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Posted 1/5/2011 5:56 PM (GMT 0)
I am quite frustrated and depressed this morning. I've been in a flare for over a week now and my symptoms are slowing building up. I woke up very dizzy this morning. My face (my hubby agreed too) looks swollen. I don't know what is causing that. My whole body is hurting and I've been having muscle spasms since I woke up. Of course, it's raining outside and my dad is coming today to visit for a few days. My period is due in a few days so that's not helping things at all either. My birthday is on the 15th of this month and we're gonna be back in Atlanta that weekend because my hubby has a business meeting there. My husband wants to get my friends all together to help celebrate my birthday. When I mentioned all this to a friend, she informed me that I needed to pick a place where she can bring her bratty kid with her because "It's so hard to find a sitter". And how childless couples just don't understand that difficulty. If I can't pick a place suitable for her, her husband, and kid, that they just might not be able to come. I love how I am supposed to accomadate her needs when it's my birthday. I think I'm gonna pick a stripclub just for spite. Sorry to rant on but I am feeling very low right now. Thanks so much for listening.
Posted 1/5/2011 6:31 PM (GMT 0)
The rain is probably really playing into why you are feeling so lousy.  And, when you feel lousy, you get depressed.  Oh, I've been there.  I have a several month flare every summer.  I don't look forward to the flare but I do look forward to summer.  Go figure!  shocked

 

On your birthday, pick a place that YOU want to go to and that your hubby and family want to go to.  You will have plenty of friends there along with your family.  You would really resent having it some place you didn't want just to accomodate your friend and that could spoil your party for you.  She needs to find a babysitter or miss the party.  The child is her responsibility...not yours....so don't feel bad about that.  You can visit her another time.  Besides, your party probably isn't a good place to have children...especially if you are holding it in the evening.  I've been invited to weddings that ask that no children come so they don't disrupt the ceremony, etc.  That is not unheard of.  I love children, raised three children of my own,  and used to be an elementary school teacher but there is a time and a place for children to attend.  Adult parties aren't one of them.  So, if your friend wants to come, she needs to get a sitter.  I always did.

 

I burst out laughing when you said you might have it in a stripjoint!  tongue

That was sooo funny!  Don't stress yourself over this either.  Do what you want to do on your special day.

 

Sherrine

Posted 1/5/2011 6:38 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Georgiabred,

I can 100% relate! I woke up feeling very crummy this morning. Exhausted, dizzy, horrible pain and that electric feeling through my muscles accompanied by spasms. I thought I slept well last night but apparently not. I know I overdid it a few days ago in preparation for our house guests. My sister-in-law and niece are in town, they came in yesterday and are in until Sunday! Quite a long trip and we will be watching my niece from Friday to Sunday. Our house is not child proof and it's a little nerve racking having our 2 year old niece tearing through the place. I am also getting my period and that never helps things. I always get worse around that time, it's like a double curse.

As far as your friend is concerned, I would take the approach "tough poop". If she can't or is unwilling to get a sitter than she either won't come, her husband can stay home with their child or they'll bring her kid. I am also a childless couple and I don't think it's not understanding the difficulty, it's certain people with children thinking that the world should revolve around them. I think it's very unfair of your friend to ask that of you. One of my closest friends is like that and it just exhausts me. Over the summer I finally had to throw up my hands and say enough. I can't keep pleasing her at the expense of my feelings and my health. I have enough to worry about and it's exhausting enough to to do what I need to do that I don't need to accomodate friends that can't see it's not about them. I completely feel for what you're going through, especially while in a flare. It's very tough.

Happy Early Birthday though! Hopefully your flare will be done by then so you can really enjoy it :)
Posted 1/5/2011 8:02 PM (GMT 0)
I would tell her that my dear hubby is responsible for the party, the where and the what. This would take the stress off you and she would have to accomodate the party, not the other way around.
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