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Posted 12/20/2011 5:04 AM (GMT 0)
Sometimes we are our own worst critics. The fact is...there are some things we just are not able to do anymore. We did not ask for chronic pain...it is not our fault that fibro chose us. Feeling guilty or inadequate are things we place on ourselves...we cannot let co-workers, friends or family run our emotions. We know who we are and what we deal with on a daily basis. Be proud of all accomplishments. We are strong!

We can not let chronic pain make us feel less worthy or destroy our self image. We are good, caring individuals who can still hope and dream and lead good lives.

Being kind and loving to ourselves is empowering...it helps us help ourselves...it nurtures our self image and we are worth it! yeah

Hugs, Robin :-)

Posted 12/20/2011 1:49 PM (GMT 0)
It's a good thing to remember, especially now when we are seeing family and friends who might not understand. Even when they do not get it, we do, and we are doing the best we possibly can.

So, RAH for us.
Posted 12/20/2011 1:56 PM (GMT 0)
Very well said. None of us asked for any of our chronic illnesses, so I'm not sure why we ever allow guilt to enter into the equation. Some days for some of us, it is a major accomplishment just to get out of bed in the morning and face the day. yeah
Posted 12/20/2011 2:26 PM (GMT 0)
I so agree but we have family coming friday and sunday and I am expected to be on and am really struggling with severe fatigue. My hubby is bipolar manic and gets furious and slams pots and pans around because I can't get out of bed. I have to be the hostess but I can barely shower rightnow. My family think it is either rudeness or melodrama even tho they say they understand.

How am I going to make it, I just want to curl up in the dark. i MADE XMAS cookieS AT 5 THIS AM AND 3 LOADS OF LAUNDRY(oops caps) and he got mad that the dryer had clothes in it still. I'm sorry but a week ago I was so exciteed and had great plans and now I am dreading sseeing anyone

Thanks for the vent
Maggie
Posted 12/20/2011 3:35 PM (GMT 0)
Excellent thing to remember! Esp. now.

Maggie, I'm so sorry you have to deal with your husband's wrath just because you can't do it all to his liking...that's just not right!

Debbie
Posted 12/20/2011 4:21 PM (GMT 0)
Maggie, you are so entitled to resting as needed...be good to yourself...you are so worth it, my friend. It is OK to take care of yourself...I'm sorry your husband is trying to bully you. Do what you need to do to help yourself. Your husband's illness is trying to control you...don't let it! By taking care of you, you will have more strength to deal with everything else.

Hope you can get some well desrved rest :)

Hugs, Robin
Posted 12/20/2011 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
Maggie

I came across a lovely quote, I think everyone needs to see this some days.

"I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being." ~ Hafiz

Sometimes just showing up is the best we can do. Whatever you offer your guests is offered with all you have, it should be enough.

Freddygirl
Posted 12/20/2011 6:58 PM (GMT 0)
I am at the airport getting ready to go home after visiting the in-laws. I insisted, this time, that we get a hotel and a rental car, and I am so glad I did. My family has fibro, and understands when I say I can't do something or need to sit down. They usually do too!!!

But my in-laws don't get it, and it could be slightly stressful at times. I mean, they know I have a chronic condition, but that does not necessarily guarantee understanding. But I just do the best I can, and let the rest of it be.

Though I did notice myself getting a little snarky this am, at the end of the trip. let it go, everyone is different, and just spending the time together is the point. Hippo Holidaze, all yaw'l!
Posted 12/21/2011 12:00 AM (GMT 0)
I love the quote freddy, love it!! And knowing y'all understand gives me strength to withstand the slight sidelong glances when I retire early...also they all like their cocktails and I don't drink so I just wait for them to get sloshed and they don't even know I'm gone-LOL!!!!

My stepdaughter and hubby treat me like a queen ,not allowed to do anything so, really I don't have anything to worry about....AND hubby did alot of cleaning today while I did laundry, even teenager cleaned her room...all that angst over nothing-lol... oh well, I always say "if I ain't *****in', I ain't breathing" haha

Happy holidays to all
Maggie
Posted 12/21/2011 2:11 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Maggie,

I am glad that the worrying was for nothing. One moment at a time, remember that. Try to enjoy yourself. I like when you said after they get sloshed they wont even notice I am gone. You can sneak off to the comfort of your bed, and be bright eyed and bushy tailed in the morning (after a few cups of coffee).

I wish you the best this holiday season. Deck the halls. lol... Have a good one!!!

Hugs, Karen

PS Good thread!!!
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