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Posted 5/25/2011 11:45 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone,


I've just had an awfull day and an even more awfull night.

Work has been very stressfull yesterday (than again it ALWAYS is, which makes me wonder how long before i'll have to change) Everybody wanted everything done at the same time again, i'm telling you nobody here as ever heard of organisation!

My last flare up only ended a couple of days ago and i allready feel a new one coming up.

My right leg and hip have been absolutely killing me! I reckoned i'lld have an early night yesterday but as soon as i hit the pillow everything cramped up and i could not for the love of me find a decent position to sleep. I ended up tossing and turning for hours...

When my fiancee went to bed he was surprised seeing me fully awake and again he couldn't get it. This is starting to really tick me off.

I've very carefully discussed my pain with him and my suspicions of what it might be and his response was very dry, he just said: Well but there is always something wrong with you aint there? How lovely.... I swear at that moment i just wanted to kick or pinch him somehow just to make him feel a fraction of what i was feeling at that moment.

Since that first conversation i have not had the courage let alone the energy to take it up with him again. Now if i mention my arm beeing sore or ask him not to lean on my neck or stuff like that he responds in complete and utter surprise as if i hadn't told him anyhting at all.

I wonder is he in denial or something? Cause i don't get at all why he is playing it so coldly.... He either doesn't take it serious at all or he thinks i'm blowing a sprain or something our of proportion allthough i have very clearly told him that this pain has been with me quite some time now and that it doesn't seem to be going anywhere...

All this stuff is causing everything to be tight and i just can not seem to concentrate on anything other than my pain and my worries!

I've taken two plain old Dafalgan tablets today but to no avail. (i don't know how similar american meds are anyway, don't know if we get all the same brands, in that case Dafalgan is just an over the counter pain med)

Thanks for letting me vent, i realy had to let this al flow out...

Fiona

Posted 5/25/2011 5:06 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Fiona,

This DD really is hard to explain to people and loved ones have heard us complain about this and that for so long. Have you read the fibro101 thread yet? If I could just remember what I wanted to say to you, grrrr, ...sorry I will try to regroup and in the meantime hopefully you will check out mentioned thread.
Posted 5/25/2011 5:12 PM (GMT 0)
I think you were possibly going to mention the spoons :)
I finally read that today, maybe ten minutes after posting the above.
(for whatever reason the link to the spoon theory wasn't working on my hope pc so i had to check it at work)
I think i might be handing some spoons to him, if that doesn't work i can still hit him with the spoon :)
Posted 5/25/2011 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
So, my husband was the same way for years. I told him years ago I probably had fibro. He shook his head and told everyone that I read diseases on the computer then tell ppl i have symptoms. Used to make me so mad! When I finally got the official diagnosis, he apparently did some research on his own. I didn't tell him much about it, figuring he'd ask if he wanted to know. Well, the day after the diagnosis he admitted to looking it up and he had this horribly devastated look on his face and said "I looked that up and it says it never goes away!" I looked at him and said "Yep, it's kind of like your diabetes. There is no cure, but it can be managed." Since that day he's been SO SWEET to me. I don't know what website he read, but when we have dinner, he now gets up before I can move and takes the plates to the kitchen (there's only the 2 of us so we eat in the living room). He doesn't complain if I don't do housework. He now goes out of his way to ask me if I need something, and the day I slept 18 hrs as I was adjusting to meds, he didn't give me that "are you ever going to get up" speech.

I think the actual diagnosis made all the difference. No longer was it just me who believed it. I'd had 2 doctors suggest it and a 3rd confirm it. Plus, he may have mentioned it to someone who was familiar with it, I'm not sure. We've been married over 24 years, so he's seen the progression, but used to think I was just "Sickly". While I'm more 'Scared' now that the diagnosis is official, it's made some things alot better.

So there is hope. Be patient with him. Yes, the spoons might do it, and
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