted 3/19/2009 3:55 PM (GMT 0)
Monica I'm so sorry your hubby lost his job. It is so hard to keep the stress of life from affecting fibro or health in general. Don't feel alone with dealing with this the economy has had an impact on many of us on here, probably most of us in some way. I think you have been given some great advice on relaxing.

 

Everyone hang in there and things will get better.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

 

 

Posted 3/19/2009 6:54 PM (GMT 0)

Oh Monica, I'm so sorry you're husband lost his job.  As for the 18 yr old... they're HORRIBLE creatures to have around sometimes.  I'm scared too.  I left my job, because I couldn't handle working 60-70 hours a week anymore (I was the boss).  Now I can't find anything else.  about 50% of our friends and family are now unemployed. The economy is getting more and more scary everday.

I'm glad your starting water therapy.. it will help.  Especially if you can do it in a "therapy pool".

Just wanted to let you know, you're not alone.  I'm scared too.

Take care,

Posted 3/20/2009 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Donnaeil- I am looking forward to having the water therapy. I know it won't be easy at first. Yes, my hubby gets paid till the end of June plus gets unemployment. I know I do have to work on seperating myself from other peopls problems.

 

Miriam- I do pretty much feel that the stress is effecting me, I hope I can eventually figure out how to reduce some of it.  I like the idea of finding a quiet spot and talking to me and taking time out for "Monica".

 

Sera Smiles-Thank you for the santity check and for helping me to realize that I really do need to find things that sooth me that I enjoy that will help me.

 

Moonmatrix- I really do feel like I'm in the sand alot. I just can't allow myself to get as upset as I normally wood because I do realize what it does to me.

 

GamJill-Yes, you were telling it like it is about the ecomonmy being so bad and everyone feeling it, I know we are really are at one point or another. I noticed today I hung on till about 3 or so a little bit long until I was "done". I can only do what I can do.

 

Marlee-I am trying to hang in there. Nothing but great advice from everyone on here. Thanks, I know things will get better.

 

Pattipanda-I love my son dearly, but he is horrible right about now. It is so very scary. I'm sorry that you can't find anything else right now. I do feel better knowing I'm not alone!!

 

Thank You all for you warm thoughts and encouragement!! (Hugs)

 

 

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