My mother and our family knew it was her time. We, 21 of us, lived together for the last two weeks of her life. During that time we laughed, cried, and got on each others nerves. We also took turns sitting with mom and going thru her things. She sorted out what she wanted us to have as far as pics and keepsakes but all the rest was left for after her passing. We didn't really fight over it because we all (except my baby sister) lived hundreds of miles away and had no way to haul it home. And, our father was still there and had need of it too.
I understand the grief though. My grandmother was in a nursing home when she passed. When my father and his family got together to go thru her things, there was nothing left but junk. They had already, thru time, removed all the things they wanted, but my father, who lived several states away did not have that luxury. He was very hurt that they went thru it while his mother was still alive and without even asking him what he might like to have. Its terrible and its sad. Some people are so materialistic and have no concern or thought for others or their feelings.
I am so sorry that you are there and seeing this. But, the important thing is that you are there for your father. Just make sure to take some time out each day for yourself.
I will keep you and your father in my thoughts and prayers.
Post Edited (mscrowbar) : 2/4/2012 12:35:13 PM (GMT-7)