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Posted 8/17/2010 6:32 PM (GMT 0)
I just filled out for intermittent FMLA (again). I don't think at this point I need complete short term, I just think I need to be able to take time off if I need it and not let it count against me. I hope this isn't the start of the end of my job. Have a funny feeling that more layoffs are coming anyway. I know that by doing FMLA I am raising a red flag around my name, but with the pain and no sleep. I'm just about a zombie right now. I am going to try taking my Ambien CR tonight at 7:00PM in hopes that I am sleeping by 11 or so. Last night I was up until 2:30 then the alarm clock rang out at 6. I feel sooooo bad.
Posted 8/17/2010 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Praying for ya.
Posted 8/17/2010 7:15 PM (GMT 0)
((( Hopegirl )))

Will be wishing good things and sending good vibes. Hope you can sort out a way to get the relief you need and be able to function more.
Posted 8/18/2010 10:38 AM (GMT 0)
So sorry you are feeling so bad. I know all of us at one time or another knows exactly how you feel. The main thing you need to do is take care of your health. I pushed and pushed to work and not give up until it just was so dibilitating I could not do it anymore. You sound like you are there too. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Life , love , health and a good place mentally is so important, so take care of you.

Hugs
Steph
Posted 8/18/2010 12:31 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry that life is so tough for you right now hope. I do understand what you are going through because I was experiencing the same thing at my job when I left. I just couldnt get up the energy to do a good job anymore and I left before they decided I was a liability. I hope you feel better soon.
Gentle Hugs
Shirley
Posted 8/19/2010 2:52 AM (GMT 0)
Thank You all for your responses. It's just hard. I could not go to work today. I e-mailed my boss at 7:30, put biofreeze on me like it was going out of style, and went back to bed and woke up at 4:30 PM. Just being so exhausted and in pain. Then I talked to my mother today and she said..."Your missing a lot of work aren't you?" My mom has always mad me feel guilty about things. I said, yes Mom I am, that is why I started paper work for FMLA to protect my job. I told her that I know how my job has been laying off people right and left, and that my job is not secure right now, so when I say that I am out and can't go to work.....its because I am that sick. I hope to be able to work a full day tomorrow. Wish me luck!!



-Monica
Posted 8/19/2010 3:06 AM (GMT 0)
I hope you start feeling better soon Hope. 'taking it one day at a time' you say... very wise words. It's difficult for other people to really understand how you're feeling. Although you'd never wish this on anyone, you'd like them to know what its like. Some support and security would be nice. I'm thinking of you and sending you strength. My partner often gets the impression that if he calls in sick, they think he's just making things up. Its very infuriating I am sure. He works 2 days a week in the evening, and from home as well in the afternoon. Mornings are just not an option at the moment. He's been let go by a teaching job recently, but in the end it was the best thing. The stress of not being able to sleep properly and now knowing how you were going to feel the next day, than having to get up early to teach high school students... it made him worse.
Look after yourself and good luck!
Lolotte
Posted 8/19/2010 3:21 AM (GMT 0)

hopegirl said...
Then I talked to my mother today and she said..."Your missing a lot of work aren't you?" My mom has always mad me feel guilty about things. I said, yes Mom I am, that is why I started paper work for FMLA to protect my job. I told her that I know how my job has been laying off people right and left, and that my job is not secure right now, so when I say that I am out and can't go to work.....its because I am that sick.

Please try not to accept the guilt she is handing toward you. You don't deserve it. You don't need it. It is inappropriate for her to give that out.
Posted 8/19/2010 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
Its so very quiet in here today, you could here a pin drop. Most of the people left in the office are at a meeting off location this morning. My boss is in, he did say Good Morning, but nothing since. I know he is not happy with the time I'm missing. I think more layoffs are coming as well. I've said my prayers and made my peace. If it happens it happens. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.   Happy moments, praise God.   Difficult moments, seek God.   Quiet moments, worship God.   Painful moments, trust God.   Every moment, thank God.
Posted 8/19/2010 3:12 PM (GMT 0)
My thoughts are with you.....
Posted 8/19/2010 4:41 PM (GMT 0)
Keeping you in my prayers that you get your FML and don't get laid off.

I know it's hard coming to work when you feel like crap.
Posted 8/19/2010 6:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hopegirl, I'm not sure what the paperwork is that you're filling out but I hope it gets you what you need. I really struggled with the idea of going on disability at work, but I just wasn't able to function anymore...every day was endless hours of being in pain while trying to stay on top of the needs of the executives I supported without them knowing i was in pain.

I was encouraged by work to go on disability as my role was being merged into another group at work, and it was hinted that I might not have a role anymore. My boss suggested taking the disability for as long as I need it, and if the day comes I'm ready to come back, they will do everything they can to find a place for me.

I hope that you find lots of good people as you go thru this process...people who will treat you with respect and who will go out of their way to help you. Don't be embarrassed to need help...you're doing a favour for those of us who genuinely enjoy helping others!!

hugs,
Pam
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