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Posted 3/14/2012 8:25 PM (GMT 0)
I work full time, plus volunteer at numerous things that require physical movement each week ( as in bending down, squatting down, standing for periods of time) - today I stayed home from work due to my back pain and all over pain, but mostly my back.  I was shaking and nauseated from the pain.  I rarely stay home from work because of pain.  (Rarely means maybe 2 or 3 times a year) 

I am bent over today when I walk and it feels like my left leg is going to give out.

DH asked if I was feeling any better this afternoon, when I replied no, he made the comment " are you going to stay home the rest of your life" 

killing isn't an option, but ........

and no, I don't say anything, I ignore him.  I would say he doesn't have a clue, but I know he does. 

I know we all have had things like this said to us.  But it does help to vent.

Posted 3/14/2012 10:44 PM (GMT 0)
Oh wow, poor you! I hear your physical and emotional pain. Yes, how unfortunate that we have to deal with people and family members who are insensitive and it's okay to say, that hurts! <warm hugs> to you, Council Lady
Posted 3/15/2012 2:00 AM (GMT 0)
(((gentle hugs)))
Posted 3/15/2012 12:00 PM (GMT 0)
thanks - a good nights sleep helps, not quite in so much pain physcially, and dh worked all night. when you are wiped out physically, it is much harder to deal with emotionally. I had enough trouble emotionally handling my physical pain before his comment. Today I'm going to work, bent over and in pain, but going to work. Everyone have a good day.
Posted 3/15/2012 4:42 PM (GMT 0)
Council Lady,

I'm glad you feel somewhat better today. Hopefully, DH will get around to apologizing for his remark. Or has he already?

Debbie
Posted 3/15/2012 11:39 PM (GMT 0)
not in the "I'm sorry....etc" he really doesn't know how to say those words, but he did say he wished there was something he could do to take my pain away.
Posted 3/16/2012 12:45 AM (GMT 0)
Geez, are you sure we aren't married to the same guy?  LOL

That sounds exactly like something my DH (and that doesn't mean dear) would say. In fact, he has said it.  And not even any attempt at an apology.

Hugs to you, feel better!!!!

Posted 3/16/2012 1:19 AM (GMT 0)
Yeah, my hubby often gets around a direct apology that way, too. But....what the heck....at least he is acknowledging that you do have real pain, and that's crucial!

Debbie
Posted 3/16/2012 3:07 AM (GMT 0)
A girl can DREAM! :)
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