It's been a day....

Sassy,

bless your heart, that is a hard problem to have to deal with. The first thing you need to do is fix your grandmothers account so that your hubby can't get access to the money any longer. As far as how you deal with your husband that would be a tough decision for me too. I would have a hard time ever being able to trust someone that would steal from an elderly person (especialy your own grandmother). I know you can't ignore what you think he has done because the stealing will get worst if you do. You just need to figure out how to show him that you are not going to tolerate or ignore what he has done. I think i know what i would do, but this has to be your decision. Good luck dealing with this & let us know how things turn out, we are here for you.

Tressia

Thanks so much for the encouragement. When I woke up this morning, I was praying that it was all just a really bad dream, but I know that it wasn't. The thing is that I have stolen before. I'm not pretending I am perfect. But I have never ever done anything like this. One of the biggest problems is that he is denying it left and right even though all the evidence is right there. My grandma is going to press charges, I think. Today she is going to call the phone company and let them know that I was not involved in any way. I just don't know what to do. I can't trust him. And I hate confrontations. I hate them with a passion. I just don't know how to deal with this. I feel so lost. I appreciate that I can come here and get advice and support and wonderful words of encouragement. This is so hard on me. Yesterday when I found all of this out, I was physically ill. I thought I might vomit on more than one occasion. My mind was racing and my hands were shaking. This is all just really stressing me out. I don't need this. And I just feel so terrible for my grandma. She has helped us out so much and now we find out that my husband has been stealing money from her. I called the phone company to see if maybe it was accidentally on auto pay. Because she has voluntarily payed the bill for us a few times in the past, but it wasn't. It had to be done manually each month. I wish I could just take my baby Alex and go on vacation. I need to get away from all of this and try to figure out what to do.

If it was done in the past, some companies just ask would you like to pay using this acct and gives you the last 4 digits. Is it possible that is was a mistake and he honestly did not realize it was her acct? I have paid my daughters and it has my acct #'s listed as options, had to warn her to make sure what acct # she is checking when paying. I know that is probably a long shot, but with my brainfog I could see myself doing something stupid like this. I honestly do not look at my accts closely and have noticed some charges that I can't place when i do look more closely. I was even enrolled in some magazine monthly thing and didn't notice for almost a year. It is a tough situation, I would make him do everything in his power to make restiitution for his actions quickly, whether intentional or not.

I am probably going to talk to him sometime soon, when Alex isn't here. I'm going to talk to him about what's been going on, and if it comes down to it, I am going to tell him that I want a separation. If he would tell me the truth, that would help. It wouldn't change what has been done, but it would be better if he would just come clean. He doesn't seem to realize the severity of this situation. He's acting like nothing is wrong and that nothing is going to happen. But he's wrong about that. I don't want to confront him alone, but I don't know who to ask to be a mediator. Maybe his dad's friend. If it is anyone in my family, then he is going to feel threatened. I am just so conflicted. I mean, I have done plenty of wrong things in my life. Some of them recent. But this is a huge deal. And he is acting like nothing is going on. I HATE this! I need a vacation.