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Posted 5/3/2012 5:33 PM (GMT 0)
Just a quick check in.

Things are not good and we are nearing the end. She has cancer, and her body rejected the donor. She also has had fibro for a long time, which is making the pain worse. When I got here, there was all the disease issues, but also the problem of being unable to move from a hospital bed and the pain/stiffness attached to that. She is now on morphine, which we hope helps.

I stayed up for the night shift Tuesday night, and got through with some codeine and lots of water. Right now, things are not too bad, considering. I am very off balance, but the pain isn't that noticeable. I think because of adrenaline, or something. I slept very hard last night.

Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts.
Posted 5/3/2012 5:51 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry to hear what is happening w/ your DS. I know the toll it's taking on you and your family. I'm glad you are remembering to take care of yourself at this time. Pls try to eat something, too. It will help you keep up your strength.

I hope the morphine helps your sister, it will be a blessing.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

God bless all of you.  Alice.

Posted 5/3/2012 5:59 PM (GMT 0)
I am so very sorry about your sister...such a difficult time for you and your family. I pray that the morphine helps her pain. Do take care, sending prayers for you and your family.

Hugs, Robin

Posted 5/3/2012 9:08 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry, too. There's just nothing harder. It must seem utterly unreal to you.

When my dad was near the end, a combination of morphine and Ativan made him very paranoid, and lose all touch with reality. With all the red tape, it took days to get the change affected. Once he was off Ativan, things were better, but it also helped to switch from morphine to methadone.

He never did have the pain-free last days I had hoped for - and had assumed would be attainable with the right combination of meds. His hospice nurse said that, unfortunately, that's not always the case.

So, in case your sister is not being helped as she should....there are alternatives. Of course you already know this, but just a reminder. I hope you can pull through this without too much pain.

Debbie
Posted 5/3/2012 9:15 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad you are there for her. Having family around on those last days makes a world of difference. When I was sittting with my dad on his last days it was amazing how our own health does so well. I was so surprised how well my own body did under that kind of stress. Taking shifts is the best thing you can do. This way is doesnt get others so so sick and worn down. Your only human and you have to take care of your needs also. If you dont you wont be much help to others. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Posted 5/4/2012 11:53 AM (GMT 0)
WOW!  This has to be so difficult for you and your family.  It's good that you are there for her and other family members.  She'll soon be at peace.  Many prayers for you and your entire family.

 

Sherrine

Posted 5/4/2012 4:12 PM (GMT 0)
My sister died early this morning. My brother's daughter and myself are here for my family, and my BIL's siblings are all here, which helps.

I had left the hospital late last night, because I knew if I stayed my health would deteriorate. When my BIL woke me at 4:15, I knew I couldn't go, because of the sleeping med.

Thanks for the thoughts, all. We do the best we can. Some people get better, others do not.
Posted 5/4/2012 4:40 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear this.  I know people like to say she is at peace...and she is!  She is happy, full of joy, and has a new body with no illness, pain, or even tears.  It's the people that are left behind that suffer.

 

Many prayers are heading your way, Myself.  I'm so sorry you have lost your sister.  Please accept my condolences. 

 

Sherrine

Posted 5/4/2012 11:55 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear of your sister's passing. I wish I had the words to take away your pain. It is so hard to lose someone you love so much.

I would suggest that you pay attention to your body, there will be a lot of things asked of you. Take care of you. She is mercifully out of pain, it is now her loved ones who are left to grieve. Take all the time to you need to grieve. For most ppl, it takes time, a lot of time.

You and your family are in my prayers.

God bless.  Alice.

Posted 5/5/2012 1:03 AM (GMT 0)
Myself- I am sorry to hear about your sister. I am glad you did get there in time to see her before her time. May God comfort you and your family.
Posted 5/5/2012 7:24 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss! I am glad that you could be with your sister toward the end of her life. I am sure it meant the world to her to have you with her.
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