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Posted 4/11/2009 1:25 AM (GMT 0)
My name is Renee and I have had Fibro for over 20 years now I was so glad to find this board and it only took me two days to get my stuff set up lol. I have been feeling frustrated ,as usaul, and find that it helps a great deal to talk to others 'who are walking the walk" I have found that my husband is having a hard time with it and it makes me feel sad he has his own problem as he is an active alcoholic and is getting worse which causes alot of stress which makes me feel worse at times. I have joined my local Fibro support group we meet at a local Hospital 1 x per month from sept till about june, no winter meetings thank goodness, we all have a great deal of respect for one another and understand if members are unable to make it our facilitator and founder fills us in by email or phone. Over the years it has been a comfort to talk to other sufferers get tips and suggestions from cleaning to cooking or not cleaning or cooking...you all know the deal...Thanks for being here
Posted 4/11/2009 1:30 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Rene,

Welcome to the fibromyalgia forum. I am so happy that you have joined us. You will find that this is a wonderful community. Many wonderful kind and compassionate members. And we try to throw a little humor in once in a while. It makes for such a better day.

There is a thread called fibro101. It is the second thread on the forum. If you get a chance look it over, it holds a lot of information. You will find it very interesting, I am sure.

Keep posting, as we as a group are here for you, understanding what you are going through, as you said, walk the walk, when we can.lol...

I hope that you have a fantastic Easter weekend. Know that we are all here for you whenever you need.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/11/2009 1:51 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks Karen I will do that
Posted 4/11/2009 5:26 PM (GMT 0)

Hi, Renee, and welcome!  I'm glad that you found us and joined it.  It's great that you have a fibro support group to go to, also.  For many of us, this is the only support we have.  But, I think  you will find that it is a wonderful place and you will feel comfortable here.

That's tough living with an alcoholic...and mighty stressful, too.  My brother was an alcoholic and I had to deal with him for most of my life.  It is sooo hard but I hope your hubby will decide to really get some help and get off that stuff.  It's poison to these people!  The stress certainly plays a big part in your pain.

Be sure to check out the Fibro 101 thread...the second thread on the forum.  There are links to good information about fibromyalgia.  You will learn a lot there.

Also, be sure to read back posts and ask questions.  We are here to help you.  I'm glad that you are here and I hope to hear more from you soon.

Sherrine 

Posted 4/11/2009 6:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Renee, my you do have a load to carry.  It is so nice you have found this forum, it has really helped me to have a place where I can vent & cry & I know everyone understands.  It helps me to be here when others are in need of some help or a kind word.  This world can beat us up & we need to have someplace to come to heal.

My first husband was an alcoholic & so I know what you are dealing with.  Stress & guilt are so part of the "dance" of the active alcoholic, & the main reason he can keep drinking with no guilt or shame of his own. I used to ask my 1st husband how he could continue to do the things he did with no regard for me or his children, but I didn't understand the dynamics of an alcoholic's family. You need to let that all go & for a change (I know you) take care of yourself. You both have very huge problems to deal with & you need to concentrate on you, easier said then done, huh?  I know but even letting a little stress go will help you so much.  One thing I know for sure is an alcoholic will only pick a strong person, a survivor, for a mate because they need someone strong to carry all the garbage & deal with the messes they make.  So I know you are strong, caring, loving & totally capable.  I am so happy to meet you, I hope you come here often & we get to know you better.  Hugs, Denise

 

Posted 4/11/2009 7:02 PM (GMT 0)

Hello & Welcome Renee!!

I'm so glad you joined in!!

My ex-husband was an alcoholic.  We were married for about 10 years.  I know what you're going through and I can totally relate to the stress.  Denise said alot of what I was going to say.  Its a tough road and coupled with fibro its no pinic.  I'll always love my ex, but we just couldn't live together anymore.  My current husband's ex-wife was an alcoholic too.  I think that's what brought us together.  We knew what it was like in our past lives and we didn't want to ever live that way again.  If you ever need to talk about it.. you will find you have very understanding people here.  Another thing I did when I was going through what you are going through was go to Alanon meetings and went to their chat rooms.  It really helped me learn to live with my ex and myself and understand what was going on in my life. 

Yes, stress only makes fibro worse.  Learning to de-stress is really hard.  I'm still learning.  We really try to help eachother when we're going through a really stressful time.. because we've all walked the walk (just like YOU said)

I'm glad you have a fibro group in your community.  I wish we had one here.. but I live in a pretty rural part of the world.  LOL, I'm the "leader type" so if I know me.. I'll get one started soon, now that the weather's breaking and we fibromites will feel safe and comfortable about getting out and about.

Again, I want to welcome you to the BEST forum on the internet.  I know you'll find wonderful caring people here.. so feel free to post and share with these fine folks.

Take care..

Posted 4/11/2009 8:35 PM (GMT 0)
My heart goes out to you. I was married to an alcholic for 7 years. It was beyond hard. Keep your head up, sounds like you are really dealing with things better than I did. And with Fibro. Hugs. Denise
Posted 4/11/2009 10:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Renee,

Welcome to our family! I am happy you've found us-this is a great place to find sharing and support and friendship.

I am sorry to hear about your husband's issues and the stress it causes you. I have alcoholics in my family also, and I know what a strain that can be on everyone. It's a tough issue, and unfortunately I don't have a lot of advice on how to deal with it, but I will be thinking of you and hoping that things start to get better.
Posted 4/14/2009 2:42 AM (GMT 0)
Just wanted to thank all who responded hmmmm kinda strange that we all had the two things in common huh? well I hope everyone had a good day today I myself slept till noon due to the two days before when I over did it......has anyone tried flax seed or alfalfa I was just reading this thing saying that some Fibro centers use them for pain.
Posted 4/14/2009 6:20 AM (GMT 0)
The stress of living with an alcoholic may contribute to the activation of our fibromyalgia. Who knows?

What I do know is that I hated living with my ex of 17 years. I left before he destroyed the children and for that I will always be grateful.

I also have addicted relatives whom I did not allow around my children. They know about addiction though. I hope they never succumb.

AlAnon is great and so is the fibro support group.

Welcome.

Donnaeil
Posted 4/14/2009 3:53 PM (GMT 0)
 Yes thank goodness for Alanon it has saved my sanity and I use my Odat book as if it were my bible. I always try to remeber to think before I act but not too too much LOL. I am greatful that I found this group as we all know it gets harder and harder to get out and its always good to have a place to go where you are understood especially during those lonley times. Thanks for being here.
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